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How to Stop Being Controlling in Your Marriage
It’s easy to assume we know what’s going on inside our husband’s mind.
But what if we don’t?
You heard Stella’s side of the story a few weeks ago. Today’s episode offers a rare glimpse from the other side – her husband’s.
This is Elijah’s story.
Elijah opens up about the early years of their marriage and how the discovery of his pornography addiction left Stella feeling blindsided and deeply betrayed.
Like many couples struggling as a result of addiction, she tried to cope the only way she knew how—through control, monitoring, and constant attempts to fix the problem.
But instead of aiding in recovery, her efforts pulled them into exhausting cycles of shame, hurt, and greater control.
Everything began to shift when Stella discovered the Six Intimacy Skills.
And for Elijah, her changes awakened a deep transformation that had seemed impossible before.
In this episode, you’ll discover:
- What control does to a husband (and what makes it worse)
- What happened within when she decided to relinquish control
- The conversation in the park that was a full-circle moment for them
- The impact self-care had on his feelings toward her
- What made him want to step up instead of shrink back
As Stella began showing up differently, Elijah discovered a confidence he hadn’t felt in a long time. He felt drawn back toward her in a way that surprised them both. What once felt like a marriage defined by problems slowly became a partnership rooted in friendship and trust.
If you’ve wondered whether letting go of control will actually work for you, Elijah’s perspective reveals what relinquishing control can do for your husband—and your marriage.
This conversation offers a rare glimpse into what a husband experiences when his wife practices the Intimacy Skills, proving that your changes are noticed, valued, and transformative.
Perfect for: women struggling to let go of control, wives dealing with broken trust in their marriage, women whose husbands struggle with addiction, wives who feel like they have to be the accountability partner, women exhausted from trying to fix their husbands.