What Keeps You from Being Your Best Self
How to Improve Without Having to Work So Hard
You can be standing in a crowd of thousands and still feel like the only person on the planet.
It doesn’t matter whether you’re married or single–loneliness can hit hard in the midst of the busiest seasons.
Nothing can make you feel more isolated and insignificant than feeling like no one gets you–like no one understands the thoughts going through your head and the weight sitting on your shoulders.
Being lonely is not conducive to growing and becoming your best self, but sometimes it’s not easy to find the community that can support you having the breakthrough you’re aching for.
Maybe it’s just finding the time for a heartfelt conversation with a friend who really gets you.
Maybe it’s discovering a mentor or coach who can offer the wisdom you want.
Maybe it’s breaking out of your comfort zone in order to meet some new faces–faces who will cheer you on and maybe even become your friends.
And I’m giving away something fun that will help you, so be sure to read to the end.Read More›
It’s Transforming Him Too
Working on you is so important.
You are a treasure and it is worth the investment of your time, and even your resources, to figure out who you are, what your true desires are, and how to ignite your feminine spirit.
The truth is, the growth and transformation you see in yourself will transform your man, too.
I want you to watch this short video. This is a clip from our “Man Panel” at our last Cherished for Life Weekend. I love the stories of transformation we hear from women around the world daily, but I cherish the stories from the men, too.
Watch this:Read More›
My Husband is a Narcissist
The Unconventional Guide to Being Happily Married to The Self-Absorbed
Being married to someone who’s preoccupied with his own attributes is lonely and tiring.
When you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, hypersensitivity is the norm.
It’s frustrating when you make a comment and he gets defensive at the perceived attack when you didn’t intend one.
Narcissists are known for having challenges in sustaining satisfying relationships.
Of course they are—they lack empathy and are busy building up themselves to be more important than they are.
Can being married to a narcissist ever be gratifying?
Can someone so self-absorbed ever bring the tenderness, thoughtfulness and admiration that every wife craves and deserves?Read More›
What Men Want in a Relationship
The 5 Relationship Hacks All Women Should Know But Don’t
What do men want most from the women they love?
If you’re asking yourself that, it’s probably because your guy seems grumpy, distant or depressed. Maybe he’s all three.
Early on in my marriage, when everything was a struggle, I thought I was a pretty good wife.
And since my marriage was miserable, that meant that he was the problem.
But now I realize I was looking at everything through my female eyes, which meant I didn’t understand his perspective. At all.
Figuring out what my husband wanted and what made him feel loved blew open the whole mystery for me.
It was like traveling to another country and wondering why everyone was so hostile, and then learning that waving “hello” is their gesture for “drop dead.”
Now that I know what makes men feel loved, my marriage is sweet and fun.
It was easier than I thought. I was making it too hard, until I discovered these simple habits.
These are the things your man really wants, and will inspire him to desire, cherish and adore you 10X over.Read More›
My Husband Does Not Make Enough Money
5 Steps to Inspire Him to Become More Prosperous
What I’m going to share with you is powerful, whether he’s out of work, retired, or just under-earning.
But it is not at all obvious. In fact, it’s completely counter-intuitive. At least, it was for me, and has been for many of the women I’ve worked with.
It took me many years to figure this out, and even when I did, it was hard to believe.
But now that I’ve seen it work–not just in my own marriage, but in thousands of marriages all over the world–I can’t deny that it’s ridiculously effective.
The results I see are husbands starting businesses, or growing their businesses, and getting promotions—three in one year, sometimes––or winning sales contests and getting raises.
And it was all because their wives took this scary, but enormously gratifying, approach.Read More›
How to Communicate with Men
5 Life Hacks for Communicating with Men So They Hear You and Get You
Everybody knows communication is the key to a good relationship. That’s obvious.
But what if it isn’t?
I’m a good talker. I started talking early, and I never really shut up.
Growing up, my sport was Scrabble. I even majored in communication in college.
So when there were big problems in my marriage just a few years in, I knew it wasn’t me who wasn’t communicating properly.
The problem was clearly him. I noticed he didn’t even like to communicate. He didn’t listen, and he didn’t want to talk.
When I asked him how he felt, he said, “Hungry.”
That’s when I realized I was in for a long “’til-death-do-us-part.” Divorce started to sound pretty tempting.
Miraculously, I then learned a few things about communication that they never taught me in school. And the funny thing is that after I learned them, my husband became a much better communicator.Read More›
Should Beyonce and Sharon Osborne Get a Divorce?
3 Ways to Keep Your Sanity and Self-Respect with a Cheating Husband in the Hizzle
Beyonce’s new video album came first, riddled with not-so-subtle clues that Jay-Z may have cheated on her.
These were the lemons she’d been handed, and since Beyonce is nobody’s victim, she processed her personal tragedy through her creative self-expression as an artist, aptly naming her album Lemonade.
Her message of empowerment was loud and clear, and the couple made no announcement of a split.
Next, Sharon Osbourne showed up to host her show, The Talk, holding a tall glass of lemonade, ready to spill about the serious defects in her marriage that prompted her to separate from Ozzy, including his alleged affair.
Maybe you didn’t release an album about it, or dish on a talk show about the betrayal in your marriage, but if you’ve been through it, you know how Beyonce and Sharon feel: furious, devastated, shocked, and unsure of what to do next.
Shouldn’t a self-respecting wife throw the bum out…even though she’ll have to break up her family in the process?
Or should she forgive him…even though she’s letting him get away with treating her that way?
What should Beyonce and Sharon do? And if you’ve been cheated on, what should you do?Read More›
Husband in Midlife Crisis
How to Keep Your Connection, Your Cool and Your Dignity
If you’ve ever experienced your husband taking what looks like a sudden turn off of family life lane and speeding down immature, selfish highway—possibly in a new sports car—then you’ve probably suspected him of having a midlife crisis.
Maybe he stopped telling you where he is, or suddenly isn’t coming home at the usual time.
Perhaps he complains that he’s disappointed with life, and wonders why he hasn’t gotten what he wanted.
He seems to be throwing away everything you’ve built together.
He’s grumpy, depressed, and suddenly irresponsible, which is making you furious.
No amount of talking to him is creating the desired effect, as he goes along on his self-absorbed way.
He may even be saying devastating things like, “I don’t love you anymore,” or, “I don’t know if I want to be in this marriage.” It’s painful.
You may even wonder if he’s also given up on his vows.
That’s pretty serious, and terrifying.
Unless you know what to do.
How to Get My Husband to Be Healthier
If you read one article about how to motivate him, read this one.
Control and intimacy are opposites. You can’t have intimacy when you’re trying to control the person you’re with, and if you want to be in control, the intimacy will vanish.
It’s one or the other. Like light and dark.
And everybody knows you can’t control other people, anyway—not your kids, not your spouse, not anyone but yourself.
But that doesn’t stop us mere mortals from trying. Sometimes we don’t even know we’re trying to control. We think we’re just being caring, and trying to help.
Husbands are too smart to fall for that, though. They know we’re trying to control them when we “remind” them to put on their sunscreen, drink more water, take their medicine or eat a veggie now and then.
They resist that kind of thing with all their might. That’s just human nature.
So that’s never going to help your husband be healthier.
But that’s not to say you have no influence. As a wife, you have plenty.Read More›