{"id":7312,"date":"2015-11-12T04:00:40","date_gmt":"2015-11-12T12:00:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lauradoyle1.wpengine.com\/?p=7312"},"modified":"2023-12-20T22:35:15","modified_gmt":"2023-12-21T06:35:15","slug":"husband-refuses-to-work-on-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/husband-refuses-to-work-on-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"My Husband Refuses to Work on Our Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Some men go to marriage counseling willingly, but most who go do so grudgingly, and still more flat-out refuse.<\/p>\n<p>These men won\u2019t read a book about relationships and don\u2019t seem interested in talking about the problems either.<\/p>\n<p>It can be incredibly frustrating for a wife who knows that her marriage isn\u2019t what it could be. After all, if he won\u2019t work on things, isn\u2019t it hopeless that they\u2019ll ever improve?<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s what I used to think, which is why I dragged my husband to marriage counseling.<\/p>\n<p>But what if there\u2019s a faster, more effective way to get what you really want from him\u2014spontaneous love pats, heartfelt talks, romantic getaways\u2014that you can implement yourself?<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019ll show you why his stubbornness not working on the relationship is actually a blessing in disguise and how you can get those swoon-worthy encounters without him even knowing what you\u2019re up to.<\/p>\n<p>I know it may sound impossible that you could make your relationship gratifying and delightful again. And I get that the person who needs to change the most is him\u2014and he will. You can make that happen.<\/p>\n<p>All you have to do is&#8230;<!--more--><\/p>\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_39 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-transparent ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\">Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/husband-refuses-to-work-on-marriage\/#1_Do_What_You_Did_When_You_Fell_in_Love\" title=\"Do What You Did When You Fell in Love\">Do What You Did When You Fell in Love<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/husband-refuses-to-work-on-marriage\/#2_Become_the_Girl_of_Fun_and_Light_Again\" title=\"Become the Girl of Fun and Light Again\">Become the Girl of Fun and Light Again<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/husband-refuses-to-work-on-marriage\/#2_Try_It_Even_if-Especially_if-Youre_in_a_Bad_Place\" title=\"Try It Even if&#8211;Especially if&#8211;You\u2019re in a Bad Place\">Try It Even if&#8211;Especially if&#8211;You\u2019re in a Bad Place<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_Do_What_You_Did_When_You_Fell_in_Love\"><\/span>1. Do What You Did When You Fell in Love<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Remember those glory days?<\/p>\n<p>You stayed up too late talking, but you were still smiling the next day. You laughed a lot. In fact, let\u2019s be honest\u2014you were a little goofy. But nobody minded because it was really kind of adorable. And he couldn\u2019t get enough of you back then. Those were good times.<\/p>\n<p>But then life got serious. You\u2019re older now. You have responsibilities and there just hasn\u2019t been as much time for giddiness, between your job, bills, kids, and housework.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re strong, so you bucked up and did what needed to be done. But you haven\u2019t been smiling as much. In fact, no disrespect, but you\u2019ve been pretty cross lately.<\/p>\n<p>In other words, you\u2019ve changed.<\/p><div class=\"laura-new-roadmap\" id=\"laura-1359996784\"><p><a href=\"https:\/\/adoredwifeweekend.com\/\" target=\"_blank\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-17022 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/Banner-Horizontal-new.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"1118\" height=\"559\" srcset=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/Banner-Horizontal-new.png 1118w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/Banner-Horizontal-new-150x75.png 150w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/Banner-Horizontal-new-480x240.png 480w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/Banner-Horizontal-new-768x384.png 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1118px) 100vw, 1118px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p>It\u2019s almost like you\u2019re a different person.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, you\u2019re productive, efficient and smart. But what happened to the Girl of Fun and Light?<\/p>\n<p>The one your husband fell in love with?<\/p>\n<p>What\u2019s that? You don\u2019t even remember her?<\/p>\n<p>Well that explains a lot about why you\u2019ve been so serious lately and why your marriage is not as playful and passionate as it once was.<\/p>\n<p>I mean, you\u2019re just not like you used to be.<\/p>\n<p>When you changed, your husband started responding to you differently. He took his cues from you and got more businesslike too, so there was less playing and fewer butt pats. And that\u2019s not all. It also seemed like he just wasn\u2019t being cooperative when you told him how to be more efficient and logical.<\/p>\n<p>But there\u2019s more to the story.<\/p>\n<p>He misses the Girl of Fun and Light, the one who used to take a running jump to hug him and engage in the occasional pillow fight or skinny dip. You were flirty and quick to laugh then.<\/p>\n<p>That version of you was so\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Inspiring.<\/p>\n<p>You made him feel like a hero in those days because you were so happy.<\/p>\n<p>But really, you were making yourself happy.<\/p>\n<div class=\"laura-six-intimacy-skills\" id=\"laura-891728207\"><blockquote>\n<h3 style=\"display: inline; font-size: 23px;\">Related Article:<\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/six-intimacy-skills\/\">The Number One Most Indispensable Skill for Fixing Your Marriage Fast.<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/div><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_Become_the_Girl_of_Fun_and_Light_Again\"><\/span>2. Become the Girl of Fun and Light Again<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>So how can you be the Girl of Fun and Light?<\/p>\n<p>Find the fun in the situation you\u2019re in.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re at a movie on opening night and the line is around the block, you can see it as an adventure and an opportunity to talk to him instead of lamenting about the long wait.<\/p>\n<p>If you accidentally squirt yourself with the faucet, you can laugh at yourself and say \u201cThat was a good one\u201d instead of having a fit.<\/p>\n<p>The GOFL <a href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/my-husband-doesnt-listen-to-me\/\">expresses her desires<\/a>, and she is gracious.<\/p>\n<p>For instance, if you were cold, hungry, tired, or wanted a break from an activity, you\u2019d speak up in a direct way, without criticizing your husband\u2019s choices, judgment, or his sense of fun.<\/p>\n<p>So you would say \u201cI\u2019d love to warm up\u201d instead of \u201cDon\u2019t you think it\u2019s just a tad ridiculous to be outside in this weather?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Or \u201cIt\u2019s getting awfully late to eat dinner\u201d becomes \u201cI want to eat.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>See the difference?<\/p>\n<p>The first phrase criticizes his judgment, while the second just states what would make you happy.<\/p>\n<p>Instead of saying \u201cThis is boring,\u201d \u201cI\u2019ve done this before,\u201d or \u201cThis food is awful,\u201d find the entertainment in your situation and focus on that.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_Try_It_Even_if-Especially_if-Youre_in_a_Bad_Place\"><\/span>2. Try It Even if&#8211;Especially if&#8211;You\u2019re in a Bad Place<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>What about <a href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/my-mother-in-law-hates-me\/\">difficulties with in-laws<\/a>, finances, or sex? What about the separation, the affair, or the pending divorce?<\/p>\n<p>It may seem crazy to you right now, but finding the fun and making yourself happy is where it all starts to get better.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s how it started for me and for thousands of women all over the world who revitalized their broken relationships.<\/p>\n<p>First, we made ourselves happy.<\/p>\n<p>Then, our husbands found us safe, attractive and fun, just like we were in the beginning.<\/p>\n<p>They found us irresistible.<\/p>\n<p>They sought out our company.<\/p>\n<p>They started bringing us chocolate or putting the kids to bed so we could relax. In other words, he changed.<\/p>\n<p>From there, things fell into place.<\/p>\n<p>The impossible became possible. We remembered why we fell in love in the first place.<\/p>\n<p>You will too\u2014just as soon as you decide to be happy again.<\/p>\n<p>How will you show up as the Girl of Fun and Light today? I\u2019d love to hear below.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Some men go to marriage counseling willingly, but most who go do so grudgingly, and still more flat-out refuse. These men won\u2019t read a book about relationships and don\u2019t seem interested in talking about the problems either. 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