The Secret to Avoiding Potholes and Detours on the Road to Connection
By Leticia Vasquez, Laura Doyle Certified Coach
I live in Amsterdam, where having a bike is crucial.
Bikes let me fly through the city and arrive at my destination in half the time that a car takes.
I enjoy the scenery at every stoplight and I’m engaged in the world around me. I never have to stress over unexpected detours or long lanes of traffic.
In the rare case that I get caught in a snag, I know how to be on my way quickly. And it’s great exercise to boot.
I can get around without a bike, no doubt. But I’ll face many obstacles and delays along the way, plenty of speed bumps and red lights.
When things are going at an acceptable snail’s pace, a road is closed, and I have to take a detour. I finally arrive at my destination to find nary a parking spot. I go round and round, frantically searching for one.
By the time I park, I’ve taken so many detours and had so many near misses that my mood is not so great.
Woe be the person who crosses my path at that point. I can’t be held responsible for my response.
Except that I can.
And I didn’t used to respond very well, as you’ll see from this embarrassing story.
Hi! I’m Laura.
I was the perfect wife–until I actually got married. When I tried to tell my husband how to be more romantic, more ambitious, and tidier, he avoided me. I dragged him to marriage counseling and nearly divorced him. I then started talking to women who had what I wanted in their marriages and that’s when I got my miracle. The man who wooed me returned.
I wrote a few books about what I learned and accidentally started a worldwide movement of women who practice The Six Intimacy Skills™ that lead to having amazing, vibrant relationships. The thing I’m most proud of is my playful, passionate relationship with my hilarious husband John–who has been dressing himself since before I was born.