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5 Bogus Facts About Boundaries
You have to set boundaries in relationships.
Everyone knows that.
But what if you don’t?
Since boundaries are places at the edge of countries where soldiers with guns stand to defend their territory, you’ve gotta ask yourself: Do I really want those in my marriage?
I know I don’t.
Barbed wire and gun turrets don’t do much for intimacy.
You might be thinking, “That’s a different kind of boundary,” but in my early marriage there wasn’t much difference. I meet lots of other women who are as confused as I was.
They say, “I set a boundary. I let him know it’s not okay to stay out late drinking with his friends and leave me at home alone with the kids.”
Or, “I told him he had to end his friendship with that woman at work because that was violating my boundary.”
Or, as I used to say, “I don’t appreciate being spoken to that way and I won’t accept you violating my boundary.”
Of course, I want to honor myself. I want to say how I’m feeling and what I want. I want to feel important and desired.
I want to be treated well.
Today I have all that in my marriage. But setting boundaries never helped me get there.
On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we’re talking about 5 bogus facts about boundaries:
- We’ll review why some of the most common beliefs about boundaries are simply wrong.
- Have you ever been caught between your parents and your husband? My guest Raseena was as she constantly tried to make everyone happy while attempting to be the Perfect Wife. Today her marriage is far more relaxed and her husband and family get along much better. She’ll share how this transformation happened.
- The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week encourages a take it or leave it approach that’s truly repulsive.
Hi! I’m Laura.
I was the perfect wife–until I actually got married. When I tried to tell my husband how to be more romantic, more ambitious, and tidier, he avoided me. I dragged him to marriage counseling and nearly divorced him. I then started talking to women who had what I wanted in their marriages and that’s when I got my miracle. The man who wooed me returned.
I wrote a few books about what I learned and accidentally started a worldwide movement of women who practice The Six Intimacy Skills™ that lead to having amazing, vibrant relationships. The thing I’m most proud of is my playful, passionate relationship with my hilarious husband John–who has been dressing himself since before I was born.