{"id":9533,"date":"2018-12-20T04:00:58","date_gmt":"2018-12-20T12:00:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/?p=9533"},"modified":"2023-12-20T22:34:09","modified_gmt":"2023-12-21T06:34:09","slug":"my-husband-and-i-fight-all-the-time","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/blog\/my-husband-and-i-fight-all-the-time\/","title":{"rendered":"My Husband and I Fight All the Time"},"content":{"rendered":"

Kathy Murray, Certified Master Relationship Coach<\/p>\n

My husband and I fought about everything all the time.<\/p>\n

Every day I told him what to wear, what to do professionally and around the house. I controlled all the money\u2013how we spent it and invested. I would even redo the laundry he had folded or the way he\u2019d set up the online banking because I didn\u2019t think he had done it right.<\/p>\n

He responded by shouting. Our home was tense and volatile, but I was sure that if Doug would only see things my way we could save our marriage.<\/p>\n

I started going to therapy, where I would complain about how much I resented him because he never took initiative. I was exhausted from working full time, managing the household budget, and raising four children and my husband too!<\/p>\n

There was so much distance between us that we slept in separate bedrooms. I was lonely, unhappy and devastated by the thought of a second divorce, but I also felt powerless to fix things.<\/p>\n

I thought our failing marriage was entirely my husband\u2019s fault, just like I believed that my first divorce was entirely my first husband\u2019s fault.<\/p>\n

It turns out I did have the power to save my marriage–and even to make it blissful again.<\/p>\n

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