{"id":8742,"date":"2017-07-13T04:00:19","date_gmt":"2017-07-13T11:00:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lauradoyle1.wpengine.com\/?p=8742"},"modified":"2023-12-20T22:34:37","modified_gmt":"2023-12-21T06:34:37","slug":"is-my-relationship-normal","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/is-my-relationship-normal\/","title":{"rendered":"Is My Relationship Normal"},"content":{"rendered":"

When there\u2019s a breakdown in your relationship, it can trigger shame.<\/p>\n

You don’t want other people to know what he just called you, or how you\u2019ve been sleeping separately, or that he punched a wall or shook one of the kids or isn\u2019t coming home at night.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re scared like that, it\u2019s normal to want to protect yourself from judgment.<\/p>\n

That means you can\u2019t compare notes with others to see if that happens at their house too. You\u2019re left feeling alone.<\/p>\n

If you did talk about what\u2019s really going on at your house, the person you share it with may tell you that you shouldn\u2019t tolerate that behavior. They might urge you to leave and question your judgment if you don\u2019t.<\/p>\n

The shame keeps you isolated in the worst way. Most of us will go a long way to avoid that feeling of shame because it feels like life or death.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why I didn\u2019t want anyone to know about the struggles in my marriage. I wanted to keep my status in the tribe.<\/p>\n

So I suffered silently, but it wasn\u2019t necessary.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s how to know if your relationship is normal.<\/p>\n

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