{"id":7108,"date":"2015-08-27T07:55:41","date_gmt":"2015-08-27T14:55:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lauradoyle1.wpengine.com\/?p=7108"},"modified":"2023-12-20T22:35:22","modified_gmt":"2023-12-21T06:35:22","slug":"relationship-tips","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/","title":{"rendered":"3 Common Relationship Tips that will Destroy Your Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>OOn the <a href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/podcasts\/\">Empowered Wife Podcast<\/a>, I give out The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week Award. There\u2019s never a shortage of bad advice to choose from, and most of it sounds like harmless conventional wisdom, some from well-known experts. But bad relationship advice is harmful. I know from applying some of these ineffective suggestions in my early marriage and nearly getting divorced as a result.<\/p>\n<p>Of course, the real reason I give out this award is not just to point and laugh at people (although I enjoy that too) but for the purpose of highlighting the simple skills that have helped thousands of women restore the excitement, passion, and fun to their relationships.<\/p>\n<p>Here are the three most common, unhelpful relationship tips and what I now know are more productive alternatives:<!--more--><\/p>\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_39 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-transparent ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\">Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/#1_Institute_a_Date_Night\" title=\"Institute a Date Night\">Institute a Date Night<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/#2_Communication_is_the_Key_to_a_Good_Relationship\" title=\"Communication is the Key to a Good Relationship\">Communication is the Key to a Good Relationship<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/#3_You_Should_Go_to_Marriage_Counseling\" title=\"You Should Go to Marriage Counseling\">You Should Go to Marriage Counseling<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_Institute_a_Date_Night\"><\/span>1. Institute a Date Night<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Golly, why didn\u2019t I think of that? That\u2019s right up there with weight-loss tips like \u201cjust eat less\u201d or financial advice like, \u201clive below your means.\u201d If life were that easy nobody would need advice.<\/p>\n<p>But the noxious subtext of this vacuous advice is that to stay married you should add \u201cgo on a date\u201d to your list of chores, right between \u201cscrub toilets\u201d and \u201cclean the garage.\u201d Yay! It reminds me of another unhelpful axiom: \u201cMarriage is hard work.\u201d But with the right skills, marriage is not drudgery.<\/p>\n<p>This date-night maxim is truly terrible advice because nobody ever felt special and loved when her husband said, \u201cWe should go out once a week to work on our marriage.\u201d A wife who says that to her husband is likely to be met with resistance to date nights because they reek of control and sound like a chore.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re not exactly enjoying each other\u2019s company, how would going out for dinner and a movie change that anyway? Wouldn\u2019t you just have a tense night out instead of a tense night in? And wouldn\u2019t that make you feel even more hopeless?<\/p>\n<p>Here\u2019s a more effective practice for re-establishing connection: Instead of a weekly date-night, consider thanking your spouse three times a day for things he does to lighten your load or delight you. Does he work hard to support the family? Thank him&#8211;even if you work too. Did he start a load of whites? Say \u201cthanks.\u201d Did he haul the garbage cans to the curb? Let him know you appreciate that.<\/p>\n<p>This simple habit does double-duty for restoring connection because it not only helps you focus on what you\u2019re grateful for about your spouse, it also inspires him to find more ways to please you&#8211;once he knows you appreciate his efforts.<\/p>\n<div class=\"laura-six-intimacy-skills\" id=\"laura-3572838349\"><blockquote>\n<h3 style=\"display: inline; font-size: 23px;\">Related Article:<\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/six-intimacy-skills\/\">The Number One Most Indispensable Skill for Fixing Your Marriage Fast.<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/div><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_Communication_is_the_Key_to_a_Good_Relationship\"><\/span>2. Communication is the Key to a Good Relationship<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>The reason this advice is terrible is because we women typically understand it to mean that we need to talk more to get our man to understand. If we could just get him to sit down and talk about his feelings for hours, we think that would fix everything. This feeds into the female fantasy that if our husbands would just do what we\u2019ve been trying to tell them to do, everything would be fine. Most husbands would rather eat old horse blankets than have that conversation.<\/p>\n<p>If your husband avoids conversations about your relationship you might worry that it\u2019s because he\u2019s defective, and that for some reason, you didn\u2019t notice until after you were married.<\/p>\n<span class='bctt-click-to-tweet'><span class='bctt-ctt-text'><a href='https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?url=https%3A%2F%2Flauradoyle.org%2Fblog%2F%3Fp%3D7108&#038;text=Relationships%20benefit%20greatly%20when%20you%20don%E2%80%99t%20communicate%20everything%20you%E2%80%99re%20thinking%2C%20especially%20if%20it%E2%80%99s%20critical%20or%20disrespectful.&#038;via=lauramdoyle&#038;related=lauramdoyle' target='_blank'rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Relationships benefit greatly when you don\u2019t communicate everything you\u2019re thinking, especially if it\u2019s critical or disrespectful. <\/a><\/span><a href='https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?url=https%3A%2F%2Flauradoyle.org%2Fblog%2F%3Fp%3D7108&#038;text=Relationships%20benefit%20greatly%20when%20you%20don%E2%80%99t%20communicate%20everything%20you%E2%80%99re%20thinking%2C%20especially%20if%20it%E2%80%99s%20critical%20or%20disrespectful.&#038;via=lauramdoyle&#038;related=lauramdoyle' target='_blank' class='bctt-ctt-btn'rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Share on X<\/a><\/span>\n<p>Instead of trying to force a conversation with your husband, consider focusing on what\u2019s true for you and expressing it without criticism. Phrases like, \u201cI miss you,\u201d when you\u2019re lonely will do more for your connection as a couple than a complaint like, \u201cwe never spend any time together.\u201d Saying \u201couch!\u201d instead of \u201cyou\u2019re really oblivious and insensitive!\u201d when he hurts your feelings will go a long way toward keeping the peace and preserving the emotional safety, which is critical to intimacy.<\/p>\n<p>And here\u2019s some marriage advice you don\u2019t often hear: When you find yourself tempted to correct your husband or tell him what he\u2019s doing wrong, consider wrapping duct tape around your mouth until the urge passes.<\/p><div class=\"laura-new-roadmap\" id=\"laura-2985693296\"><p><a href=\"https:\/\/adoredwifeweekend.com\/\" target=\"_blank\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-17020\" src=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/Banner-Horizontal.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"1118\" height=\"559\" srcset=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/Banner-Horizontal.png 1118w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/Banner-Horizontal-150x75.png 150w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/Banner-Horizontal-480x240.png 480w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/Banner-Horizontal-768x384.png 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1118px) 100vw, 1118px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3_You_Should_Go_to_Marriage_Counseling\"><\/span>3. You Should Go to Marriage Counseling<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>I know a divorced advice-columnist who is always suggesting this. It didn\u2019t work for her, but she hasn\u2019t given up hope that it will for somebody else.<\/p>\n<p>There\u2019s nothing wrong with wanting professional help, and we\u2019ve all been taught that marriage counselors are where we should turn when the relationship has left Happily-Ever-After Highway.<\/p>\n<p>But I, for one, have lost my faith in a diploma as a reliable sign of relationship wisdom. Doubt crept in the day I glimpsed the inside of our counselor\u2019s marriage and saw her horrifying contempt and disrespect for her husband. It was confirmed the umpteenth time a client told me that her marriage counselor shamed her into getting a divorce, or listened to her complain about her guy every week for a year and never asked her to make any changes. Another counselor told my client she herself was getting divorced and recommended her client figure out where all the assets were immediately.<\/p>\n<p>Granted, some divorces are necessary. If you\u2019re not safe, you have to get out.<\/p>\n<p>But instead of taking advice from someone who studied relationships academically, consider checking for the most important credential of all: A happy relationship. Only a woman who actually enjoys the ease and pleasure of a great connection with her husband can tell you how to have that. But there\u2019s a pretty good chance such a woman knows a few things that will help, even if you think your situation is hopeless.<\/p>\n<p>Maybe you\u2019ve just been following the wrong advice.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>OOn the Empowered Wife Podcast, I give out The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week Award. There\u2019s never a shortage of bad advice to choose from, and most of it sounds like harmless conventional wisdom, some from well-known experts. But bad relationship advice is harmful. I know from applying some of these ineffective suggestions in\u2026 <a href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/\">Read More &raquo;<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":7113,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_stopmodifiedupdate":false,"_modified_date":"","content-type":"","inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[714],"tags":[],"app":[],"class_list":["post-7108","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-love-and-relationships"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v26.2 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>3 Common Relationship Tips that will Destroy Your Marriage<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Bad relationship advice is harmful. I know from applying some of these ineffective suggestions in my early marriage and nearly getting divorced as a result.\" \/>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"3 Common Relationship Tips that will Destroy Your Marriage\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Bad relationship advice is harmful. I know from applying some of these ineffective suggestions in my early marriage and nearly getting divorced as a result.\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"Laura Doyle Blog\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:publisher\" content=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/lauradoyle.org\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:author\" content=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/lauradoyle.org\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2015-08-27T14:55:41+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:modified_time\" content=\"2023-12-21T06:35:22+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:image\" content=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/relatioships-tips-ft.jpg\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:width\" content=\"1200\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:height\" content=\"628\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:type\" content=\"image\/jpeg\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"Laura Doyle\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:creator\" content=\"@lauramdoyle\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:site\" content=\"@lauramdoyle\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Written by\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"Laura Doyle\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"5 minutes\" \/>\n<script type=\"application\/ld+json\" class=\"yoast-schema-graph\">{\"@context\":\"https:\/\/schema.org\",\"@graph\":[{\"@type\":\"Article\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/#article\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/\"},\"author\":{\"name\":\"Laura Doyle\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/96ba2d9652e0d061581f6148ca656678\"},\"headline\":\"3 Common Relationship Tips that will Destroy Your Marriage\",\"datePublished\":\"2015-08-27T14:55:41+00:00\",\"dateModified\":\"2023-12-21T06:35:22+00:00\",\"mainEntityOfPage\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/\"},\"wordCount\":990,\"commentCount\":17,\"publisher\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/96ba2d9652e0d061581f6148ca656678\"},\"image\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/#primaryimage\"},\"thumbnailUrl\":\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/relatioships-tips-ft.jpg\",\"articleSection\":[\"Love &amp; Relationships\"],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"CommentAction\",\"name\":\"Comment\",\"target\":[\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/#respond\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"WebPage\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/\",\"name\":\"3 Common Relationship Tips that will Destroy Your Marriage\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/#website\"},\"primaryImageOfPage\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/#primaryimage\"},\"image\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/#primaryimage\"},\"thumbnailUrl\":\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/relatioships-tips-ft.jpg\",\"datePublished\":\"2015-08-27T14:55:41+00:00\",\"dateModified\":\"2023-12-21T06:35:22+00:00\",\"description\":\"Bad relationship advice is harmful. I know from applying some of these ineffective suggestions in my early marriage and nearly getting divorced as a result.\",\"breadcrumb\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/#breadcrumb\"},\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"ReadAction\",\"target\":[\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/#primaryimage\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/relatioships-tips-ft.jpg\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/relatioships-tips-ft.jpg\",\"width\":1200,\"height\":628,\"caption\":\"Secrets to a happy relationship\"},{\"@type\":\"BreadcrumbList\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/#breadcrumb\",\"itemListElement\":[{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":1,\"name\":\"Blog\",\"item\":\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/\"},{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":2,\"name\":\"Love &amp; Relationships\",\"item\":\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/category\/love-and-relationships\/\"},{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":3,\"name\":\"3 Common Relationship Tips that will Destroy Your Marriage\"}]},{\"@type\":\"WebSite\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/#website\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/\",\"name\":\"Laura Doyle, Best Selling Relationship Books & Coaching\",\"description\":\"\",\"publisher\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/96ba2d9652e0d061581f6148ca656678\"},\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"SearchAction\",\"target\":{\"@type\":\"EntryPoint\",\"urlTemplate\":\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/?s={search_term_string}\"},\"query-input\":{\"@type\":\"PropertyValueSpecification\",\"valueRequired\":true,\"valueName\":\"search_term_string\"}}],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\"},{\"@type\":[\"Person\",\"Organization\"],\"@id\":\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/96ba2d9652e0d061581f6148ca656678\",\"name\":\"Laura Doyle\",\"image\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/laura-doyle-author.jpg\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/laura-doyle-author.jpg\",\"width\":815,\"height\":815,\"caption\":\"Laura Doyle\"},\"logo\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/\"},\"description\":\"Hi! I'm Laura. New York Times Bestselling Author I was the perfect wife--until I actually got married. When I tried to tell my husband how to be more romantic, more ambitious, and tidier, he avoided me. I dragged him to marriage counseling and nearly divorced him. I then started talking to women who had what I wanted in their marriages and that\u2019s when I got my miracle. The man who wooed me returned. I wrote a few books about what I learned and accidentally started a worldwide movement of women who practice The Six Intimacy Skills\u2122 that lead to having amazing, vibrant relationships. The thing I\u2019m most proud of is my playful, passionate relationship with my hilarious husband John\u2013who has been dressing himself since before I was born.\",\"sameAs\":[\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/\",\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/lauradoyle.org\/\",\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/lauramdoyle\/\",\"https:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/in\/lauramdoyle\/\",\"https:\/\/www.pinterest.com\/intimacyskills\/\",\"https:\/\/x.com\/lauramdoyle\",\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/user\/lauradoyleauthor\"],\"url\":\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/author\/stmonday\/\"}]}<\/script>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"3 Common Relationship Tips that will Destroy Your Marriage","description":"Bad relationship advice is harmful. I know from applying some of these ineffective suggestions in my early marriage and nearly getting divorced as a result.","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/","og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"3 Common Relationship Tips that will Destroy Your Marriage","og_description":"Bad relationship advice is harmful. I know from applying some of these ineffective suggestions in my early marriage and nearly getting divorced as a result.","og_url":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/","og_site_name":"Laura Doyle Blog","article_publisher":"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/lauradoyle.org\/","article_author":"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/lauradoyle.org\/","article_published_time":"2015-08-27T14:55:41+00:00","article_modified_time":"2023-12-21T06:35:22+00:00","og_image":[{"width":1200,"height":628,"url":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/relatioships-tips-ft.jpg","type":"image\/jpeg"}],"author":"Laura Doyle","twitter_card":"summary_large_image","twitter_creator":"@lauramdoyle","twitter_site":"@lauramdoyle","twitter_misc":{"Written by":"Laura Doyle","Est. reading time":"5 minutes"},"schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"Article","@id":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/#article","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/"},"author":{"name":"Laura Doyle","@id":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/96ba2d9652e0d061581f6148ca656678"},"headline":"3 Common Relationship Tips that will Destroy Your Marriage","datePublished":"2015-08-27T14:55:41+00:00","dateModified":"2023-12-21T06:35:22+00:00","mainEntityOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/"},"wordCount":990,"commentCount":17,"publisher":{"@id":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/96ba2d9652e0d061581f6148ca656678"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/#primaryimage"},"thumbnailUrl":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/relatioships-tips-ft.jpg","articleSection":["Love &amp; Relationships"],"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"CommentAction","name":"Comment","target":["https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/#respond"]}]},{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/","url":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/","name":"3 Common Relationship Tips that will Destroy Your Marriage","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/#website"},"primaryImageOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/#primaryimage"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/#primaryimage"},"thumbnailUrl":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/relatioships-tips-ft.jpg","datePublished":"2015-08-27T14:55:41+00:00","dateModified":"2023-12-21T06:35:22+00:00","description":"Bad relationship advice is harmful. I know from applying some of these ineffective suggestions in my early marriage and nearly getting divorced as a result.","breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/"]}]},{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/#primaryimage","url":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/relatioships-tips-ft.jpg","contentUrl":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/relatioships-tips-ft.jpg","width":1200,"height":628,"caption":"Secrets to a happy relationship"},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/relationship-tips\/#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Blog","item":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"Love &amp; Relationships","item":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/category\/love-and-relationships\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":3,"name":"3 Common Relationship Tips that will Destroy Your Marriage"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/#website","url":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/","name":"Laura Doyle, Best Selling Relationship Books & Coaching","description":"","publisher":{"@id":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/96ba2d9652e0d061581f6148ca656678"},"potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":{"@type":"PropertyValueSpecification","valueRequired":true,"valueName":"search_term_string"}}],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":["Person","Organization"],"@id":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/96ba2d9652e0d061581f6148ca656678","name":"Laura Doyle","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/laura-doyle-author.jpg","contentUrl":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/laura-doyle-author.jpg","width":815,"height":815,"caption":"Laura Doyle"},"logo":{"@id":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/"},"description":"Hi! I'm Laura. New York Times Bestselling Author I was the perfect wife--until I actually got married. When I tried to tell my husband how to be more romantic, more ambitious, and tidier, he avoided me. I dragged him to marriage counseling and nearly divorced him. I then started talking to women who had what I wanted in their marriages and that\u2019s when I got my miracle. The man who wooed me returned. I wrote a few books about what I learned and accidentally started a worldwide movement of women who practice The Six Intimacy Skills\u2122 that lead to having amazing, vibrant relationships. The thing I\u2019m most proud of is my playful, passionate relationship with my hilarious husband John\u2013who has been dressing himself since before I was born.","sameAs":["https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/","https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/lauradoyle.org\/","https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/lauramdoyle\/","https:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/in\/lauramdoyle\/","https:\/\/www.pinterest.com\/intimacyskills\/","https:\/\/x.com\/lauramdoyle","https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/user\/lauradoyleauthor"],"url":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/author\/stmonday\/"}]}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7108","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7108"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7108\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/7113"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7108"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7108"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7108"},{"taxonomy":"app","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/app?post=7108"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}