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By Dien, Empowered Woman
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It was actually my husband who first read The Surrendered Wife.<\/p>\n

He said he thought it would help our relationship if I considered some of the ideas. I looked at the title, and I was so angry.<\/p>\n

How dare he blame this on me!<\/p>\n

I really thought that I was doing everything right. If only he would change, our life would be happier.<\/p>\n

After moving to England, I often told him, \u201cI gave up my life in Canada to be here with you. At least you could make an effort!\u201d I was honest and blunt about my feelings, to the point of rudeness. But the more I told him how to be a good husband, the more distant he became.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s what I didn\u2019t know about how to have a peaceful, intimate marriage.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

I\u2019m not sure how I got to be so unhappy, angry, and lonely in my marriage.<\/p>\n

Was it postnatal depression since the birth of our son three months earlier? Was it because my husband was out of the house three nights a week for badminton, live music and football? Was it because I had not made new friends in this small town?<\/p>\n

I wanted to be happy, but I just didn\u2019t know how. To make matters worse, I blamed my husband for my unhappiness.<\/p>\n

What happened to the guy I had fallen in love with?<\/p>\n

Was this the same man who used to drive three hours from Wales to England each way every weekend for a whole year to see me? The one who flew to Canada after we broke up to work things out? The one who had said he was crazy about me?<\/p>\n

At times he would jokingly say, \u201cPlease stop disrespecting me.\u201d<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t think I was disrespecting him. I thought he was being too sensitive.<\/p>

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He accused me of having a ghetto attitude and always being ready for a fight. In defense, I called him a country boy with no street sense.<\/p>\n

I remember the day I decided to surrender.<\/p>\n

I was going to let him have it. I called him at work and ran off a list of complaints. When I was finished my rant, I heard him crying.<\/p>\n

He said he\u2019d had to leave the office because I was yelling into the phone so loud that he was worried his colleagues could hear. He was sitting on the ground between two cars in the parking lot, sobbing and waiting for me to stop yelling.<\/p>\n

He said, \u201cI\u2019m a grown man and I\u2019m in a car park crying. Things shouldn\u2019t be like this. I can\u2019t take this anymore.\u201d<\/p>\n

He was right.<\/p>\n

Things shouldn\u2019t be like this. I decided that something needed to change.<\/p>\n

I packed my copy of The Surrendered Wife<\/em> and took the baby to a friend\u2019s house for a week. When my husband had recommended the book, I dismissed it as soon as I got to the part about relinquishing control of the finances.<\/p>\n

This time, I read the entire book in a week–twice.<\/p>\n

I was so desperate for things to change in my marriage. I decided to try everything that was in the book.<\/p>\n

I returned to my husband a grateful wife. I thanked him for making me coffee, taking care of our son, playing music with me, washing up after dinner, and going to work so I could stay home with our newborn.<\/p>\n

I stopped complaining to him. I stopped telling him what to do. If he asked for my opinion on something that was his to decide, I would smile and say, \u201cWhatever you think. I trust you.\u201d<\/p>\n

I started to respect him for who he was and made it a priority to show that I really respected his decisions by supporting instead of criticizing him.<\/p>\n

I decided to get rid of the ghetto attitude by talking nicely to my husband instead of swearing and rolling my eyes at him.<\/p>\n

I started to schedule three self-care activities a day, focusing on what I could do to make myself happy. I called my friends more often for girl talk. I started to play my violin again. I made time every day for a nap, a walk in the park, and writing a gratitude list in my journal.<\/p>\n

I saw results immediately.<\/p>\n

We argued less. We started laughing together again. He was home more often.<\/p>\n

When I surrendered, he responded well. When I fell back into my old ways of nagging, complaining, blaming and yelling, he retreated emotionally.<\/p>\n

It became clear to me that surrendering brings peace and happiness. Non-surrendering brings me back to feeling lonely and sad in my marriage.<\/p>\n

I could see that things were improving between us, but I still yearned for them to be better. I googled \u201cLaura Doyle\u201d and read her blogs. I purchased her other books and read them daily for inspiration.<\/p>\n

My girlfriends were calling me to vent about their husbands or partners, and I would talk to them about surrendering. All of this was going on without my husband\u2019s knowledge.<\/p>\n

Surrendering did not come naturally to me. I felt I was speaking a whole new language.<\/p>\n

So one day, I decided that I wanted to enroll in Laura\u2019s Relationship Coach Training program.<\/p>\n

It was time to confess to my husband that I had reread the book that he\u2019d recommended years ago.<\/p>\n

I was worried that he would think I was somehow being fake in my marriage by following a handful of Skills. He was surprised to learn that I had reread the book. He also said, \u201cI did notice that things had changed. I thought it was strange that you kept saying \u2018Whatever you think.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n

The decision to surrender saved my marriage.<\/p>\n

The Six Intimacy Skills\u2122 have brought peace and intimacy back in my relationship. I definitely want more of it. I continue to practice the Intimacy Skills every day in my marriage, and I am so grateful for every opportunity to apply them.<\/p>\n

I don’t feel like a fake at all. In fact, I feel more myself when I am feminine. I definitely feel more cherished, loved and adored by my husband.<\/p>\n

I am so much happier with who I have become.
\n\"Empowered<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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