How I Make My Marriage Loving, Passionate and Easy

How to make your husband love you

The Secret to Avoiding Potholes and Detours on the Road to Connection

By Leticia Vasquez, Laura Doyle Certified Coach

I live in Amsterdam, where having a bike is crucial.

Bikes let me fly through the city and arrive at my destination in half the time that a car takes.

I enjoy the scenery at every stoplight and I’m engaged in the world around me. I never have to stress over unexpected detours or long lanes of traffic.

In the rare case that I get caught in a snag, I know how to be on my way quickly. And it’s great exercise to boot.

I can get around without a bike, no doubt. But I’ll face many obstacles and delays along the way, plenty of speed bumps and red lights.

When things are going at an acceptable snail’s pace, a road is closed, and I have to take a detour. I finally arrive at my destination to find nary a parking spot. I go round and round, frantically searching for one.

By the time I park, I’ve taken so many detours and had so many near misses that my mood is not so great.

Woe be the person who crosses my path at that point. I can’t be held responsible for my response.

Except that I can.

And I didn’t used to respond very well, as you’ll see from this embarrassing story.

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Laura Doyle

Hi! I'm Laura.

I was great wife material until, well, I actually got married. When I tried to tell my husband how to be more romantic, more ambitious, and tidier, he avoided me. I dragged him to marriage counseling and nearly divorced him. I then started talking to women who had what I wanted in their marriages and that’s when I got my miracle. The man who wooed me had returned.

I wrote a few books about what I learned and accidentally started a worldwide movement of women who practice The Six Intimacy Skills™ that lead to having amazing, vibrant relationships. The thing I’m most proud of is my playful, passionate relationship with my hilarious husband John–who has been dressing himself since before I was born.

Husband Drinks Too Much

Husband Drinks Too Much

Husband Drinks Too Much

3 Ways to Get Him to Pick You Over Alcohol

Like anyone who drinks too much, your husband gets annoying and stupid when he’s intoxicated.

It might be nice if he never did that, but the bigger question is whether your man’s drinking is over the line.

Maybe he drinks every night, or drinks to oblivion on a regular basis, or gets mean when he drinks.

Maybe he’s missed work, family events, or had run-ins with the law from drinking. Maybe when he gets started he just keeps going on a bender for weeks.

Aren’t those indications that he’s got a problem?

And if he’s got a serious problem, then doesn’t that mean you have one too, since you’re married to a problem drinker, or maybe even an alcoholic?

It’s scary to think about, because we’ve all heard about the financial, emotional, and health problems drunks cause themselves and their families.

But does it have to be that way?

In my experience, wives have tremendous influence over their husband’s drinking. Knowing how to use that influence wisely can make a huge difference.

(Actually, this works for any behavior you want to influence.)

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Laura Doyle

Hi! I'm Laura.

I was great wife material until, well, I actually got married. When I tried to tell my husband how to be more romantic, more ambitious, and tidier, he avoided me. I dragged him to marriage counseling and nearly divorced him. I then started talking to women who had what I wanted in their marriages and that’s when I got my miracle. The man who wooed me had returned.

I wrote a few books about what I learned and accidentally started a worldwide movement of women who practice The Six Intimacy Skills™ that lead to having amazing, vibrant relationships. The thing I’m most proud of is my playful, passionate relationship with my hilarious husband John–who has been dressing himself since before I was born.

How I Single-Handedly Saved My Broken Marriage

Save My Marriage

How I Single-Handedly Saved My Broken Marriage

What I Wish Every Woman Knew About Relationships, But Most Don’t
By Kathy Murray, Senior Relationship Coach

When my second marriage was on the brink of divorce, I tried going to marriage counseling, but that didn’t get my marriage in any better shape.

It didn’t make my husband show interest in me, like I wanted him to.

It didn’t make him discipline the children the way I wanted him to.

It certainly didn’t improve our sex life.

In my desperation, I also read dozens of books about how to be successful in marriage.

Sometimes I couldn’t relate to the author at all. Or I would nod as I read, but still have no idea how to fix those problems I just mentioned.

The effects have lasted for over 15 years.

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Laura Doyle

Hi! I'm Laura.

I was great wife material until, well, I actually got married. When I tried to tell my husband how to be more romantic, more ambitious, and tidier, he avoided me. I dragged him to marriage counseling and nearly divorced him. I then started talking to women who had what I wanted in their marriages and that’s when I got my miracle. The man who wooed me had returned.

I wrote a few books about what I learned and accidentally started a worldwide movement of women who practice The Six Intimacy Skills™ that lead to having amazing, vibrant relationships. The thing I’m most proud of is my playful, passionate relationship with my hilarious husband John–who has been dressing himself since before I was born.

How I Divorced My Imaginary Husband (and Got the Man of My Dreams)

The Man of My Dreams

How I Divorced My Imaginary Husband (and Got the Man of My Dreams)

Could this one habit be blocking a passionate, playful marriage?
By Sarah Ellis

I used to be married to a figment of my imagination.

My imaginary husband was very affectionate. He always greeted me with a huge smile, and hug and a kiss when he walked through the door.

He was very romantic. He bought me flowers and chocolate and prepared candlelit dinners and wrote me love letters to express his devotion to me.

He always knew just the way to comfort me when I was down. He would say, “Honey, I’m so sorry you are feeling this way. What can I do to make you feel better?”

He always offered to clean the kitchen after dinner and never left a mess.

He replaced light bulbs and fixed broken parts as soon as I asked him–or even before I asked him.

He was so punctual and always accompanied me to events, arriving perfectly on time.

He was a spiffy dresser, just like my brother. He never had a stain, and I was always proud of the way he looked.

He was just like my father: really frugal with his money, never buying frivolous things like sweets and sodas and, of course, never feeding that junk to our children.

He always agreed with me and complimented me on my intelligence and ingenuity.

He always knew what to do, and never made mistakes or got us lost.

My imaginary husband was absolutely perfect–just the way I wanted him to be.

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Laura Doyle

Hi! I'm Laura.

I was great wife material until, well, I actually got married. When I tried to tell my husband how to be more romantic, more ambitious, and tidier, he avoided me. I dragged him to marriage counseling and nearly divorced him. I then started talking to women who had what I wanted in their marriages and that’s when I got my miracle. The man who wooed me had returned.

I wrote a few books about what I learned and accidentally started a worldwide movement of women who practice The Six Intimacy Skills™ that lead to having amazing, vibrant relationships. The thing I’m most proud of is my playful, passionate relationship with my hilarious husband John–who has been dressing himself since before I was born.

Is There Hope for My Marriage?

Is There Hope for My Marriage?

Is There Hope for My Marriage?

5 Questions to Definitively Know Right Now

If you’re asking yourself if there’s hope for your marriage, it means you’re going through a lot of heartache. After all, no one asks that about a marriage that’s full of hand-holding and sweet nothings.

That question only comes up when you’re incredibly hurt and angry, and you’ve been feeling that way for a long time.

Even though it was long ago, I still remember feeling that way, and it was lousy.

I remember thinking there was no way things were going to improve and it was completely hopeless because he was not going to change.

Of course, I was wrong. Things could improve, and they did–beyond my wildest dreams.

And wouldn’t you know it–I was the one who had the power all along, just like Dorothy.

But what about your situation?

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Laura Doyle

Hi! I'm Laura.

I was great wife material until, well, I actually got married. When I tried to tell my husband how to be more romantic, more ambitious, and tidier, he avoided me. I dragged him to marriage counseling and nearly divorced him. I then started talking to women who had what I wanted in their marriages and that’s when I got my miracle. The man who wooed me had returned.

I wrote a few books about what I learned and accidentally started a worldwide movement of women who practice The Six Intimacy Skills™ that lead to having amazing, vibrant relationships. The thing I’m most proud of is my playful, passionate relationship with my hilarious husband John–who has been dressing himself since before I was born.

The 30-Day Relationship Revitalization Plan

Revive Relationship

The 30-Day Relationship Revitalization Plan

From Tense and Distant to Playful and Passionate in one Month

Can a relationship really turn around in just a month when it’s been struggling along or falling apart for years?

It definitely can, but only if the wife gets the right information and applies it. She holds the key.

It won’t help if the husband tries to apply it, and this isn’t for couples.

But any woman can use this 30-day plan to stop the bickering and get back the sizzle.

But what if the husband or boyfriend is the real problem, you might wonder?

I’m glad you brought that up because that’s the beauty of this 30-day plan: He will change too as you implement it, even if he doesn’t know you’re implementing it.

It won’t be hard work, but it will take some focus and energy, like everything in life that’s worthwhile.

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Laura Doyle

Hi! I'm Laura.

I was great wife material until, well, I actually got married. When I tried to tell my husband how to be more romantic, more ambitious, and tidier, he avoided me. I dragged him to marriage counseling and nearly divorced him. I then started talking to women who had what I wanted in their marriages and that’s when I got my miracle. The man who wooed me had returned.

I wrote a few books about what I learned and accidentally started a worldwide movement of women who practice The Six Intimacy Skills™ that lead to having amazing, vibrant relationships. The thing I’m most proud of is my playful, passionate relationship with my hilarious husband John–who has been dressing himself since before I was born.

Divorce Impact on Kids

Effects of Divorce on Children

Effects of Divorce on Children

5 Ways to Protect Your Kids from the Nastiness and Heartbreak

You don’t need me to tell you how hard divorce is on your kids.

You already know, and it’s absolutely no help to your little people for you to be curled into a shame ball about how it might hurt their confidence, learning and social development.

You getting stuck in shame isn’t going to make your family happy again, or protect your kids from the effects of seeing the two most important people in their world fighting and distant.

So by the power vested in me as a woman who has spent her fair share of time curled into a shame ball over screwing up her marriage, I hereby absolve you of all that embarrassment.

You’re doing the best you can under the circumstances, and clearly you love your kids, or you wouldn’t be reading this blog.

You’re a good mom doing your best for them.

You probably left your marriage at least partly because you thought it was best for your kids.

Here’s something important to think about: there are things you can do to ease your kids’ transition, to save them additional heartbreak.

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Laura Doyle

Hi! I'm Laura.

I was great wife material until, well, I actually got married. When I tried to tell my husband how to be more romantic, more ambitious, and tidier, he avoided me. I dragged him to marriage counseling and nearly divorced him. I then started talking to women who had what I wanted in their marriages and that’s when I got my miracle. The man who wooed me had returned.

I wrote a few books about what I learned and accidentally started a worldwide movement of women who practice The Six Intimacy Skills™ that lead to having amazing, vibrant relationships. The thing I’m most proud of is my playful, passionate relationship with my hilarious husband John–who has been dressing himself since before I was born.

Mom Acts Like 3-Year-Old and Gets What She Wants

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Mom Acts Like 3-Year-Old and Gets What She Wants

By Stefanie Herron, Laura Doyle Certified Coach

I love eavesdropping on my three year old and his cousin. She’s four, so naturally, she assumes a position of superiority. Here’s one of their conversations:

4 year old: “You have to do whatever I say, okay?”
3 year old: “But I don’t want to!”

[Copious screaming ensues.]

I don’t blame him. That’s exactly how I feel when someone tells me what to do.

For example, my mother innocently suggested that I drive safely as I was leaving the house with my toddler. Now, I didn’t take to the streets like Evel Knievel, but I did notice a little demon prodding me to drive however I darn well pleased.

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Laura Doyle

Hi! I'm Laura.

I was great wife material until, well, I actually got married. When I tried to tell my husband how to be more romantic, more ambitious, and tidier, he avoided me. I dragged him to marriage counseling and nearly divorced him. I then started talking to women who had what I wanted in their marriages and that’s when I got my miracle. The man who wooed me had returned.

I wrote a few books about what I learned and accidentally started a worldwide movement of women who practice The Six Intimacy Skills™ that lead to having amazing, vibrant relationships. The thing I’m most proud of is my playful, passionate relationship with my hilarious husband John–who has been dressing himself since before I was born.

How to Stop Being Insecure

How to Stop Being Insecure

How to Stop Being Insecure

6 Shortcuts to Becoming Unshakably Confident

Struggling in your love life robs you of confidence.

Whether you’re single and wish you were happily coupled, or you’re in a relationship that’s hurting, you start to wonder if you’re defective.

You torture yourself with comparisons to other women who are younger, thinner or shapelier. You may even attack yourself and your looks with harsh criticism.

You fear that you’re never going to be loved the way you want to be, or be able to shut off the fears in your head about how love is a competition that you’re losing.

Self-doubt creeps in and camps out in your head.

Whether you’ve been cheated on or fear you will be, that insecurity is like a compulsion that’s hard to shake, especially when other people tell you to, “Just believe in yourself!” or, “Believe you’re worth it!” or, “Just be yourself!”

How in the world do you do that, anyway?

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Laura Doyle

Hi! I'm Laura.

I was great wife material until, well, I actually got married. When I tried to tell my husband how to be more romantic, more ambitious, and tidier, he avoided me. I dragged him to marriage counseling and nearly divorced him. I then started talking to women who had what I wanted in their marriages and that’s when I got my miracle. The man who wooed me had returned.

I wrote a few books about what I learned and accidentally started a worldwide movement of women who practice The Six Intimacy Skills™ that lead to having amazing, vibrant relationships. The thing I’m most proud of is my playful, passionate relationship with my hilarious husband John–who has been dressing himself since before I was born.

My Husband Doesn’t Love Me

My Husband Doesn't Love Me

My Husband Doesn’t Love Me

3 Secrets That Can Quickly Turn the Breakdown into a Breakthrough

When your husband actually says the words, “I don’t love you,” the hurt comes in waves.

First, there’s shock and bewilderment.

Your mind races with questions. How did this happen? How long has he felt this way?

Then there’s terror. What does this mean for our future? For our marriage? For our kids?

Then there’s deep, deep hurt.

He doesn’t love you. Does it mean you’re unlovable?

Making that immense pain stop becomes your imperative.

You feel the urge to protect yourself with aloofness or insults. It’s just human nature.

Flinging some hurtful arrows his way seems not only justified, but necessary.

They can be the gateway to a marriage that exceeds your imagination, where you feel as loved and connected as you did when you were first dating.

And you can have all of that with the guy who just said he didn’t love you, or is acting like he doesn’t.

Here are 3 secrets for getting from here to there:

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Laura Doyle

Hi! I'm Laura.

I was great wife material until, well, I actually got married. When I tried to tell my husband how to be more romantic, more ambitious, and tidier, he avoided me. I dragged him to marriage counseling and nearly divorced him. I then started talking to women who had what I wanted in their marriages and that’s when I got my miracle. The man who wooed me had returned.

I wrote a few books about what I learned and accidentally started a worldwide movement of women who practice The Six Intimacy Skills™ that lead to having amazing, vibrant relationships. The thing I’m most proud of is my playful, passionate relationship with my hilarious husband John–who has been dressing himself since before I was born.

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