<\/span><\/h2>\nIn the beginning of my surrendering journey, I\u2019d forget to be respectful and end up causing a big fight. I\u2019d tell my husband how to drive, or correct his way of disciplining the children, and realize what I\u2019d done only after I felt the chilling effect.<\/p>\n
Laura taught me that when that happened, I could apologize for being disrespectful. That was soooo uncomfortable, but it restored the connection in a hurry.<\/p>\n
I wanted to be a respectful wife anyway, but I hadn\u2019t known how, or even that I wasn\u2019t respectful before. That was news to me.<\/p>\n
At first my husband didn\u2019t trust my attempts to change my behavior. I wasn\u2019t great at practicing the Intimacy Skills at first. But over time, with the training from Laura, they became my habit.<\/p>\n
These days I don\u2019t have to think about it much. My habits lead me along in a way that helps me create lots of connection and fun at my house.<\/p>\n
I decided to become a Laura Doyle Relationship Coach and expert in the Intimacy Skills because I realized that if I could turn my miserable marriage around in the direction of fun, happy and intimate, any woman could.<\/p>\n
Looking back, I can see that The Six Intimacy Skills\u2122 wouldn\u2019t have become my habit if I hadn\u2019t invested in coaching and training to become a coach.<\/p>\n
Reading a book or a blog just wasn\u2019t enough for me. I mean, I have dozens–okay, hundreds–of books on my bookshelf that I haven\u2019t even read yet. I can ignore the fact I spent $15 on a book, but investing with Laura made me focus and apply myself.<\/p>\n
Making that investment so I had a mentor and support gave me inspiration and structure, which ultimately helped me succeed in changing my habits. I made a commitment to myself, to changing my life and my marriage, and because I had invested, I did the work.<\/p>\n
It was the best money I ever spent, because without it, I wouldn\u2019t have the fairytale marriage I have today.<\/p>\n
That was 15 years ago, and today I still enjoy the passionate, playful relationship I dreamed of when I was a little girl.<\/p>\n
What\u2019s my secret for success? I\u2019ll tell you: as a coach, I\u2019m always talking to other women about the Intimacy Skills, and that\u2019s kept them alive in my marriage. Helping other women on this journey keeps me from slipping back into my old habits of blaming my husband instead of looking at what I\u2019m contributing.<\/p>\n
These days, I talk to thousands of women who reach out to us for advice about their relationships. I\u2019m often surprised when women find Laura\u2019s website or books and they don\u2019t see the connection between the results they\u2019re experiencing and their investment in time and resources.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s painful to have a talk with a woman who clearly wants to be happy in her marriage and knows she wants support with practicing The Intimacy Skills, but is too afraid to say yes to herself and get it.<\/p>\n
I remember all too well how scary it was to invest in myself. I felt guilty spending the money at first, but compared to the cost of divorce, and the expense of my endless shopping for new purses to soothe my loneliness, and how much money I wasted in marriage counseling, I knew that this was the wiser choice.<\/p>\n