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How I Saved My Marriage when He’s the One who Needed to Change

How I Saved My Marriage when He’s the One who Needed to Change

Dien Luu, Laura Doyle Certified Coach

It was actually my husband who first read The Surrendered Wife.

He said he thought it would help our relationship if I considered some of the ideas. I looked at the title, and I was so angry.

How dare he blame this on me!

I really thought that I was doing everything right. If only he would change, our life would be happier.

After moving to England, I often told him, “I gave up my life in Canada to be here with you. At least you could make an effort!” I was honest and blunt about my feelings, to the point of rudeness. But the more I told him how to be a good husband, the more distant he became.

Here’s what I didn’t know about how to have a peaceful, intimate marriage. Click To Tweet
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How to Make Marriage Fun

How to Make Marriage Fun

3 Ways to Restore Playfulness to Your Relationship

Remember when you first fell in love and you laughed together all the time?

You two were so silly back then!

It was so much fun to be together that you decided to become permanent partners in crime. Your relationship felt so light it filled you with hope and optimism.

So how did it get to be this heavy?

It could have been the pressures of the mad rush to get to work, pick up the kids, get the mortgage paid and the laundry folded. You aren’t alone!

Feeling overwhelmed is decidedly unfun. So is wondering if you picked the right partner to begin with. Either one can make your marriage tedious.

Fortunately, it doesn’t have to be drudgery.

Here are 3 ways to make your marriage fun starting today Click To Tweet
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The Common Dating Blunder that (Formerly) Kept Me Single

The Common Dating Blunder that (Formerly) Kept Me Single

By Katherine Wong-Velasco, Laura Doyle Certified Coach

I started dating when I was twelve years old. I thought I was the expert on men! I had twelve relationships before meeting my husband. However, they all had a way of not working out.

I made a wish that I would settle down with a good guy before I turned thirty. But my thirtieth birthday came and went, and nothing happened.

Here’s how I turned the tide and found my hero. Click To Tweet
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New Year, New You

New Year, New You

6 Reasons 2018 Will Be Your Best Relationship Year Yet

New Year’s Day is like a brand new notebook waiting to be filled with accounts of your organized, nutritious, fit, accomplished, prosperous life with your loving mate.

Of course, you can make your life better any time of the year, but there’s something inspiring about January, as though she is holding up the vision you have for yourself in a way that other months don’t.

That’s not the only reason that now is the time to take action that will have you looking back at the year with a sense of gratification and accomplishment–especially if your dream is to feel madly, deeply loved and adored every day for life.

You may be thinking that I don’t know the challenges you’re facing or how much you’re struggling right now. Things may be rough for you in the love department.

But here’s what I do know: Now, more than ever, forces are collaborating for your greatest happiness in the area of love.

I can explain.

Here’s why 2018 will be your best relationship year yet. Click To Tweet
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How to Fix My Broken Marriage

How to Fix My Broken Marriage

How to Fix My Broken Marriage

3 Missing Ingredients to Make it Better, Faster

How do you fix your marriage when it’s been so hard for so long that you just don’t feel like trying anymore?

If you were one of the blog readers who asked that question last week, you reminded me of how exhausting that is. It’s awful.

When you’re already drained, the idea that there’s one more thing you need to do to fix the relationship makes you want to go back to bed! Especially when you know that most of the problems are with your partner’s attitude and actions (or lack thereof).

You’ve been working hard to heal your relationship and being honest about what you need from him, but he never changes and it’s very lonely.

That’s how I felt over 20 years ago, but I haven’t felt that way in a long time.

Here’s how I fixed my broken marriage without wearing myself out. Click To Tweet
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My Husband Is Passive-Aggressive

My Husband Is Passive-Aggressive

My Husband Is Passive-Aggressive

What Makes Him So Hostile and How You Can Cause a Miracle

If your man says things that are subtly insulting and hurtful but then acts like you’re the one who is overreacting, it can be crazy making.

At times you wonder how you can ever win when he mopes around and won’t say what’s wrong. If all you’re getting is the silent treatment, how do you respond to that? It’s frustrating and lonely to live that way.

And what about when he agrees to do things that you’ve asked him to do but doesn’t do them? How do you bring up that the light in the basement is still broken–even though he’s been promising to fix it for three weeks–without causing a fight?

I used to wonder myself and feel hopeless that there was anything I could do about my husband’s poor behavior. But now I have a go-to that changes everything.

This is what works wonders with a passive-aggressive husband: Click To Tweet
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Should I Get a Divorce?

Should I get a Divorce

Should I Get a Divorce?

3 Questions to Ask Yourself Before You Decide

Ending your marriage is a huge decision, and since you’re reading this article, clearly you’re not taking it lightly. It’s probably weighed heavily on you for a long time, which is so tiring.

Nobody considers divorce unless they’re really hurting and hopeless that things will get better.

You’d like answers. What’s the best path? Which choice will make you happier in the long run?

No expert can tell you what’s right for you. Only you know if it’s best for you to end your marriage.

But that doesn’t mean you need to make such a big decision all alone.

Here are 3 questions to ask yourself before you divorce. Click To Tweet

They’ll help you get clarity–and maybe even find the wisdom you need at such a tough time in your life.

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Marriage Anxiety

Marriage Anxiety

Marriage Anxiety

How to Stop Worrying and Know that Everything Is Alright

When you’re not getting what you need in your relationship, you worry.

Are things ever going to get better? Or is this relationship a huge mistake?

Is your partner ever going to change, or is this problem, this pain you’re feeling now, going to be with you for the rest of your life?

You just want to know what’s going to happen so you can make the right decisions. But since you can’t control what he does, it’s hard to know what the future holds.

The whole thing can make you apprehensive.

I remember feeling that way almost every day for years.

My marriage still isn’t perfect, but I don’t feel anxious about it anymore.

Here’s what I did to feel calm and relaxed about my relationship. Click To Tweet
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Working with Your Spouse

Working with Your Spouse

Working with Your Spouse

3 Secrets to Succeeding in Business and Love with the Same Person

When you work with your spouse, it can be too much togetherness. Plus, if you don’t see things the same way, it often creates tension both at work and at home.

There’s no pressure relief when the work conversation goes on through dinner. And no escaping the problems at home when you leave for work either.

This can stress your marriage big time–or it can be a great way to keep more money in the family and spend more time with the person you chose as your partner in life.

Having experienced it both ways, I’m grateful to know what makes all the difference.

Here are 3 secrets to succeeding while working with your spouse. Click To Tweet
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Power Struggles in Marriage

Power Struggles in Marriage

Power Struggles in Marriage

3 Steps to End the Exhausting Tug of War Forever

When every negotiation at your house feels like a battle, you waste a lot of energy.

Whether it’s about how to handle a baby who won’t sleep, a budget that doesn’t add up, or a growing mess in the house, it takes a lot longer to accomplish things when you have to debate and argue about them first.

Instead of feeling light and energized, you’re already tired before breakfast when you’ve had a back and forth about who should drive the kids, walk the dog or stop spending so much.

You just want to be logical and do what makes sense to solve the problem, but your husband doesn’t see it the same way, or he won’t talk about it or do things the way you need them done.

This is not teamwork–this is an endless argument, most of it petty. But how do you stop the tug of war when nothing you say seems to make any difference?
Here are 3 steps to end the power struggle with your spouse and still get what you want. Click To Tweet

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