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By an anonymous Empowered Wife<\/em><\/p>\n

When my husband and I met over 20 years ago, I knew he enjoyed drinking beer or whiskey every day. As a hippie chick, granola type, I was more interested in herbal tea and berry smoothies.<\/p>\n

I felt a bit nervous about his drinking, but I loved him and thought I could adapt.<\/p>\n

Over time, though, I began to consider my husband\u2019s drinking a problem.<\/p>\n

When he drank too much, it was unpredictable whether he would ascend into charm or descend into insensitivity and mean-spiritedness. He could get loud, obnoxious, sloppy, dull-eyed, and make aggressive remarks.<\/p>\n

I did not like his drinking. I wished he would change. Then I would feel happier.<\/p>\n

I had no idea of the influence I would have over his drinking. <\/p>\n

Prior to learning the Six Intimacy Skills\u2122, I dealt with his drinking in a variety of ways.<\/p>\n

While he was drinking, I either avoided him or did damage control.<\/p>\n

When he was sober, I had strategies to try to control his future drinking:<\/p>\n

I told him how I felt\u2014anxious, hurt, embarrassed.<\/p>\n

I expressed my worry about his health if he continued drinking. I told him his liver might fail.<\/p>\n

I questioned him. \u201cWhy is drinking so important to you?\u201d Or, \u201cIs it really necessary to have alcohol at every family gathering?\u201d<\/p>

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I tried freezing him out to let him know I was unhappy with his drinking.<\/p>\n

I reminded him it was before noon and asked, \u201cWho drinks before noon?\u201d<\/p>\n

I accused him\u2026 of getting drunk, of neglecting me, of choosing alcohol over me.<\/p>\n

I suggested he get a professional alcohol evaluation.<\/p>\n

I used his drinking as a bargaining chip. \u201cYou get your beer. I think I should be able to get a cat.\u201d He hated cats.<\/p>\n

None of my strategies curtailed his drinking. Nor did they bring us closer. Instead, they triggered defensiveness, attack, and increased marital distance and discord.<\/p>\n

I did manage to get a cat out of the deal, but he hated the cat and it became a source of even greater contention between us.<\/p>\n

Fast forward. After 20 years of marriage, I was fortunate enough to find and begin applying the Intimacy Skills. I made some initial progress by reading some of Laura Doyle\u2019s books and later deepened my practice of the Skills through coach training.<\/p>\n

I learned about Spouse-Fulfilling Prophecies (SFPs) and discovered that I had a negative SFP: \u201cMy husband is a problem drinker.\u201d<\/p>\n

To me it seemed true. I had evidence.<\/p>\n

One day an acquaintance visited us. Her husband had been a colleague and drinking buddy to my husband many years prior. She complained that her husband, since retirement, did not do much except drink. She sounded exasperated.<\/p>\n

Her husband sounded even worse than mine. After she left, I turned to my husband and said, \u201cI am so grateful you are such a responsible, light to moderate drinker.\u201d A positive Spouse-Fulfilling Prophecy was born in that moment.<\/p>\n

His face lit up and he responded, \u201cYeah, that\u2019s right.\u201d He acted like I finally got him.<\/p>\n

I was surprised he believed my statement and didn\u2019t accuse me of being sarcastic. I did not really believe it myself. It felt like a real stretch to me.<\/p>\n

I started playing mini-detective and began actively looking for evidence to support this new SFP anyway.<\/p>\n

I found evidence. He did not drink and drive\u2014responsible. He did not drink during work hours\u2014responsible.<\/p>\n

If he came home from a bar looking like he’d had one too many, I began to say, \u201cThat is not like you to drink so much. You are such a responsible, light to moderate drinker.\u201d<\/p>\n

He agreed it was not like him. He began to do self-analysis and say things like, \u201cI should have had something to eat before the beers. I wouldn\u2019t have been so affected.\u201d<\/p>\n

I noticed he started coming home from the bar telling stories about how other guys were drinking too much and acting loud and obnoxious. Ha. He then reported, \u201cI just had one beer.\u201d<\/p>\n

I responded, \u201cI am so grateful you are such a responsible drinker.\u201d He beamed.<\/p>\n

While working on this SFP, I was also practicing other Intimacy Skills.<\/p>\n

I became more respectful and less controlling. I stopped criticizing him for his drinking. I stopped giving him advice, complaining, and questioning his choices, and I stopped freezing him out when I disapproved.<\/p>\n

If he said anything insensitive, I just started saying \u201couch\u201d and putting on duct tape. That stopped arguments.<\/p>\n

I kept myself happy. For example, if he was drinking and I began to feel anxious, I would immediately turn to my own self-care. I\u2019d take the dog for a walk or call a friend. Attending to my own happiness alleviated my anxiety and eliminated resentment.<\/p>\n

On one occasion this year, we gathered with family and friends at our family cabin. I knew there was potential for a lot of drinking that day. When several others went to the bar to watch sports, I opted to stay back at the cabin. This was self-care for me.<\/p>\n

When I showed up at the bar to pick up my husband at the prearranged time, he loudly told me to sit down. I felt anxious and did not want to be in the bar waiting for him. In a friendly tone, I said I would be in the car and he could come out when he was ready. I enjoyed reading my book in the solitude of my car.<\/p>\n

When he came out, he thanked me and promptly fell asleep while I drove home. No needless emotional turmoil (NET). Whoo.<\/p>\n

Recently, we were on a cruise. We were given two drink tickets for an excursion. When we arrived at the excursion, they told us we could upgrade to unlimited drinks for the day for an extra $10.<\/p>\n

My husband immediately jumped on it, then paused, changed his mind, and stated, \u201cTwo is enough.\u201d Wow. I was so pleased.<\/p>\n

Although things are not perfect in our home, they are so much more peaceful. While my husband still drinks a little daily, I do not think of him as a problem drinker. I feel relaxed and no longer worry about his drinking. I truly see him as a responsible, light to moderate drinker\u2014not to mention a sweet and thoughtful guy (another SFP).<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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