{"id":7668,"date":"2016-04-07T04:00:19","date_gmt":"2016-04-07T11:00:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lauradoyle1.wpengine.com\/?p=7668"},"modified":"2023-12-20T22:35:04","modified_gmt":"2023-12-21T06:35:04","slug":"alternatives-to-marriage-counseling","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/alternatives-to-marriage-counseling\/","title":{"rendered":"Alternatives to Marriage Counseling"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>By the time I was trying to find marriage counselors, things were pretty bad at our house.<\/p>\n<p>I wasn\u2019t looking for suggestions on how to improve a good thing; I was looking for ways to hold the marriage together before it self-destructed.<\/p>\n<p>I remember knowing that we just couldn\u2019t figure it out ourselves really helped me to be brave about deciding to go. It was more desperation than courage, actually.<\/p>\n<p>Of course, marriage counseling didn\u2019t turn out to be helpful for us, and since a study at UCLA showed that 75% of couples who got traditional behavioral marriage counseling were separated within a year, it probably hasn\u2019t been the answer for you, either.<\/p>\n<p>So it makes sense to look for an alternative.<\/p>\n<p>Here are 5 litmus tests to see if the marriage help you\u2019re getting will actually help:<!--more--><\/p>\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_39 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-transparent ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\">Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/alternatives-to-marriage-counseling\/#1_Does_Your_Mentor_Have_What_You_Want\" title=\"Does Your Mentor Have What You Want?\">Does Your Mentor Have What You Want?<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/alternatives-to-marriage-counseling\/#2_Is_She_Helping_You_Work_on_You_or_on_Your_Relationship\" title=\"Is She Helping You Work on You or on Your Relationship?\">Is She Helping You Work on You or on Your Relationship?<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/alternatives-to-marriage-counseling\/#3_Will_She_Sit_on_the_Same_Side_of_the_Table_as_You\" title=\"Will She Sit on the Same Side of the Table as You?\">Will She Sit on the Same Side of the Table as You?<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/alternatives-to-marriage-counseling\/#4_Does_She_Trust_You_to_Make_Your_Own_Choices\" title=\"Does She Trust You to Make Your Own Choices?\">Does She Trust You to Make Your Own Choices?<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/alternatives-to-marriage-counseling\/#5_Does_She_Know_The_6_Intimacy_Skills\" title=\"Does She Know The 6 Intimacy Skills?\">Does She Know The 6 Intimacy Skills?<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_Does_Your_Mentor_Have_What_You_Want\"><\/span>1. Does Your Mentor Have What You Want?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Of course, you don\u2019t want a personal trainer who\u2019s a couch potato. You don\u2019t want a financial planner with a mountain of credit card debt.<\/p>\n<p>The most important qualification for someone who is going to help you with your marriage is that she has the kind of relationship you want.<\/p>\n<p>If you found a counselor who would share openly about her marriage, and the struggles she\u2019s had and how she overcame them, that would really be a stand-out counselor.<\/p>\n<p>Unfortunately, most marriage counselors won\u2019t get into that because, they\u2019ll tell you, counseling is about you&#8211;not them.<\/p>\n<p>Certificates on the wall mean they know theories and have learned things in classrooms&#8211;just like the flabby trainer and the broke financial planner did.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s not going to do you much good, in my experience. It could even make things worse.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, here\u2019s my best marriage-counseling tip: consider relationship coaching instead.<\/p><div class=\"laura-new-roadmap\" id=\"laura-454242780\"><p><a href=\"https:\/\/adoredwifeweekend.com\/\" target=\"_blank\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-17022 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/Banner-Horizontal-new.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"1118\" height=\"559\" srcset=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/Banner-Horizontal-new.png 1118w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/Banner-Horizontal-new-150x75.png 150w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/Banner-Horizontal-new-480x240.png 480w, https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/Banner-Horizontal-new-768x384.png 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1118px) 100vw, 1118px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p>You might be wondering, what\u2019s the difference between marriage counseling and relationship coaching?<\/p>\n<p>Glad you asked! I happen to have this handy chart:<\/p>\n<div class=\"marriage-counseling-chart\">\n<table width=\"443\">\n<tbody>\n<tr>\n<td width=\"221\"><strong>Marriage Counseling<\/strong><\/td>\n<td width=\"221\"><strong>Relationship Coaching<\/strong><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td width=\"221\">Assumes there is something wrong with you that needs to be fixed or medicated<\/td>\n<td width=\"221\">Assumes you want to become proficient in intimacy<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td width=\"221\">Focuses on the problem<\/td>\n<td width=\"221\">Focuses on the solution<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td width=\"221\">Provided by someone who has achieved academic (theoretical) mastery<\/td>\n<td width=\"221\">Provided by someone who has had a personal transformation and enjoys the benefits of having the desired skills<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td width=\"221\">Explores past hurts<\/td>\n<td width=\"221\">Provides specific actions for the present and future<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td width=\"221\">Based on models developed in the nineteenth century<\/td>\n<td width=\"221\">Based on the latest advancements from this millennium<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td width=\"221\">Promotes blaming the other person or parents<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/td>\n<td width=\"221\">Promotes personal accountability<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td width=\"221\">Invites you to say hurtful things in front of your husband and a stranger<\/td>\n<td width=\"221\">Promotes emotional safety and respect<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td width=\"221\">Talk-oriented<\/td>\n<td width=\"221\">Action-oriented<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<\/div>\n<p>I\u2019ve had the honor of hearing a lot of happy stories from women who have benefitted from relationship coaching. That\u2019s why I consider it such a great alternative to marriage counseling.<\/p>\n<div class=\"laura-six-intimacy-skills\" id=\"laura-2692322933\"><blockquote>\n<h3 style=\"display: inline; font-size: 23px;\">Related Article:<\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/six-intimacy-skills\/\">The Number One Most Indispensable Skill for Fixing Your Marriage Fast.<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/div><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_Is_She_Helping_You_Work_on_You_or_on_Your_Relationship\"><\/span>2. Is She Helping You Work on You or on Your Relationship?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>There\u2019s actually no such thing as working on a relationship.<\/p>\n<p>There\u2019s only working on yourself, and then the other person responds to you in a much better way.<br \/>\nThat\u2019s one reason couples counseling is so unproductive. You could be there just waiting for the other person to finally shape up, like I was when my husband and I went to marriage counseling.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s tempting and human to want to blame the other person and to point out all the ways that they could improve, but it won\u2019t get you the connection you\u2019re wanting. Ever.<\/p>\n<p>The blame train doesn\u2019t go to happily-ever-after land.<\/p>\n<p>Focusing on the things you\u2019d like to improve about yourself&#8211;like being more respectful, laughing instead of snapping or yelling, smiling more, and expecting the best from your spouse and choosing your faith instead of your fear, for example&#8211;will get you a tender response and restore the passion a lot faster.<\/p>\n<p>What\u2019s going to make your relationship feel a lot easier is learning the right skills, not waiting for someone else to change or telling them what they need to change.<\/p>\n<p>I already did that, so let\u2019s not both make that mistake.<\/p>\n<p>Life got significantly better when I started focusing on my small corner of the world instead of looking at all that I thought my husband should do differently.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3_Will_She_Sit_on_the_Same_Side_of_the_Table_as_You\"><\/span>3. Will She Sit on the Same Side of the Table as You?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>In order to improve your relationship, things have to change.<\/p>\n<p>If you want things to improve, that means you want to change so things can get better.<\/p>\n<p>What helps nurture change, which can be uncomfortable, is emotional safety.<\/p>\n<p>Knowing you won\u2019t be kicked out of the tribe, shamed or ridiculed is a critical part of being able to make the changes that make your marriage magical again.<\/p>\n<p>You need room to try new approaches and phrases, even though you may feel awkward or foolish at times while you\u2019re trying to learn the new steps.<\/p>\n<p>The way to get that safety is to get help from someone who has also made mistakes and is willing to tell you about the time she tried to tell her husband how to install a dryer hose and ended up flinging a copy of <em>The Five Love Languages<\/em> at him, for instance.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re going to tell someone embarrassing stories, knowing some of hers too is going to make you feel safer, and therefore braver. And fortune favors the brave.<\/p>\n<p>Having someone who is willing to share her experiences with you&#8211;someone who sits on the same side of the table as you and therefore won\u2019t be judging, laughing at or correcting you&#8211;can help you make those changes so much faster.<\/p>\n<p>Hearing that your mentor was once ready to divorce her husband, but that he just took her on a romantic getaway weekend to the beach is also proof positive&#8211;not just a theory&#8211;that your marriage could really get better, too.<\/p>\n<p>Especially if she kinda reminds you of you.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4_Does_She_Trust_You_to_Make_Your_Own_Choices\"><\/span>4. Does She Trust You to Make Your Own Choices?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>When I hear from a client who tells me she ended her marriage because a marriage counselor authoritatively told her she should because it was obvious that her marriage was over, it always breaks my heart.<\/p>\n<p>I hear about that happening way too much.<\/p>\n<p>You are the expert on your own life, and nobody knows better what you should do than you.<\/p>\n<p>Does that mean you\u2019ll make mistakes? Of course you will. But those are your mistakes to make. You\u2019ll get a lot of things right too, because you know your situation best.<\/p>\n<p>That means that no expert knows what\u2019s best for you&#8211;only you know that.<\/p>\n<p>Of course, you will still be open to suggestions, willing to experiment, do exercises and learn new skills.<br \/>\nBut you get to decide when to apply those skills and do those experiments. And a good relationship coach is not going to insist that you to take a certain course of action because she thinks it would be best for you.<br \/>\nShe knows better.<\/p>\n<p>It wouldn\u2019t work anyway because of human nature, which is that nobody likes to be told what to do. We\u2019re an autonomy-loving species, and most of us will go way out of our way to NOT do something if someone else says we should.<\/p>\n<p>A good relationship coach is happy to be your guide, remind you of your commitment, share her experience, bring encouragement and inspiration, and ask powerful, perspective-changing questions.<\/p>\n<p>She will be your mirror. She will acknowledge and celebrate your progress.<\/p>\n<p>But she recognizes that she knows only a little about you, and she trusts you to find your own way without her telling you what to do.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5_Does_She_Know_The_6_Intimacy_Skills\"><\/span>5. Does She Know The 6 Intimacy Skills?<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>I used to think my relationship problems were based on deep childhood issues that I couldn\u2019t quite sort out.<\/p>\n<p>And, of course, that my husband was a loser-face.<\/p>\n<p>But it turns out that I just didn\u2019t have the training I needed.<\/p>\n<p>I hadn\u2019t learned the skills that contribute to intimacy.<\/p>\n<p>Now that I know those skills, my marriage and all my other relationships seem so easy, pleasant and gratifying.<\/p>\n<p>It really blew my mind.<\/p>\n<p>So I can\u2019t understand why the 6 Intimacy Skills aren\u2019t taught in every school. After all, we are all going to have relationships. Isn\u2019t that pretty critical to having a good life?<\/p>\n<p>Just learning those skills is such a fantastic alternative to couples counseling.<\/p>\n<p>Having a relationship coach who can help you learn and apply them is a huge shortcut to getting the playfulness and passion back in a relationship.<\/p>\n<p>I know of no better investment to make in your marriage, your personal development and your happiness than working with such a relationship coach.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>By the time I was trying to find marriage counselors, things were pretty bad at our house. I wasn\u2019t looking for suggestions on how to improve a good thing; I was looking for ways to hold the marriage together before it self-destructed. 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