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If you’re anything like I was, when you fight with your partner you both say nasty things.
It can be shocking to see how low this thing you live with will go.
And while I’ve said some regrettable things during a fight, the biggest thing on my mind when it’s over is that he owes me an apology. Big time!
And it’d better be a good one, to convince me that he’s really sorry and he’ll never do it again.
Until then, I will show that I am waiting for said apology by being distant and having an irritated look on my face.
That ought to motivate him.
But it didn’t. Mostly that approach got me a cold war and wall-to-wall hostility.
It’s stressful. It’s hurtful. Fortunately, I have a better post-fight game plan now.
On today’s episode I’ll share:
- 3 power moves to restore the peace and connection after a fight.
- My guest Jola was in an exhausting, lonely marriage and felt that she had to raise the kids by herself because her husband wasn’t there for her. They weren’t communicating and didn’t like each other. A divorce seemed inevitable. Then she found something that empowered her to create peace and connection and family hugs. She’s going to tell us how she did that and give her best tips for making your relationship peaceful.
- Then I’ll be giving out the award for The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week. This week’s advice comes up so quickly in conversations among girlfriends, and it seems like a self-respecting thing to do, but most of the time it’s just lousy advice.
Hi! I’m Laura.
I was the perfect wife–until I actually got married. When I tried to tell my husband how to be more romantic, more ambitious, and tidier, he avoided me. I dragged him to marriage counseling and nearly divorced him. I then started talking to women who had what I wanted in their marriages and that’s when I got my miracle. The man who wooed me returned.
I wrote a few books about what I learned and accidentally started a worldwide movement of women who practice The Six Intimacy Skills™ that lead to having amazing, vibrant relationships. The thing I’m most proud of is my playful, passionate relationship with my hilarious husband John–who has been dressing himself since before I was born.