How I Make My Marriage Loving, Passionate and Easy

How to make your husband love you

The Secret to Avoiding Potholes and Detours on the Road to Connection

By Leticia Vasquez, Laura Doyle Certified Coach

I live in Amsterdam, where having a bike is crucial.

Bikes let me fly through the city and arrive at my destination in half the time that a car takes.

I enjoy the scenery at every stoplight and I’m engaged in the world around me. I never have to stress over unexpected detours or long lanes of traffic.

In the rare case that I get caught in a snag, I know how to be on my way quickly. And it’s great exercise to boot.

I can get around without a bike, no doubt. But I’ll face many obstacles and delays along the way, plenty of speed bumps and red lights.

When things are going at an acceptable snail’s pace, a road is closed, and I have to take a detour. I finally arrive at my destination to find nary a parking spot. I go round and round, frantically searching for one.

By the time I park, I’ve taken so many detours and had so many near misses that my mood is not so great.

Woe be the person who crosses my path at that point. I can’t be held responsible for my response.

Except that I can.

And I didn’t used to respond very well, as you’ll see from this embarrassing story.

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Husband Drinks Too Much

Husband Drinks Too Much

Husband Drinks Too Much

3 Ways to Get Him to Pick You Over Alcohol

Like anyone who drinks too much, your husband gets annoying and stupid when he’s intoxicated.

It might be nice if he never did that, but the bigger question is whether your man’s drinking is over the line.

Maybe he drinks every night, or drinks to oblivion on a regular basis, or gets mean when he drinks.

Maybe he’s missed work, family events, or had run-ins with the law from drinking. Maybe when he gets started he just keeps going on a bender for weeks.

Aren’t those indications that he’s got a problem?

And if he’s got a serious problem, then doesn’t that mean you have one too, since you’re married to a problem drinker, or maybe even an alcoholic?

It’s scary to think about, because we’ve all heard about the financial, emotional, and health problems drunks cause themselves and their families.

But does it have to be that way?

In my experience, wives have tremendous influence over their husband’s drinking. Knowing how to use that influence wisely can make a huge difference.

Here are 3 ways you can influence your husband’s drinking for the better. Click To Tweet

(Actually, this works for any behavior you want to influence.)

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How I Single-Handedly Saved My Broken Marriage

How I Single-Handedly Saved My Broken Marriage

What I Wish Every Woman Knew About Relationships, But Most Don’t
By Kathy Murray, Senior Relationship Coach

When my second marriage was on the brink of divorce, I tried going to marriage counseling, but that didn’t get my marriage in any better shape.

It didn’t make my husband show interest in me, like I wanted him to.

It didn’t make him discipline the children the way I wanted him to.

It certainly didn’t improve our sex life.

In my desperation, I also read dozens of books about how to be successful in marriage.

Sometimes I couldn’t relate to the author at all. Or I would nod as I read, but still have no idea how to fix those problems I just mentioned.

But one day, I finally did something that made my marriage magical again. Click To Tweet

The effects have lasted for over 15 years.

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How I Divorced My Imaginary Husband (and Got the Man of My Dreams)

The Man of My Dreams

How I Divorced My Imaginary Husband (and Got the Man of My Dreams)

Could this one habit be blocking a passionate, playful marriage?
By Sarah Ellis

I used to be married to a figment of my imagination.

My imaginary husband was very affectionate. He always greeted me with a huge smile, and hug and a kiss when he walked through the door.

He was very romantic. He bought me flowers and chocolate and prepared candlelit dinners and wrote me love letters to express his devotion to me.

He always knew just the way to comfort me when I was down. He would say, “Honey, I’m so sorry you are feeling this way. What can I do to make you feel better?”

He always offered to clean the kitchen after dinner and never left a mess.

He replaced light bulbs and fixed broken parts as soon as I asked him–or even before I asked him.

He was so punctual and always accompanied me to events, arriving perfectly on time.

He was a spiffy dresser, just like my brother. He never had a stain, and I was always proud of the way he looked.

He was just like my father: really frugal with his money, never buying frivolous things like sweets and sodas and, of course, never feeding that junk to our children.

He always agreed with me and complimented me on my intelligence and ingenuity.

He always knew what to do, and never made mistakes or got us lost.

My imaginary husband was absolutely perfect–just the way I wanted him to be.

Until one day, I made a decision that changed my marriage forever. Click To Tweet

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Is There Hope for My Marriage?

Is There Hope for My Marriage?

Is There Hope for My Marriage?

4 Questions to Definitively Know Right Now

If you’re asking yourself if there’s hope for your marriage, it means you’re going through a lot of heartache. After all, no one asks that about a marriage that’s full of hand-holding and sweet nothings.

That question only comes up when you’re incredibly hurt and angry, and you’ve been feeling that way for a long time.

Even though it was long ago, I still remember feeling that way, and it was lousy.

I remember thinking there was no way things were going to improve and it was completely hopeless because he was not going to change.

Of course, I was wrong. Things could improve, and they did–beyond my wildest dreams.

And wouldn’t you know it–I was the one who had the power all along, just like Dorothy.

But what about your situation?

Is there hope for your marriage? Here are 4 questions to help you definitively know--right now. Click To Tweet

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