Laura Doyle Certified Relationship Coach
Hot, Cool, Explosive: My Journey as a Surrendered Wife
Many people laugh when they hear our courtship story, as it is probably outside “the norm.” Joe and I met in person after a three-week online conversation and married just three months later. Although it was an icy day in January, our wedding was full of warmth, family, and friends. My husband was then suddenly deployed for military duty, and we spent nine months of our first year of marriage apart. However, the distance only strengthened our affection for each other, and our reunion was full of laughter, passion, and warmth—like our relationship in general.
After a few years, however, our marriage began to cool. My employment required frequent travel. Being apart so much, my husband and I soon resembled roommates more than a married couple. I desperately sought to figure out how to rekindle the flame in our marriage. I took my search online and found numerous resources but nothing that really resonated with me. That is, until I found Laura Doyle’s work. I was drawn to Laura because of her clear focus on women. I also appreciated her emphasis on gratitude, something that has always been important to me.
Laura’s book The Empowered Wife was a game changer for me. I was certain that Laura had been secretly following me around for a few years! I desired a marriage that truly
allowed me to feel cherished, loved and adored, and I felt that this was the path to fulfilling that desire.
When I began practicing the Six Intimacy Skills™, my first challenge was self-care. I had to learn to be intentional about self-care, or it would quickly fall by the wayside. As a professional, a wife and a mom, my schedule is incredibly busy at times. However, I was thrilled to discover that when I did things that nourished me, my time expanded and not only was I happier, I was actually more productive as well.
Another breakthrough for me revolved around separating the arenas of work and home. In my career, I valued being strong, independent, and assertive. The Intimacy Skills taught me to leave my corporate badge at the office and to be my feminine, playful, vulnerable self with my husband.
It was the subtle displays of disrespect that needed the most attention from me. Speaking for my husband or finishing his sentences had become quite common, as I considered it to be helpful. As I studied the Intimacy Skills, I soon realized that he interpreted these things as disrespectful. When I began to respect my husband, he responded with a level of connection that I absolutely love. It is amazing what happened when I relinquished control of being “in charge” of everything. Joe now prepares meals. He does all of the laundry! He supports my need for self-care! He even plans dates!
Practicing the Intimacy Skills has transformed my marriage. The level of physical intimacy and emotional intimacy is absolutely incredible. The flame has not only been rekindled, it’s stronger than ever!
I am so thankful for marriage and the gifts I have received from being a part of this wonderful union. I cannot wait to see what the future holds for our marriage and the women that I will have an opportunity to serve.
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