A Second Chance at Love By Darlene Davis
Have you ever felt like you’ve been given a second chance at something? Or have you found yourself wishing that you could have another chance at something that has been left unresolved or incomplete in your life?
In 2000, I was blessed with a second chance. A “do-over” with my first love and the father of our only child. We had been apart for almost 20 years and in that time, neither of us had married or had other children. Although we were very committed to making this renewed love work, like every relationship, life challenged us with many bumps in the road.
I knew that I had the right man to make me happy forever, but I didn’t quite know how to have the relationship with him that would last just as long. Then, just when I needed it, I was given a beacon of light. Her name was Laura Doyle and she had written a book called The Surrendered Wife. I watched her television interview and listened intently as she described her husband and her relationship. I could not believe how it sounded exactly like mine.
Who was this woman? What were these 6 Intimacy Skills? I HAD to know. This time, I knew that I wanted the intimate, passionate, and peaceful relationship she talked about. But at this point in my life, I was a strong, independent woman. Did I really want to “surrender?” As I read her book, I laughed, I cried, and I related to every word. I realized that surrendering was not at all what I had envisioned … it was really a beautiful gift that I could give to this man that I loved.
Not every aspect of becoming a Surrendered Wife was easy to accept. I realized that I was controlling and tried to manipulate my husband to get my way. That part I wasn’t thrilled with, but I was willing to do the work to change it. So I learned how to honor my husband and his choices even if I didn’t agree with them. I made sure that I acknowledged and appreciated him when he did something for me no matter how big or small, such as him mowing the lawn so that I could spend more time in my flower gardens. Above all else, I learned how important it was to respect my husband and why doing so is vital to a healthy, happy relationship.
Surrendering has made me a better woman, which allowed my husband to be a better man, a wonderful father and unbelievable grandfather. I have treasured the second chance that I was given to have a truly meaningful, intimate marriage with my husband. Laura wants to help you have the same kind of intimacy, passion and peace in your relationship. To learn how, apply for a Discovery Session here.
