{"id":8384,"date":"2017-01-26T04:00:18","date_gmt":"2017-01-26T12:00:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lauradoyle1.wpengine.com\/?p=8384"},"modified":"2023-12-20T22:34:46","modified_gmt":"2023-12-21T06:34:46","slug":"healthy-boundaries-in-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/healthy-boundaries-in-relationships\/","title":{"rendered":"Healthy Boundaries in Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"

You have to set boundaries in relationships.<\/p>\n

Everyone knows that.<\/p>\n

But what if you don\u2019t?<\/p>\n

Since boundaries are places at the edge of countries where soldiers with guns stand to defend their territory, you\u2019ve gotta ask yourself: Do I really want those in my marriage?<\/p>\n

I know I don\u2019t.<\/p>\n

Barbed wire and gun turrets don\u2019t do much for intimacy.<\/p>\n

You might be thinking, \u201cThat\u2019s a different kind of boundary,\u201d but in my early marriage there wasn\u2019t much difference. I meet lots of other women who are as confused as I was.<\/p>\n

They say, \u201cI set a boundary. I let him know it\u2019s not okay to stay out late drinking with his friends and leave me at home alone with the kids.\u201d<\/p>\n

Or, \u201cI told him he had to end his friendship with that woman at work because that was violating my boundary.\u201d<\/p>\n

Or, as I used to say, \u201cI don\u2019t appreciate being spoken to that way and I won\u2019t accept you violating my boundary.\u201d<\/p>\n

Of course, I want to honor myself. I want to say how I\u2019m feeling and what I want. I want to feel important and desired.<\/p>\n

I want to be treated well.<\/p>\n

Today I have all that in my marriage. But setting boundaries never helped me get there.<\/p>

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Here are 5 bogus facts about boundaries, and what to do instead:<\/p>\n

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