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Empowered Woman – Courtney
\n<\/em><\/p>\n

I first met my husband at the tender age of 21. We had a whirlwind romance and got engaged only four months after officially becoming boyfriend and girlfriend. Six months after our engagement, we were married.<\/p>\n

I felt like he was the most amazing man I\u2019d ever met\u2013he was funny, smart, incredibly attractive, and had just enough rebel in him to make him all the more appealing.<\/p>\n

The first four years of our marriage brought two kids, significant financial strains, and an out-of-state move away from all friends and family.<\/p>\n

It was around this time that I could really start to sense some unhappiness. We had some big fights from time to time, but I figured this was just how marriage was. Life is stressful and neither of us is perfect.<\/p>\n

I can remember so vividly how controlling I was in those days. For most of our marriage, my husband has been a stay-at-home dad while I\u2019ve worked outside of the home. I remember being so fed up with him playing video games while I was at work that I would take the controllers with me. That would surely send him a message, I thought.<\/p>\n

I was in complete control of our finances, and during those tough years of being very, very broke, I took away his ATM card just to make sure that he didn\u2019t spend any money unnecessarily.<\/p>\n

By 2013, I viewed my husband as a roommate and wanted out of our marriage.<\/p>\n

Thankfully, I still had Laura Doyle\u2019s The Surrendered Wife, which my mother-in-law had given me just a few months before I got married. The first time I read it, back in 2007, I saw some of myself in its pages, but pretty much brushed the book off.<\/p>\n

When I read it again, I felt like Laura and I were the same person! I sought out private coaching in February of 2014, and the first few months of transformation were very difficult.<\/p>\n

My coaching calls with one of Laura\u2019s certified coaches in these times of crisis strengthened my resolve. I can even recall having a huge blowout with my husband, only to have him hand me the phone and say, \u201cTalk to your coach.\u201d<\/p>\n

As I got more and more comfortable with the Intimacy Skills\u2122, things began to change.
\nI found that not only was I happier and more relaxed, but my husband changed back to the amazing man I knew him to be. He went out of his way to make me happy and praised me constantly for how much improvement I was showing.<\/p>\n

Instead of viewing him as a roommate, I viewed him with honor and respect: two words that I wouldn\u2019t have used many years ago.<\/p>

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Out of my surrendering came some amazing changes!<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

My husband now solely takes care of our finances, and we have a more luxurious lifestyle than ever before.<\/p>\n

We have a mutual support and admiration for each other, and I have even found myself to be a better mother after taking time to implement self-care. Seeing how my marriage impacted my family dynamic is what really motivated me to become a coach.<\/p>\n

I was so overwhelmed working full-time, and then felt that I was expected to come home and be super mom to my two young kids. I couldn\u2019t handle it all, and I became very resentful toward my children. I wasn\u2019t the mother I should have been to them because I wasn\u2019t being the wife I should have been to my husband!<\/p>\n

This link was crucial for me to recognize, and I want to inspire and help other moms realize that by transforming your marriage, you will transform every aspect of your family life.<\/p>\n

When I look back at my journey, it is one filled with awe; I can\u2019t believe I let things get so bad, and I also can\u2019t believe how good things are now. I have the marriage I envisioned when we first wed eight years ago. My life is beautiful, and I owe it all to the work I\u2019ve done with support from Laura and her coaches.<\/p>\n

If you would like to find more romance in your marriage, book your complimentary discovery session to help you get started on the road back to romance!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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