I Am So Resentful
How I Traded in My Resentment for True Partnership
Stefanie, Laura Doyle Relationship Coach
I remember when I learned that the word “resentment” comes from the French word “sentir,” meaning to feel. As in feeling something over and over.
No wonder my opportunities for chronic resentment were on automatic replay in my head.
And I lost no opportunity of telling my husband about them. I was overwhelmed and unsupported, doing everything myself.
My deepest fear had come to fruition: I was alone. Or at least it felt that way.
My definition of marriage had been clear (to me, at least). It would be a partnership, everything split 50/50: the bills, housework, childcare. But for some reason, this was not happening.
How could this be? When I met Marco, I didn’t think people like him existed. He was so happy. He said that the word “stress” was not in his vocabulary and that he was here to simplify my life.
But it wasn’t so simple. Who would want a peaceful romance when I could opt for drama? I seemed addicted to it, with zero experience having a peaceful relationship.
Here’s how I kicked the drama and resentment for lasting peace. Click To TweetHi! I’m Laura.
I was the perfect wife–until I actually got married. When I tried to tell my husband how to be more romantic, more ambitious, and tidier, he avoided me. I dragged him to marriage counseling and nearly divorced him. I then started talking to women who had what I wanted in their marriages and that’s when I got my miracle. The man who wooed me returned.
I wrote a few books about what I learned and accidentally started a worldwide movement of women who practice The Six Intimacy Skills™ that lead to having amazing, vibrant relationships. The thing I’m most proud of is my playful, passionate relationship with my hilarious husband John–who has been dressing himself since before I was born.