I read an excerpt from a book called The Magic Room by Jeffrey Zaslow that I just love. The Magic Room is a room of mirrors at Becker’s Bridal Store where brides try on wedding dresses and think about all that has led them to that place. Here’s one bride’s story (as told by Zaslow):
LESSON 4: LOVE SOMETIMES NEEDS AN OPEN MIND TO BLOSSOM.
Meredith Maitner, a 40-year-old first-time bride, felt as if she’d endured a million-man march of failed relationships to get to Becker’s. In her 20s, she compiled a list of the qualities her would-be husband should have—he’d be manly, athletic (even though she hated sports), and extremely successful. Over the years, she’d consulted and revised the list. But in her mid-30s, she realized, “I wanted someone to support me emotionally, not necessarily financially—someone to share a bowl of popcorn with. I wanted to do the dishes and look out the window and see him cutting the grass.”
Out with friends, she met him: Ron, a low-key freelance graphic designer. “I’m going to walk down the aisle really slowly,” she warned her dad before the wedding. “I’ve waited a long time for this.”
Hi! I’m Laura.
I was the perfect wife–until I actually got married. When I tried to tell my husband how to be more romantic, more ambitious, and tidier, he avoided me. I dragged him to marriage counseling and nearly divorced him. I then started talking to women who had what I wanted in their marriages and that’s when I got my miracle. The man who wooed me returned.
I wrote a few books about what I learned and accidentally started a worldwide movement of women who practice The Six Intimacy Skills™ that lead to having amazing, vibrant relationships. The thing I’m most proud of is my playful, passionate relationship with my hilarious husband John–who has been dressing himself since before I was born.