{"id":14541,"date":"2022-06-02T02:47:45","date_gmt":"2022-06-02T09:47:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/?p=14541"},"modified":"2023-12-20T22:33:56","modified_gmt":"2023-12-21T06:33:56","slug":"we-love-each-other-but-we-cant-be-together","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/we-love-each-other-but-we-cant-be-together\/","title":{"rendered":"We Love Each Other but We Can\u2019t Be Together"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Reaching such an impasse, whether it\u2019s getting into the same argument over and over or not being able to be together for any reason, is incredibly frustrating.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Especially if you\u2019re following all the usual advice yet you keep finding yourself back at square one. Again.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It\u2019s enough to make anyone feel hopeless.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How do you love someone you can\u2019t be with?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For me, love wasn\u2019t enough to sustain my marriage. But these four marriage hacks saved us from divorce.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Even if your situation seems hopeless right now, if you want to be together here are four totally doable things to try before you call it quits.<\/span><\/p>\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_39 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-transparent ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\">Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/we-love-each-other-but-we-cant-be-together\/#1_Make_a_Marriage_To-Do_List\" title=\" Make a Marriage To-Do List\"> Make a Marriage To-Do List<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/we-love-each-other-but-we-cant-be-together\/#2_Focus_on_the_Positives\" title=\" Focus on the Positives\"> Focus on the Positives<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/we-love-each-other-but-we-cant-be-together\/#3_Communicate_without_Caveats\" title=\" Communicate without Caveats\"> Communicate without Caveats<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/we-love-each-other-but-we-cant-be-together\/#4_Rekindle_the_Intimacy\" title=\" Rekindle the Intimacy\"> Rekindle the Intimacy<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_Make_a_Marriage_To-Do_List\"><\/span>1) Make a Marriage To-Do List<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-14544 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/how-to-be-irresistible.jpg\" alt=\"How to be Irresistable\" width=\"1336\" height=\"562\" srcset=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/how-to-be-irresistible.jpg 1336w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/how-to-be-irresistible-150x63.jpg 150w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/how-to-be-irresistible-480x202.jpg 480w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/how-to-be-irresistible-768x323.jpg 768w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/how-to-be-irresistible-1200x505.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1336px) 100vw, 1336px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What would you like to change about your relationship?\u00a0 Your spouse\u2019s hoarding, the lapse in your sex life, actually getting married in the first place?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Write it all down.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now, what on your list can you do something about?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Between all the fighting, my husband\u2019s poor financial choices, him not wanting to spend time with me or even make love to me, my list was troublesome enough to make me think that divorce was the only solution.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There\u2019s a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.wf-lawyers.com\/divorce-statistics-and-facts\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">divorce in America<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> every 42 seconds, and I was about to be the next one. Except that I was too embarrassed to get divorced.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So instead I would point out the problem and tell my husband what needed to change.\u00a0 Unbeknownst to me back then, pointing out his or our problem comes across as criticism and disrespect.\u00a0 Asking the other person to change is controlling, which is also disrespectful.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Men have finely tuned control radar.\u00a0 Trying to make him get organized or have sex with you may work short term but costs intimacy long term.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p><div class=\"laura-new-roadmap\" id=\"laura-1574670776\"><p><a href=\"https:\/\/adoredwifeweekend.com\/\" target=\"_blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-17020\" src=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/Banner-Horizontal.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"1118\" height=\"559\" srcset=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/Banner-Horizontal.png 1118w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/Banner-Horizontal-150x75.png 150w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/Banner-Horizontal-480x240.png 480w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/Banner-Horizontal-768x384.png 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1118px) 100vw, 1118px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Staying in my lane to say what I want, on the other hand, inspires that to happen, without costing any intimacy.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your man\u2019s mess is a problem, how about focusing on decluttering your space and being organized yourself?\u00a0 And when he does throw out something (it is bound to happen one day), catch him doing something good, expressing your gratitude for how relaxed and happy it makes you feel.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your sex life is a problem, I recommend a dose of the best aphrodisiac for men.\u00a0 Aretha Franklin can spell it out for you: R-E-S-P-E-C-T. If you\u2019re not sure exactly what that looks like, well, I wasn\u2019t either. I mean, I thought I was being a respectful wife, but turns out the cold wars and sexual coldness meant I was wrong. It wasn\u2019t what I thought. So I\u2019ll spell it out for you <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/podcast\/008-the-best-aphrodisiac-for-men\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">here<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> too.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Couple that with a dose of happiness and, bingo, you\u2019ve got the prescription for increasing your magnetism.\u00a0 Becoming the fun woman who attracted him in the first place is irresistible.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If getting married is on your list, you probably already know that saying \u201cWe should get married\u201d and enumerating the reasons why doesn\u2019t help.\u00a0 That\u2019s not what helped Lizanne, whose boyfriend had made it clear he was not the marrying kind.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But a totally different approach did.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">She simply said \u201cI would love to be married,\u201d without explanation.\u00a0 She completely relinquished control, letting go of it happening on her timeline or happening at all.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That\u2019s when a surprising thing happened\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He proposed!<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"laura-six-intimacy-skills\" id=\"laura-2128597969\"><blockquote>\n<h3 style=\"display: inline; font-size: 23px;\">Related Article:<\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/six-intimacy-skills\/\">The Number One Most Indispensable Skill for Fixing Your Marriage Fast.<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/div><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_Focus_on_the_Positives\"><\/span>2) Focus on the Positives<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-14545 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/be-spontaneous-in-marriage.jpg\" alt=\"Spontaneous in Marriage\" width=\"1336\" height=\"562\" srcset=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/be-spontaneous-in-marriage.jpg 1336w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/be-spontaneous-in-marriage-150x63.jpg 150w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/be-spontaneous-in-marriage-480x202.jpg 480w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/be-spontaneous-in-marriage-768x323.jpg 768w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/be-spontaneous-in-marriage-1200x505.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1336px) 100vw, 1336px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Becca was so frustrated when she and her husband could not seem to communicate.\u00a0 They had the same old negative pattern.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">She was so tired of this dance, but one night there they were, <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">again<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">She didn\u2019t think she owed an <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.forbes.com\/sites\/amymorin\/2016\/04\/14\/study-reveals-the-6-key-components-of-an-effective-apology\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">apology<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, but she checked anyway and did find something on her side of the street she could clean up.\u00a0 She even went so far as to express her gratitude to him.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cWhat came next was magical,\u201d she reports.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Her husband thanked her then started expressing his gratitude to her!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He even got accountable for his part in the ugly dynamic, for the first time ever.\u00a0 He told her all the ways he wanted to protect and care for her by not repeating this pattern again.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Intimacy was restored in a hurry.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you\u2019re ready to fast-track your way to that kind of peace and connection, here\u2019s an experiment that will help: Be your man\u2019s hype woman. Instead of male-bashing, speak well of your spouse to your friends, family and kids.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Celebrate his wins, big and small, from a promotion at work to his handiwork in the yard.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Make another list, this one of all the things you\u2019re grateful for about him.\u00a0 Express at least three of your gratitudes to him every day, adding them to your list.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Be spontaneous.\u00a0 Text him when he\u2019s at work letting him know you\u2019re thinking of him or miss him or laughing about a shared memory.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When he takes the initiative to make changes himself, applaud his efforts, no matter how small they may seem.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Before long, they won\u2019t seem so small anymore.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3_Communicate_without_Caveats\"><\/span>3) Communicate without Caveats<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-14546 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/keep-the-peace-in-marriage.jpg\" alt=\"Keep the peace in Marriage\" width=\"1336\" height=\"562\" srcset=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/keep-the-peace-in-marriage.jpg 1336w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/keep-the-peace-in-marriage-150x63.jpg 150w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/keep-the-peace-in-marriage-480x202.jpg 480w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/keep-the-peace-in-marriage-768x323.jpg 768w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/keep-the-peace-in-marriage-1200x505.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1336px) 100vw, 1336px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sixteen years into Janie\u2019s marriage to her high school sweetheart, things went south, fast.\u00a0 She and her husband could not agree on anything and were fighting all the time.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Her husband had become a workaholic, leaving the homeschooling mom increasingly on her own even after the birth of their fifth child, and he appeared to be having a <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/husband-in-midlife-crisis\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">midlife crisis<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.\u00a0 She felt lonely and depressed.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">She just wanted peace, but they couldn\u2019t make it through a day without arguing.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They tried marriage retreats and three different <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/marriage-coaching-vs-counseling\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">marriage counselors<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> but would always go back to the same old disagreements.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Janie didn\u2019t know if it could be saved but kept fighting to keep her marriage together anyway, hoping if she could just hold on&#8230;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That\u2019s when she learned a new approach.\u00a0 She started experimenting with saying \u201cI hear you\u201d when he was speaking to her.\u00a0 And putting duct tape on her mouth (figuratively, of course) when her husband made comments that she normally would have reacted to.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Within six months, he started opening up again and wanting to be around her.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Janie cried because this was the breakthrough she\u2019d been waiting for, and she knew she was on the right track. She joined <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/become-a-coach\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Relationship Coach Training<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> because now wanted more than just peace; she wanted to be adored and cherished.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One Relationship Coach Training course later, and her husband swept her away to Cape Cod for their twenty-fifth anniversary.\u00a0 It was beautiful and peaceful.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And she felt so adored and cherished, like she\u2019d never felt before.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your man baits you into reacting too, how does it serve you to take that bait?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As tempting as it is to want resolution, how does it serve you to keep trying to get it, no matter how heated it gets? Or to bring up past hurts trying again to resolve them?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why not take the Janie Challenge of saying simply \u201cI hear you,\u201d not agreeing or disagreeing but truly listening? And keeping the duct tape handy?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If so, I hope you\u2019re ready to feel adored and cherished!<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4_Rekindle_the_Intimacy\"><\/span>4) Rekindle the Intimacy<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-14547 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/playful-in-marriage.jpg\" alt=\"Playful in Marriage\" width=\"1336\" height=\"562\" srcset=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/playful-in-marriage.jpg 1336w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/playful-in-marriage-150x63.jpg 150w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/playful-in-marriage-480x202.jpg 480w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/playful-in-marriage-768x323.jpg 768w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/playful-in-marriage-1200x505.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1336px) 100vw, 1336px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If ever there were star-crossed lovers, it was Talia and Shawn. The biracial couple had a deep religious divide. Shawn\u2019s mother seemed convinced that she was the devil. Or at least that\u2019s what she kept telling her son.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Mom went so far as to give him an ultimatum that he had to choose between her and his wife.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Shawn broke things off ten times&#8211;and that was just when they were engaged. Eventually, he left the marriage too, saying he was 100% sure he wanted a divorce.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What he didn\u2019t know was that his wife was getting relationship coaching. Suddenly she had that aphrodisiac for men I mentioned, which for her started with <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/disrespect-in-marriage\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">apologizing for being disrespectful<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> for criticizing him and telling him what to do in the past.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Despite his resolution to stay away from her, Shawn started coming to see her. And having dinner together, playing games or watching a movie.\u00a0 And initiating sex with her, which she received.\u00a0 And saying he wanted to reconcile.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Which they did.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The skills she learned to attract him back became effortless.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But isn\u2019t marriage supposed to be work?\u00a0 Like planning such date nights to make sure you have the time together that they increasingly did.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Nooooooo!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Adding date nights to your to-do lists is death to a marriage.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And it shouldn\u2019t have to be hard work either.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Want to know what feels a whole lot better than adding time with you to his schedule?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Him wanting to be with you and taking the initiative to ask you out.\u00a0 Sound familiar?\u00a0 I bet you didn\u2019t have to worry about scheduling <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Time Together, 6:00 p.m.<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, back when you were swooning over each other.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you\u2019re ready to get that back, here\u2019s something you can try instead of planning a date night: Be <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/article\/item\/what_playfulness_can_do_for_your_relationship\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">playful<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you greet each other at the door, why not smile and tell him how happy you are to see him? Or when you catch his eye as he\u2019s mowing the lawn, maybe make a funny face or flash him, Mardi Gras style?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">My husband and I have our own silly private \u201cgotcha!\u201d joke where I hide the Quaker Oats man in random places where John will find him, and he does it back to me.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Seize every opportunity for playfulness, as if you were already on a date.\u00a0 The passion and excitement you shared when you first met are soon to follow.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If Lizanne and Becca, Janie and Talia can turn things around, why not you?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Which hack will you try first so you too can have the lasting peace and passion that you deserve?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Reaching such an impasse, whether it\u2019s getting into the same argument over and over or not being able to be together for any reason, is incredibly frustrating. Especially if you\u2019re following all the usual advice yet you keep finding yourself back at square one. Again. 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