Restoring Your Dignity Also Restores Romance

Nothing erodes your self-esteem like hearing yourself screech, yell and complain at the man you love. No matter how provoked you are, each unpleasant word out of your mouth makes you feel awful, as you hear yourself sounding like your mother on her worst day. By contrast, when you stick to expressing your feelings and desires, you avoid having a hostility hangover, as well as having to make apologies. In … Read more…

How to Weed Out Men Who Won't Commit

My coaching clients frequently ask me how they can stop wasting time on men who aren’t ever going to commit to them. They say things like, “I’m at the age where I know what I want and I want to get married, so I don’t want to spend time dating men who don’t want marriage. So how do I tell them that on the first date?” Lots of women would … Read more…

The Real Problem with Your Husband or Boyfriend

When your husband or boyfriend is getting on your very last nerve and you’re dying to give him a piece of your mind, check to see if there’s something else that’s bothering you. Are you angry with your sister? Frustrated at work? Overtired? Hungry? Perhaps the issue with your husband is a misleading “red herring.” Often my desire to lash out at my husband is a cover for another problem. … Read more…

Don’t Make Him Wrong If He Isn’t Mr. Right

Recently a coaching client reported that she’d gone on a date that was a dud. He took her to a place she wasn’t crazy about, asked to sit in the bar even though she had said she was hungry, and during their date he often seemed to be looking past her to the TV. “What a creep, huh?” she said. This same date also told her she was beautiful, came … Read more…

The Thrill of Talking to the Uninitiated

One of the biggest thrills of being a romance coach is talking to the uninitiated. Sometimes I get a client who doesn’t know anything about what I do—she’s never read my books or blog, seen me on TV, been to my retreat or talked to a certified coach. She has no idea what she’s getting into. You can imagine the scandal that’s coming. All the uninitiated knows is that she’s … Read more…