{"id":13099,"date":"2021-08-05T06:00:08","date_gmt":"2021-08-05T13:00:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/?p=13099"},"modified":"2023-12-20T22:34:01","modified_gmt":"2023-12-21T06:34:01","slug":"how-to-survive-in-an-unhappy-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/how-to-survive-in-an-unhappy-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Survive in an Unhappy Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Are you stuck in an unhappy marriage but can\u2019t leave? Maybe you\u2019re in an unhappy marriage with kids, for example, and you really don\u2019t want to see your family torn apart.<\/p>\n<p>So you grin (at least sometimes) and bear it.<\/p>\n<p>But at what cost?<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s so painful to endure it all: the frustration of not being able to communicate with the one you love, the overwhelm and resentment at not getting the support you need, the loneliness at night.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019ve experienced this condition, I bet you could write the Cosmo version of the Unhappy Marriage Quiz yourself.<\/p>\n<p>Well, I have good news and bad news.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re wondering how to get out of an unhappy marriage or how to survive a loveless, sexless marriage, then bad news: this is not the blog for you.<\/p>\n<p>The good news is that if you want to stay married, you can turn things around to create the vibrant, happy marriage you deserve.<\/p>\n<p>You probably just don\u2019t have the tools&#8211;yet.<\/p>\n<p>Here are 4 secrets to creating a lifelong romance so you can have the happy marriage you had in mind when you said \u201cI do.\u201d<\/p>\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_39 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-transparent ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\">Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/how-to-survive-in-an-unhappy-marriage\/#1_Know_What_You_Want\" title=\" Know What You Want\"> Know What You Want<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/how-to-survive-in-an-unhappy-marriage\/#2_Love_Him_Flaws_and_All\" title=\" Love Him, Flaws and All\"> Love Him, Flaws and All<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/how-to-survive-in-an-unhappy-marriage\/#3_Show_Yourself_Some_Love\" title=\" Show Yourself Some Love!\"> Show Yourself Some Love!<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/how-to-survive-in-an-unhappy-marriage\/#4_Get_a_Second_Opinion_from_the_Right_Opiner\" title=\" Get a Second Opinion, from the Right Opiner\"> Get a Second Opinion, from the Right Opiner<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_Know_What_You_Want\"><\/span>1) Know What You Want<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-13102\" src=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/power-in-relationship.jpg\" alt=\"power in relationship\" width=\"1336\" height=\"562\" srcset=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/power-in-relationship.jpg 1336w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/power-in-relationship-150x63.jpg 150w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/power-in-relationship-480x202.jpg 480w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/power-in-relationship-768x323.jpg 768w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/power-in-relationship-325x137.jpg 325w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/power-in-relationship-1024x431.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1336px) 100vw, 1336px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>When you\u2019re stuck in a miserable relationship, it\u2019s natural to put out feelers and look to him for the vital information of whether there\u2019s any hope.<\/p>\n<p>What are his intentions for the marriage? Is he willing to do the work to make things better? Is he ready to make a change?<\/p>\n<p>Yes, it takes two to make a marriage work. The problem is, in looking over on his paper, just like the schoolteacher told us not to do, many women overlook the most important information for this equation\u2026<\/p><div class=\"laura-new-roadmap\" id=\"laura-2386254992\"><p><a href=\"https:\/\/adoredwifeweekend.com\/\" target=\"_blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-17022 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/Banner-Horizontal-new.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"1118\" height=\"559\" srcset=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/Banner-Horizontal-new.png 1118w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/Banner-Horizontal-new-150x75.png 150w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/Banner-Horizontal-new-480x240.png 480w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/Banner-Horizontal-new-768x384.png 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1118px) 100vw, 1118px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p>What do <em>you<\/em> want?<\/p>\n<p>If you had a magic wand, what is it that you see for yourself?<\/p>\n<p>Maybe, right now it\u2019s just peace, ending the fighting or cold war. Maybe it\u2019s to get back the playfulness and passion you once had (or never had in the first place). Maybe it\u2019s to raise your children in a happy, loving household with their father, modeling the kind of relationships you\u2019d want for them in the future.<\/p>\n<p>Whatever <em>your<\/em> vision is, the reason it\u2019s so vital is that you are the keeper of your marriage.<\/p>\n<p>As the wife, you have enormous power to create the kind of culture you want in your relationship, even if that feels like the furthest thing from the reality right now.<\/p>\n<p>Exhibit A is Tara, who, looking back at the bad old days in her marriage, describes them as \u201ca decade of misery.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Things were fine until she got pregnant with their first child and her husband went to a poker night. He became obsessed, reading books about poker and playing at all hours&#8211;including throughout the entire six weeks of his paternity leave, when he was supposed to be taking care of their new baby.<\/p>\n<p>Tara says he \u201ctotally tuned out.\u201d They never spent time together. He wouldn\u2019t even come to bed with her.<\/p>\n<p>She felt like poker was his mistress and became resentful at the lack of attention.<\/p>\n<p>She tried to \u201cnag and drag\u201d him, but it was not working for her. She knew she needed a different approach, so she decided to refocus her view with gratitude. Every time she felt the urge to control what he was doing, she would express gratitude for something, anything.<\/p>\n<p>Today, he hardly plays poker at all.<\/p>\n<p>True story.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, he has planned all sorts of trips for them to take together.<\/p>\n<p>Sure enough, she had the power to create the culture she wanted in her relationship once she got in touch with what that was.<\/p>\n<p>Now it\u2019s your turn: Get out your magic wand and go crazy! Imagine what might be possible for you if you had the skills to create it.<\/p>\n<p>If fear rears its nasty little head saying that\u2019ll never happen for you, just squash it on the head for now. You can always pick fear back up later if you want, but it\u2019s just not useful for this exercise.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov\/pmc\/articles\/PMC5351796\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Visualize<\/a> exactly what kind of culture you want in your marriage. Got your vision?<\/p>\n<p>Okay, now&#8230;<\/p>\n<div class=\"laura-six-intimacy-skills\" id=\"laura-3547384209\"><blockquote>\n<h3 style=\"display: inline; font-size: 23px;\">Related Article:<\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/six-intimacy-skills\/\">The Number One Most Indispensable Skill for Fixing Your Marriage Fast.<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/div><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_Love_Him_Flaws_and_All\"><\/span>2) Love Him, Flaws and All<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-13103\" src=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/respect-in-relationship.jpg\" alt=\"respect in relationship\" width=\"1336\" height=\"562\" srcset=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/respect-in-relationship.jpg 1336w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/respect-in-relationship-150x63.jpg 150w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/respect-in-relationship-480x202.jpg 480w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/respect-in-relationship-768x323.jpg 768w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/respect-in-relationship-325x137.jpg 325w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/respect-in-relationship-1024x431.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1336px) 100vw, 1336px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Another thing Tara wanted to create in her marriage was mutual respect. She didn\u2019t feel too respected when her husband was out all hours doing his thing.<\/p>\n<p>Then she got the skill to do just that, and it was\u2014you guessed it\u2014respect.<\/p>\n<p>She couldn\u2019t make him respect her, but she could explore how she might deepen her own practice of that skill to be a shiny wife mirror and see it reflected back to her.<\/p>\n<p>For her, that meant expecting the best outcome. Even when it looked like he must have an addiction, it meant <a href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/podcast\/031-15-signs-youre-not-controlling\/\">relinquishing control<\/a> of what her husband was doing and letting go of trying to solve his problems. It meant giving him the space to be his own man. It meant not taking the bait when an argument was brewing.<\/p>\n<p>These days, he\u2019s so respectful of Tara and so keen to please her that he has a cute habit of making lists just to show her he\u2019s checking things off.<\/p>\n<p>If you too have been trying to solve your man\u2019s problems, how has it served you?<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re ready to change the old dance, take the Tara Challenge, choosing to show respect for your man\u2019s thinking and his choices. How many days (or minutes) can you go relinquishing control, criticism, and complaining? Share your day count below!<\/p>\n<p>Now that you\u2019re showing him such love, don\u2019t forget secret #3&#8230;<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3_Show_Yourself_Some_Love\"><\/span>3) Show Yourself Some Love!<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-13104\" src=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/self-care-in-marriage.jpg\" alt=\"self care in marriage\" width=\"1336\" height=\"562\" srcset=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/self-care-in-marriage.jpg 1336w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/self-care-in-marriage-150x63.jpg 150w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/self-care-in-marriage-480x202.jpg 480w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/self-care-in-marriage-768x323.jpg 768w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/self-care-in-marriage-325x137.jpg 325w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/self-care-in-marriage-1024x431.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1336px) 100vw, 1336px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>In my case, it seemed impossible to break the nasty habit of trying to solve my husband\u2019s problems. Remember the paper I mentioned earlier? I was all over my husband\u2019s!<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s because I was missing the indispensable first step to intimacy: self-care.<\/p>\n<p>I got my self-care groove on by playing poker (sorry, Tara!), playing volleyball, playing Words with Friends. Are you noticing a theme?<\/p>\n<p>Yes, I learned how to play again! In taking on all the serious wifely duties I thought I was supposed to be doing, I had forgotten how to have fun. I had forgotten what made me happy.<\/p>\n<p>Becoming responsible for my own happiness had a twofold benefit: It allowed me to get off my husband\u2019s paper. That was a disrespectful place to be anyway, so no wonder he didn\u2019t want to have sex with me or be around me anymore, period.<\/p>\n<p>Getting happy also increased my magnetism. John couldn\u2019t seem to stay away from me. Even when I\u2019m doing my own thing, like working on the laptop, he\u2019ll sidle right up to me on the sofa to be by my side.<\/p>\n<p>What self-care would fill you up? Maybe a solo hobby like signing up for a rock climbing class, starting a book club, volunteering at your local shelter?<\/p>\n<p>What\u2019s something you\u2019ve always wanted to do, if only you had the time? Getting out your old paintbrushes, getting a piano, getting a massage?<\/p>\n<p>And what is it costing you to keep putting it off?<\/p>\n<p>As Dr. Chris Peterson said, \u201cI spent my young adult years postponing many of the small things that I knew would make me happy\u2026 I was fortunate enough to realize that I would never have the time unless I made the time. And then the rest of my life began.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I bet you had your own rich personal life when you attracted your man in the first place, and I can\u2019t wait to hear what happens when you come back to your marriage as a happier you!<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4_Get_a_Second_Opinion_from_the_Right_Opiner\"><\/span>4) Get a Second Opinion, from the Right Opiner<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-13105\" src=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/stay-married.jpg\" alt=\"stay married\" width=\"1336\" height=\"562\" srcset=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/stay-married.jpg 1336w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/stay-married-150x63.jpg 150w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/stay-married-480x202.jpg 480w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/stay-married-768x323.jpg 768w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/stay-married-325x137.jpg 325w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/stay-married-1024x431.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1336px) 100vw, 1336px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s bad enough to feel alone in your own marriage. But not being able to share what you\u2019re going through intensifies the loneliness until it can be unbearable.<\/p>\n<p>Especially since, when your marriage is in crisis, that\u2019s when you need to be heard and supported more than ever!<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s natural to turn to those closest to you to fulfill those needs, or at least to vent. But that often creates whole new problems that make the situation even worse. Family and friends only want the best for you, and when their protective instincts come out, it can sound like this: \u201cYou deserve better\u201d or \u201cIt\u2019ll never work if he doesn\u2019t change.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s hard enough to keep the faith to save a marriage without such hopeless voices in your head clashing with your own intentions for your relationship.<\/p>\n<p>And, even after you hone the tools to get your miracle, those loved ones will be hard pressed to ever forgive the man who wronged you.<\/p>\n<p>There are lots of well-intentioned advocates for divorce out there, which is why it\u2019s so important to confide in people genuinely rooting for you and your husband, ideally other women who have been where you are and have transformed it themselves.<\/p>\n<p>There\u2019s immense relief just in knowing that you are not alone. And you\u2019re not crazy for wanting to stay married even when things look really dark. Families depend on strong, lasting marriages, and I can\u2019t think of anything more important than fighting for yours.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Connect with women who have been in the same boat as you so you can get the inspiration and information you need to turn that boat around. Check out my <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/rm4o\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">FREE Roadmap<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Now that you have the tools, which will you experiment with today to make your marriage happy again?<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019d love to hear in the comments!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Are you stuck in an unhappy marriage but can\u2019t leave? Maybe you\u2019re in an unhappy marriage with kids, for example, and you really don\u2019t want to see your family torn apart. So you grin (at least sometimes) and bear it. But at what cost? 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