{"id":8019,"date":"2016-07-07T04:00:01","date_gmt":"2016-07-07T11:00:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lauradoyle1.wpengine.com\/?p=8019"},"modified":"2023-12-20T22:34:58","modified_gmt":"2023-12-21T06:34:58","slug":"how-to-make-yourself-happy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/how-to-make-yourself-happy\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Make Yourself Happy"},"content":{"rendered":"

I recently sent out a survey in which I asked, \u201cHow would you best describe your marriage?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

Over 1000 people responded, and I was floored by the results:<\/p>\n

\"How<\/p>\n

This means the majority of the participants fall into the categories of bumpy, struggling, or falling apart.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s the thing:<\/p>\n

None of us stood at the altar and thought, \u201cI can\u2019t wait to have an average marriage.\u201d<\/p>\n

We all got married because we were in love. Because we were extremely happy. Because we found someone we wanted to spend the rest of our lives with.<\/p>\n

Only happy people have happy relationships, which may sound obvious, but that wasn\u2019t obvious to me when I was miserable.<\/p>\n

I thought I was unhappy because of my marriage, and never realized that not knowing how to make myself happy was actually hurting my relationship–not the other way around.<\/p>\n

Maybe you feel stuck. You know that being happy is possible, because you\u2019ve lived it–maybe even for a long time–but somehow, now the spark is gone.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve lost his attention, you\u2019ve lost his affection, and you\u2019ve lost yourself a bit, too.<\/p>\n

When you said, \u201cI do,\u201d you meant for it to last forever. And that\u2019s always been my goal–to help women figure out how to regain the relationship they\u2019ve lost by showing them how to be the surrendered and empowered woman they\u2019ve forgotten they are.<\/p>\n

It is possible to be ridiculously happy again. You can be the woman to check the box saying, \u201cMy marriage is the best it\u2019s ever been!\u201d<\/p>\n

It will start with you saying, \u201cI\u2019m the happiest I\u2019ve ever been.\u201d<\/p>

\"\"<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

It just takes some intentional work and knowing specifically what to do.<\/p>\n

There are three things that come to mind when I think about what it took to delight myself and make my relationship vibrant again.<\/p>\n

Instead of writing it all out here, I\u2019ve put together three videos you can watch. It\u2019s called 3 Essentials to Becoming Ridiculously Happy Again<\/strong><\/p>\n

You can sign-up to watch them here<\/a>.<\/p>\n

They\u2019ll be emailed straight to your inbox (oh, and this is completely free).<\/p>\n

I sat down and talked through what I think are the keys to getting your relationship back to that honeymoon phase, what may be missing and why I think it\u2019s important.<\/p>\n

Check the videos out here!<\/a><\/p>\n

A happily-ever-after story doesn\u2019t come without a few bumps in the road. The question is: will you move past the bumps, or fall in the rut and never climb out?<\/p>\n

Or will you become a master of making yourself ridiculously happy again and enjoy the sweet connection that follows?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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