{"id":7722,"date":"2016-04-28T04:00:40","date_gmt":"2016-04-28T11:00:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lauradoyle1.wpengine.com\/?p=7722"},"modified":"2023-12-20T22:35:03","modified_gmt":"2023-12-21T06:35:03","slug":"getting-over-being-cheated-on","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/getting-over-being-cheated-on\/","title":{"rendered":"Getting Over Being Cheated On"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Getting cheated on is ridiculously painful.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s a betrayal that hurts like crazy and seems like it could be impossible to recover from\u2013personally, and as a couple.<\/p>\n<p>I mean, how could he?<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s human to want to make him hurt too, and to yell and throw things. It\u2019s irresistible to berate him.<\/p>\n<p>From crying in your ice cream to asking your sister, \u201cHow could he do this to me?\u201d your husband\u2019s affair can take up a lot of room in your head.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ll find yourself desperately looking for relief from the sharp ache.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s when the doorway marked, \u201cEnd this relationship!\u201d will look incredibly appealing. It will seem like the fastest way to stop the same relentless thoughts from cycling in your head.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s just an illusion, though. The hurt won\u2019t die with the end of the relationship. That\u2019s the bad news.<\/p>\n<p>The Good News: You can absolutely get past the cheating and have a vibrant relationship again.<\/p>\n<p>Here are 3 ways you can save your relationship by making it better than it\u2019s been for a long time, along with the specific actions that will help you get there and end your suffering in the process.<!--more--><\/p>\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_39 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-transparent ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\">Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/getting-over-being-cheated-on\/#1_At_First_Do_Nothing\" title=\"At First, Do Nothing\">At First, Do Nothing<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/getting-over-being-cheated-on\/#2_Accept_What_You_Cant_Control\" title=\"Accept What You Can\u2019t Control\">Accept What You Can\u2019t Control<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/getting-over-being-cheated-on\/#3_Decide_to_Trust_Him_Again\" title=\"Decide to Trust Him Again\">Decide to Trust Him Again<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_At_First_Do_Nothing\"><\/span>1. At First, Do Nothing<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Before the infidelity, you didn\u2019t want this relationship to end.<\/p>\n<p>Of course you didn\u2019t! You\u2019re the good person who was honoring your commitment to your one and only, before you realized you were married to a lying, rotten, cheater-pants who crushed your hopes and dreams.<\/p>\n<p>He could still be a good guy, believe it or not.<\/p><div class=\"laura-new-roadmap\" id=\"laura-1228409186\"><p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<!--HubSpot Call-to-Action Code --><span class=\"hs-cta-wrapper\" id=\"hs-cta-wrapper-72e5b617-d76c-41d0-9b4d-efd92801e969\"><span class=\"hs-cta-node hs-cta-72e5b617-d76c-41d0-9b4d-efd92801e969\" id=\"hs-cta-72e5b617-d76c-41d0-9b4d-efd92801e969\"><!--[if lte IE 8]>\n\n<div id=\"hs-cta-ie-element\"><\/div>\n\n<![endif]--><a href=\"https:\/\/cta-redirect.hubspot.com\/cta\/redirect\/21708589\/72e5b617-d76c-41d0-9b4d-efd92801e969\" ><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"hs-cta-img\" id=\"hs-cta-img-72e5b617-d76c-41d0-9b4d-efd92801e969\" style=\"border-width:0px;\" src=\"https:\/\/no-cache.hubspot.com\/cta\/default\/21708589\/72e5b617-d76c-41d0-9b4d-efd92801e969.png\"  alt=\"Free Webinar\"\/><\/a><\/span><script charset=\"utf-8\" src=\"https:\/\/js.hscta.net\/cta\/current.js\"><\/script><script type=\"text\/javascript\"> hbspt.cta.load(21708589, '72e5b617-d76c-41d0-9b4d-efd92801e969', {\"useNewLoader\":\"true\",\"region\":\"na1\"}); <\/script><\/span><!-- end HubSpot Call-to-Action Code -->\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p>Even though it seems like everything has changed, you still don\u2019t really want the relationship to end.<\/p>\n<p>That doesn\u2019t make you a sucker; it makes you committed. I admire that.<\/p>\n<p>Great things are on the other side of this pain, and commitment will help you get there.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s likely that your marriage has been on fire for a while. What\u2019s changed is that you can\u2019t ignore the flames and smoke anymore.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re still married to the man you chose, and in whom you saw the potential for a long and happy life together.<\/p>\n<p>And even though there\u2019s been a big breakdown, he\u2019s still that same man.<\/p>\n<p>Your primary motivation for kicking him to the curb right now would be because you want him to hurt.<\/p>\n<p>You could argue that you\u2019re motivated by self-respect\u2014that you want him to know that it\u2019s not okay to cheat on you and that there are consequences, but what you really mean is, \u201cThat rat has to pay!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>From one mere mortal woman to another, I understand why you feel that way.<\/p>\n<p>Here\u2019s the problem. Since your fate\u2014your finances, your family, your friends\u2014are bound together with his, that\u2019s the same as making yourself pay. It won\u2019t lessen your pain one iota\u2014it will increase it.<\/p>\n<p>His suffering will be inseparable from your own. Save yourself from being where the heavy boomerang will inevitably land by marshaling all the restraint you possibly can.<\/p>\n<p>Certainly, things are going to have to change, but your relationship status doesn\u2019t have to be one of them.<\/p>\n<p>Commit to moping for a while, definitely. Don\u2019t let anyone out-mope you!<\/p>\n<p>Let your feelings of humiliation, fury and abandonment rise to the surface and have their day in the sun\u2014but consider having them with someone other than your man.<\/p>\n<p>I know it\u2019s counterintuitive, but consider delaying any big decisions, speeches and confrontations for a time when you\u2019ve recovered from the shock.<\/p>\n<p>It could be a while.<\/p>\n<p>The longer, the better.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m not suggesting you sweep this under the rug, but I am suggesting that I know of no benefit to crying, screaming and yelling at your betrayer other than catharsis\u2014and you can get that somewhere else for a lot less.<\/p>\n<p>You won\u2019t always feel that you want your husband to hurt.<\/p>\n<p>Hesitating now could save you years of misery.<\/p>\n<p>So step 1, doing nothing at first, may not feel like a step at all. But it\u2019s a big one, a wise one, and it can be done.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s exactly what I see women who have come out of infidelity with shiny, happy marriages do.<\/p>\n<div class=\"laura-six-intimacy-skills\" id=\"laura-3299082953\"><blockquote>\n<h3 style=\"display: inline; font-size: 23px;\">Related Article:<\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/six-intimacy-skills\/\">The Number One Most Indispensable Skill for Fixing Your Marriage Fast.<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/div><h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_Accept_What_You_Cant_Control\"><\/span>2. Accept What You Can\u2019t Control<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Maybe your husband is still cheating, right this minute, as you read this line. He may see her at work, be texting her, or be in a hotel with her right now.<\/p>\n<p>If only you could make him stop, you\u2019re sure that would be such a relief from your agony.<\/p>\n<p>If you knew he would never do it again for sure, that would make it so much easier to trust him again.<\/p>\n<p>The problem is that\u2019s not at all in your control. And trying to tell him what to do at this point is going to drive him further into her arms\u2014not yours.<\/p>\n<p>Same with begging, pleading, crying, reasoning or threatening him. It all does the opposite of what you want it to do. Plus, it\u2019s pretty exhausting.<\/p>\n<p>Even if you could make him stop by demanding it, it wouldn\u2019t mean much. You want him to choose you because he wants you\u2014not because you said you\u2019d kick him out otherwise.<\/p>\n<p>Crazy as it sounds, once he knows you don\u2019t like it at all, not one bit\u2014which he already does at this point, I\u2019m sure\u2014there\u2019s not one thing left to say to him regarding his mistress.<\/p>\n<p>You can\u2019t control their relationship, but you can use your tremendous influence and power to attract him back to you alone.<\/p>\n<p>Every second you spend thinking about her\u2014looking for signs that she\u2019s still in the picture, checking his phone or his social media\u2014is a precious second you lost from creating the future you want with your husband. Plus, it\u2019s going to rip open the wound all over again.<\/p>\n<p>So for now, the mistress may be meddling. But since what you focus on increases, consider putting your focus anywhere but on her.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, consider focusing on what you have control over, which is how you show up in your marriage.<\/p>\n<p>Are you the flirty, magnetic, happy woman you were when you fell in love? If not, take some time to go and find her again and make sure your husband gets to see that side of you.<\/p>\n<p>He found you irresistible before, and he will again if you are consistently the way you were when you fell in love.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3_Decide_to_Trust_Him_Again\"><\/span>3. Decide to Trust Him Again<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p>You may wonder how you\u2019ll ever be able to trust him again.<\/p>\n<p>The answer is to pretend that you do trust him, even though it seems pretty obvious right now that you can\u2019t.<\/p>\n<p>I had to stretch to do this myself with my husband\u2014not around being faithful, but around paying the bills, which was where I had the least amount of trust in him at the time.<\/p>\n<p>It took all my might. But I learned that the only way you can ever trust someone is because you decide to trust them.<\/p>\n<p>Trusting doesn\u2019t include checking up on someone to make sure they\u2019re behaving. That\u2019s the definition of doubting and mistrust.<\/p>\n<p>Trusting can involve wrestling with your own doubts in the night, or taking them to a third party\u2014not the person you\u2019re trusting.<\/p>\n<div class=\"\" data-block=\"true\" data-editor=\"o6ji\" data-offset-key=\"focfd-0-0\">\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"focfd-0-0\"><span data-offset-key=\"focfd-0-0\">It doesn\u2019t mean you won\u2019t ever get hurt again. <\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-block=\"true\" data-editor=\"o6ji\" data-offset-key=\"47mt8-0-0\">\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"47mt8-0-0\"><span data-offset-key=\"47mt8-0-0\">\u00a0<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-block=\"true\" data-editor=\"o6ji\" data-offset-key=\"g89p-0-0\">\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"g89p-0-0\"><span data-offset-key=\"g89p-0-0\">You might.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-block=\"true\" data-editor=\"o6ji\" data-offset-key=\"alskh-0-0\">\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"alskh-0-0\"><span data-offset-key=\"alskh-0-0\">\u00a0<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-block=\"true\" data-editor=\"o6ji\" data-offset-key=\"83o2h-0-0\">\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"83o2h-0-0\"><span data-offset-key=\"83o2h-0-0\">So why on earth would you decide to trust again?<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-block=\"true\" data-editor=\"o6ji\" data-offset-key=\"4v8km-0-0\">\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"4v8km-0-0\"><span data-offset-key=\"4v8km-0-0\">\u00a0<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-block=\"true\" data-editor=\"o6ji\" data-offset-key=\"fj0r2-0-0\">\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"fj0r2-0-0\"><span data-offset-key=\"fj0r2-0-0\">Being in a perpetual state of doubt is exhausting and painful, for one thing.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-block=\"true\" data-editor=\"o6ji\" data-offset-key=\"d6ebj-0-0\">\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"d6ebj-0-0\"><span data-offset-key=\"d6ebj-0-0\">\u00a0<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-block=\"true\" data-editor=\"o6ji\" data-offset-key=\"e833i-0-0\">\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"e833i-0-0\"><span data-offset-key=\"e833i-0-0\">And since there are only two real options: accepting or rejecting (and rejecting means that you leave&#8211;not stay and complain or tolerate) I prefer to save my energy and avoid Needless Emotional Turmoil (NET). <\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-block=\"true\" data-editor=\"o6ji\" data-offset-key=\"7phqt-0-0\">\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"7phqt-0-0\"><span data-offset-key=\"7phqt-0-0\">\u00a0<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-block=\"true\" data-editor=\"o6ji\" data-offset-key=\"esrhg-0-0\">\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"esrhg-0-0\"><span data-offset-key=\"esrhg-0-0\">But I&#8217;ve discovered that the best reason of all to decide trust my husband is because&#8230; <\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-block=\"true\" data-editor=\"o6ji\" data-offset-key=\"cakkv-0-0\">\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"cakkv-0-0\"><span data-offset-key=\"cakkv-0-0\">\u00a0<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-block=\"true\" data-editor=\"o6ji\" data-offset-key=\"1562p-0-0\">\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"1562p-0-0\"><span data-offset-key=\"1562p-0-0\">Choosing my faith instead of my fear dramatically improves my chances that I\u2019ll experience the outcome I\u2019m wanting.<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-block=\"true\" data-editor=\"o6ji\" data-offset-key=\"575qm-0-0\">\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"575qm-0-0\"><span data-offset-key=\"575qm-0-0\">\u00a0<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-block=\"true\" data-editor=\"o6ji\" data-offset-key=\"bp6qf-0-0\">\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"bp6qf-0-0\"><span data-offset-key=\"bp6qf-0-0\">It&#8217;s like the part in the Serenity Prayer that references &#8220;the courage to change the things I can.&#8221; <\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-block=\"true\" data-editor=\"o6ji\" data-offset-key=\"crv46-0-0\">\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"crv46-0-0\"><span data-offset-key=\"crv46-0-0\">\u00a0<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-block=\"true\" data-editor=\"o6ji\" data-offset-key=\"38rul-0-0\">\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"38rul-0-0\"><span data-offset-key=\"38rul-0-0\">Sure it&#8217;s scary as heck sometimes. But as Ambrose Redmoon wrote, &#8220;Courage is not the absence of fear but the decision that something else is more important.&#8221; <\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-block=\"true\" data-editor=\"o6ji\" data-offset-key=\"1s1j9-0-0\">\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"1s1j9-0-0\"><span data-offset-key=\"1s1j9-0-0\">\u00a0<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"\" data-block=\"true\" data-editor=\"o6ji\" data-offset-key=\"dbbcs-0-0\">\n<div class=\"_1mf _1mj\" data-offset-key=\"dbbcs-0-0\"><span data-offset-key=\"dbbcs-0-0\">For today, are you deciding to trust your husband or to doubt him? <\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Getting cheated on is ridiculously painful. It\u2019s a betrayal that hurts like crazy and seems like it could be impossible to recover from\u2013personally, and as a couple. I mean, how could he? It\u2019s human to want to make him hurt too, and to yell and throw things. It\u2019s irresistible to berate him. From crying in\u2026 <a href=\"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/getting-over-being-cheated-on\/\">Read More &raquo;<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":7726,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_stopmodifiedupdate":false,"_modified_date":"","content-type":"","inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[713],"tags":[],"app":[],"class_list":["post-7722","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-infidelity"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v26.2 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>How to Get Over Being Cheated On [3 Proven Actions to Recovery]<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Your husband\u2019s affair doesn\u2019t have to spell divorce. The marriage may still be worth saving. 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