The Thrill of Talking to the Uninitiated

One of the biggest thrills of being a romance coach is talking to the uninitiated. Sometimes I get a client who doesn’t know anything about what I do—she’s never read my books or blog, seen me on TV, been to my retreat or talked to a certified coach. She has no idea what she’s getting into. You can imagine the scandal that’s coming. All the uninitiated knows is that she’s … Read more…

Truly Terrible Relationship Advice Award: 1st Place and Honorable Mention

Check out this truly terrible advice from Dr. Howard J. Markman of the University of Denver, who wrote in The Huffington Post last week with great enthusiasm (two exclamation points worth) that “while many people associate nagging with women, that view predates the women’s movement and the explosion of research on couples, and is, in my opinion, one of the myths about marriage!!” I hope you men are listening because … Read more…

The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week Award Winner: The Wall Street Journal

No Wonder There’s a 50% Divorce Rate. With relationship advice like this article in The Wall Street Journal this morning, who needs mistresses? Simply follow the recommendations in this article and you too will find your marriage in a ditch. At least, that’s what happened when I took the same approach (all by myself—without the benefit of expert advice). No wonder I was so confused about how I got in … Read more…

Feminine is the New Feminism

Here’s the latest tele-class: Feminine is the New Feminism. What exactly does it mean to be feminine? Some people think of it as dumbing down or pretending to be less than you are, but I don’t know any modern woman who would go for that. I figured there had to be more to it than that, as half of all of us on the planet have feminine bodies, minds and … Read more…

"I’m going to walk down the aisle really slow…"

I read an excerpt from a book called The Magic Room by Jeffrey Zaslow that I just love. The Magic Room is a room of mirrors at Becker’s Bridal Store where brides try on wedding dresses and think about all that has led them to that place. Here’s one bride’s story (as told by Zaslow): LESSON 4: LOVE SOMETIMES NEEDS AN OPEN MIND TO BLOSSOM. Meredith Maitner, a 40-year-old first-time … Read more…