How to Communicate with Men

How to Communicate With Men

How to Communicate with Men

5 Life Hacks for Communicating with Men So They Hear You and Get You

Everybody knows communication is the key to a good relationship. That’s obvious.

But what if it isn’t?

I’m a good talker. I started talking early, and I never really shut up.

Growing up, my sport was Scrabble. I even majored in communication in college.

So when there were big problems in my marriage just a few years in, I knew it wasn’t me who wasn’t communicating properly.

The problem was clearly him. I noticed he didn’t even like to communicate. He didn’t listen, and he didn’t want to talk.

When I asked him how he felt, he said, “Hungry.”

Exasperating!

That’s when I realized I was in for a long “’til-death-do-us-part.” Divorce started to sound pretty tempting.

Miraculously, I then learned a few things about communication that they never taught me in school. And the funny thing is that after I learned them, my husband became a much better communicator.

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Should Beyonce and Sharon Osborne Get a Divorce?

Beyonce Divorce

Should Beyonce and Sharon Osborne Get a Divorce?

3 Ways to Keep Your Sanity and Self-Respect with a Cheating Husband in the Hizzle

Beyonce’s new video album came first, riddled with not-so-subtle clues that Jay-Z may have cheated on her.

These were the lemons she’d been handed, and since Beyonce is nobody’s victim, she processed her personal tragedy through her creative self-expression as an artist, aptly naming her album Lemonade.

Her message of empowerment was loud and clear, and the couple made no announcement of a split.

Next, Sharon Osbourne showed up to host her show, The Talk, holding a tall glass of lemonade, ready to spill about the serious defects in her marriage that prompted her to separate from Ozzy, including his alleged affair.

Maybe you didn’t release an album about it, or dish on a talk show about the betrayal in your marriage, but if you’ve been through it, you know how Beyonce and Sharon feel: furious, devastated, shocked, and unsure of what to do next.

Shouldn’t a self-respecting wife throw the bum out…even though she’ll have to break up her family in the process?

Or should she forgive him…even though she’s letting him get away with treating her that way?

What should Beyonce and Sharon do? And if you’ve been cheated on, what should you do?

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Husband in Midlife Crisis

Husband In Midlife Crisis

Husband in Midlife Crisis

How to Keep Your Connection, Your Cool and Your Dignity

If you’ve ever experienced your husband taking what looks like a sudden turn off of family life lane and speeding down immature, selfish highway—possibly in a new sports car—then you’ve probably suspected him of having a midlife crisis.

Maybe he stopped telling you where he is, or suddenly isn’t coming home at the usual time.

Perhaps he complains that he’s disappointed with life, and wonders why he hasn’t gotten what he wanted.

He seems to be throwing away everything you’ve built together.

He’s grumpy, depressed, and suddenly irresponsible, which is making you furious.

No amount of talking to him is creating the desired effect, as he goes along on his self-absorbed way.

He may even be saying devastating things like, “I don’t love you anymore,” or, “I don’t know if I want to be in this marriage.” It’s painful.

You may even wonder if he’s also given up on his vows.

That’s pretty serious, and terrifying.

Unless you know what to do.

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Healthy Husband

Healthy Husband

How to Get My Husband to Be Healthier

If you read one article about how to motivate him, read this one.

Control and intimacy are opposites. You can’t have intimacy when you’re trying to control the person you’re with, and if you want to be in control, the intimacy will vanish.

It’s one or the other. Like light and dark.

And everybody knows you can’t control other people, anyway—not your kids, not your spouse, not anyone but yourself.

But that doesn’t stop us mere mortals from trying. Sometimes we don’t even know we’re trying to control. We think we’re just being caring, and trying to help.

Husbands are too smart to fall for that, though. They know we’re trying to control them when we “remind” them to put on their sunscreen, drink more water, take their medicine or eat a veggie now and then.

They resist that kind of thing with all their might. That’s just human nature.

So that’s never going to help your husband be healthier.

But that’s not to say you have no influence. As a wife, you have plenty.

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Getting Over Being Cheated On

Getting Over Being Cheated On

Getting Over Being Cheated On

3 Specific Ways You Can Recover and Be Better than Ever

Getting cheated on is ridiculously painful.

It’s a betrayal that hurts like crazy and seems like it could be impossible to recover from–personally, and as a couple.

I mean, how could he?

It’s human to want to make him hurt too, and to yell and throw things. It’s irresistible to berate him.

From crying in your ice cream to asking your sister, “How could he do this to me?” your husband’s affair can take up a lot of room in your head.

You’ll find yourself desperately looking for relief from the sharp ache.

That’s when the doorway marked, “End this relationship!” will look incredibly appealing. It will seem like the fastest way to stop the same relentless thoughts from cycling in your head.

That’s just an illusion, though. The hurt won’t die with the end of the relationship. That’s the bad news.

Here are 3 ways you can save your relationship by making it better than it’s been for a long time, along with the specific actions that will help you get there and end your suffering in the process.

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Fulfilling Your Purpose

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I never thought it would be possible to write a book, become a New York Times best-selling author, and create an international relationship coaching organization. It still blows my mind sometimes.

The truth is, it took me years to figure out what I truly love and explore how to get to do it.

But I’m living my dream job. And I want that for you too.

The pathway to finding your purpose starts with honoring our desires. In this video below, I want to tell you a little more about what finding your purpose can look like and I’ve got an exciting announcement too!

Watch it here:

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How to Avoid a Divorce by Using Your Feminine Gifts (Pt. 2)

How to Avoid a Divorce

How to Avoid a Divorce by Using Your Feminine Gifts (Part 2)

4 Ways Women Have More Power Than Men to Make Marriage Last

Sometimes when I’m talking to a woman who’s struggling in her relationship and I mention feeling desired, cherished and adored, she looks disbelieving.

That’s too pie-in-the-sky for her.

Sure, she wants him to stop playing video games all the time, take out the trash before it’s overflowing and pay more attention to her.

Or if her relationship is in a crisis, she wants him to stop sleeping in the spare bedroom, texting another woman, or to move back home.

But she can’t imagine her man being tender, and looking for ways to make her life easier, and coming up behind her while she’s cooking to kiss her neck.

That seems completely unrealistic to her.

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That’s because she doesn’t yet know about her feminine gifts and how to access them.

Last week in Part 1, I gave you a glimpse of how women have more power than men in relationships to avoid divorce.

Today in Part 2, I’m going to show you the rest.

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How to Avoid Divorce by Using Your Feminine Gifts (Part 1)

How to Avoid Divorce

How to Avoid Divorce by Using Your Feminine Gifts (Part 1)

4 Ways Women Have More Power Than Men to Make Marriage Last

You were born to be cherished by a man.

At one time, you took that for granted.

You probably started fantasizing about it when you were little, dreaming about the moment you would finally meet, or kiss, or fall in love with and marry a cute boy.

You anticipated with great pleasure how much he would desire you, and how he would woo you.

You spoke to your friends and your sisters and your mom about the nature of boys, and marveled at how strange they are.

You delighted in romantic movies and books where the boy got the girl.

You obsessed. You developed crushes. They went nowhere. You agonized. You debated.

All of that was preparation for your job as Keeper of the Relationship.

Sure, you suffered disappointments and challenges in relationships, mostly because you didn’t know about your superpowers as a woman.

If your relationship isn’t all you dreamed it would be, this is the missing piece that you need to not just stop a divorce, but make your relationship worth saving.

What are the gifts of the feminine, and how can you use them to create lasting love?

Glad you asked. I happen to have this list of 4 ways right here:

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Alternatives to Marriage Counseling

Alternatives to Marriage Counseling

Alternatives to Marriage Counseling

5 Ways to Tell if You’re Getting Help That’s Actually Helpful

By the time I was trying to find marriage counselors, things were pretty bad at our house.

I wasn’t looking for suggestions on how to improve a good thing; I was looking for ways to hold the marriage together before it self-destructed.

I remember knowing that we just couldn’t figure it out ourselves really helped me to be brave about deciding to go. It was more desperation than courage, actually.

Of course, marriage counseling didn’t turn out to be helpful for us, and since a study at UCLA showed that 75% of couples who got traditional behavioral marriage counseling were separated within a year, it probably hasn’t been the answer for you, either.

So it makes sense to look for an alternative.

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Husband Not Affectionate

Husband Not Affectionate

My Husband’s Not Affectionate

4 Simple Ways to Stop Begging and Restore Your Magnetism

When I was at the lowest point in my marriage–feeling completely dejected and lonely because my husband was not affectionate–I kept reading advice from experts who insisted that the solution was to say, “I have a serious concern about your lack of affection.”

The underlying premise of this advice is that my husband just did not know that I liked affection.

Or maybe he did not realize he did not show affection. He just somehow…forgot.

But telling him to be more affectionate never works, as I’m sure you already know from trying it yourself.

If anything, that drove him further away.

Sometimes he’d leave tire marks in the driveway.

It wasn’t until I learned the 4 simple concepts below and started applying them in my marriage that I stopped feeling the urge to ask why my husband doesn’t show affection.

That’s because the smooching, the pats on the butt, and the fireworks in the bedroom came back.

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