How I Improved My Marriage All By Myself
By Courtney Elder, Laura Doyle Certified Coach
A Smile a Day Kept Divorce Away
Have you ever met someone who just radiates positivity? Someone so happy and wonderful it makes you cringe?
That wasn’t me.
If you had known me BCE (Before Coaching Era), you’d know that I always had a complaint.
From the house not being clean enough to the kids being too loud, anything that happened in my life always had a negative spin.
My husband, on the other hand, is the eternal optimist. So whenever I had a complaint, it really rubbed him the wrong way.
Sometimes my issue would be about something general, but often it was about him or something he had done. He could never measure up to the idealistic image I had for how he should act.
For instance, it seemed like common sense that because my husband stayed home with our kids and I was out working, it was his job to maintain the house. For me, that included keeping it very clean every single day, having dinner on the table when I got home, and listening to all of my complaints about work.
Honestly, it’s pretty embarrassing to admit that’s how I felt, but years ago, I really did think those things were his job!
Do you think I had an intimate marriage? I sure didn’t. I was constantly unhappy, and he felt berated because he never measured up.