{"id":9249,"date":"2018-05-31T04:00:23","date_gmt":"2018-05-31T11:00:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lauradoyle1.wpengine.com\/?p=9249"},"modified":"2023-12-20T22:34:20","modified_gmt":"2023-12-21T06:34:20","slug":"my-husband-wants-to-leave-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/my-husband-wants-to-leave-me\/","title":{"rendered":"My Husband Wants to Leave Me"},"content":{"rendered":"

By Empowered Wife Rebecca P.<\/em><\/p>\n

I come from a strong family of matriarchs, who taught me what they had learned from their own experiences: Men are not safe or trustworthy.<\/p>\n

There seemed to be plenty of evidence to support that idea, from my grandmother\u2019s whole family being killed in the Holocaust to a rabbi I trusted dishonoring me.<\/p>\n

My parents\u2019 contentious divorce when I was young also impacted my future relationships. I was ill equipped to know what a healthy marriage looked like.<\/p>\n

I married young and it did not last. When a marriage counselor told me to divorce my first husband, I listened. I remarried again, but with no skills to make that marriage any better, it too ended in divorce.<\/p>\n

After two failed marriages, I was done. No more men. I would not be hurt again.<\/p>\n

So I built a fortress to keep myself safe. I would not be vulnerable with men, even though I was able to open my heart to my children and others in my life. My fortress kept me safe for a while.<\/p>\n

It also kept me alone.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s what I learned that broke down my wall so I could connect with the male species. <\/a><\/span>Share on X<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n

My fortress became a problem the day I met a very special man, who treated me like a queen. He was my knight in shining armor.<\/p>\n

So I dropped my wall and enjoyed a five-year courtship. Just like Laura says, I was great marriage material\u2013until I got married.<\/p>\n

After we married, my protective wall went back up. When I was scared, I turned into a shrewish, nagging control freak who took my sweet man for granted. I told him what to do, how to drive, what to wear and even how to eat!<\/p>\n

When we fought, I had my invisible running shoes on and threatened to leave him often. I just kept thinking that if only he would change, things would be so much better.<\/p>

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