Passionate and Playful in 2017

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Passionate and Playful in 2017

How to Finally Get Your New Year’s Resolution to Stick

If you’re anything like I was, this isn’t the first year you’ve resolved to improve your relationship.

I said it year after year because I was so stuck and didn’t know what to do to get my husband to pay attention to me, be more affectionate and be more responsible.

But 2017 can really be different. And I don’t mean because you’re going to try harder.

That never works. I’m tired just thinking about trying harder.

And going to counseling won’t make 2017 any better than 2016 has been. Most couples who get traditional marriage counseling end up separated within a year.

It won’t be because you decide to be more giving and supportive to your man. I know you hear that everywhere, but trust me that’s not the road you want to go down this year.

Not if you want your relationship to be amazing. And who doesn’t want that?

Here’s what will make your relationship vibrant and shiny in 2017.

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The 5 Best Date Movies That Will Save Your Relationship

Best Date Movies

The 5 Best Date Movies That Will Save Your Relationship

Science Shows RomComs Are Better for Relationships than Couples Therapy

Watching a movie may not seem like an effective way to improve your relationship, but it is.

If you’re lacking inspiration, motivation or hope right now, watching a film is not a bad way to get started with restoring playfulness and connection.

I know it sounds like I’m making this up, but researchers at University of Rochester are standing by me on this one.

They found that discussing 5 movies about relationships over a month helped newlyweds in the first 3 years of marriage cut the divorce rate by more than half, from 24% to 11%.

They even found it was more effective than therapist-led methods at keeping couples matrimonially minded. So this is better than counseling. Way better!

Plus it’s fun.

Therefore you have permission to plant yourself on the couch with snacks and the remote.

If anybody gives you grief about this, tell that person you’re doing it for the good of your relationship.

Tell ‘em I said to.

The researchers at Rochester and I have your back.

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My Husband Lies to Me

My Husband Lies to Me

My Husband Lies to Me

How to End the Deception and Have an Honest Relationship

If you’ve ever caught your husband lying about where he was, who he was with or what he was doing, you know how much it stings.

If the lies were to cover up his drinking or smoking or who he was with, it can shake you to your core.

After all, how much worse can it get than him lying to his wife? What else is he lying about?

Isn’t honesty a basic requirement of a marriage?

Your friends and family will likely add fuel to the fire by assuring you that him lying to you is a serious problem.

But before you give him an ultimatum or stop trusting him completely, consider an approach that will preserve the connection between you first.

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How I Make My Marriage Loving, Passionate and Easy

How to make your husband love you

The Secret to Avoiding Potholes and Detours on the Road to Connection

By Leticia Vasquez, Laura Doyle Certified Coach

I live in Amsterdam, where having a bike is crucial.

Bikes let me fly through the city and arrive at my destination in half the time that a car takes.

I enjoy the scenery at every stoplight and I’m engaged in the world around me. I never have to stress over unexpected detours or long lanes of traffic.

In the rare case that I get caught in a snag, I know how to be on my way quickly. And it’s great exercise to boot.

I can get around without a bike, no doubt. But I’ll face many obstacles and delays along the way, plenty of speed bumps and red lights.

When things are going at an acceptable snail’s pace, a road is closed, and I have to take a detour. I finally arrive at my destination to find nary a parking spot. I go round and round, frantically searching for one.

By the time I park, I’ve taken so many detours and had so many near misses that my mood is not so great.

Woe be the person who crosses my path at that point. I can’t be held responsible for my response.

Except that I can.

And I didn’t used to respond very well, as you’ll see from this embarrassing story.

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Husband Drinks Too Much

Husband Drinks Too Much

Husband Drinks Too Much

3 Ways to Get Him to Pick You Over Alcohol

Like anyone who drinks too much, your husband gets annoying and stupid when he’s intoxicated.

It might be nice if he never did that, but the bigger question is whether your man’s drinking is over the line.

Maybe he drinks every night, or drinks to oblivion on a regular basis, or gets mean when he drinks.

Maybe he’s missed work, family events, or had run-ins with the law from drinking. Maybe when he gets started he just keeps going on a bender for weeks.

Aren’t those indications that he’s got a problem?

And if he’s got a serious problem, then doesn’t that mean you have one too, since you’re married to a problem drinker, or maybe even an alcoholic?

It’s scary to think about, because we’ve all heard about the financial, emotional, and health problems drunks cause themselves and their families.

But does it have to be that way?

In my experience, wives have tremendous influence over their husband’s drinking. Knowing how to use that influence wisely can make a huge difference.

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(Actually, this works for any behavior you want to influence.)

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