LISTEN TO THE SHOW: 3 Secrets Great Relationship Coaches Know When you’re struggling in your marriage you just want someone to help you fix it, or fix him or do whatever it is that’s going to help you stop hurting and feeling hopeless. That’s what relationship coaches do, but most people are more familiar with marriage counseling as the resource for a struggling marriage. So what’s the difference? On today’s

LISTEN TO THE SHOW: How to Make My Husband Love Me Again? I often hear this heartbreaking question from women: “My husband says he’s not in love with me anymore. Should I just give up and move on?” Who wouldn’t feel unloved and hopeless hearing those words? What a lousy thing to experience. But it doesn’t mean your man will continue to feel that way. You have a lot of

LISTEN TO THE SHOW: What can I do with my mother-in-law? Mothers-in-law can be pushy. Yours may think she knows better than you how to make a cup of tea, burp the baby or get the spot off the carpet, but it’s your beverage, your baby and your carpet, and nobody wants to be told how to do things. Sometimes it goes even further and you get the impression that

LISTEN TO THE SHOW: What are some ways to get more love? When your husband is on the couch watching TV or staring at his phone while you’re doing the zillionth load of laundry, shuttling your kids around for the fifth time that day or putting in long work hours, it can rub you the wrong way. Especially if he doesn’t even seem to know how clean underwear magically appear

LISTEN TO THE SHOW: How to Attract Your Husband in Bed If the sizzle is missing from your bedroom, you may think (like I did) that it’s because of circumstances beyond your control. The good news is that the real reason the passion is running low is probably something well within your power to change, which means it’s within your power to enjoy feeling sexy and desirable again. The key

LISTEN TO THE SHOW: 5 Bogus Facts About Boundaries You have to set boundaries in relationships. Everyone knows that. But what if you don’t? Since boundaries are places at the edge of countries where soldiers with guns stand to defend their territory, you’ve gotta ask yourself: Do I really want those in my marriage? I know I don’t. Barbed wire and gun turrets don’t do much for intimacy. You might

LISTEN TO THE SHOW: What are the 5 Best Date Movies for Fixing My Marriage? Watching a movie may not seem like an effective way to improve your relationship, but it is. If you’re lacking inspiration, motivation or hope right now, watching a film is not a bad way to get started with restoring playfulness and connection. I know it sounds like I’m making this up, but researchers at University

LISTEN TO THE SHOW: Four Things About Marriage Counseling That Will Blow Your Mind By the time I was trying to find marriage counselors, things were pretty bad at our house. I wasn’t looking for suggestions on how to improve a good thing; I was looking for ways to hold the marriage together before it self-destructed. I remember knowing that we just couldn’t figure it out ourselves really helped me

LISTEN TO THE SHOW: Three Things Wives Get Wrong About Husbands Imagine if your husband did and said everything you needed to be happy in your marriage, as though he were trying to win the husband-of-the-year award. What kinds of things would he do differently? Maybe he’d redouble his efforts to clean up and maintain the house or show up more for the kids. Maybe he’d be more affectionate, seeking

LISTEN TO THE SHOW: How Can I Cope With the Threat of Divorce? When I was on the brink of divorcing my husband, I was desperate to end the pain of constantly feeling rejected and lonely. I also hoped to escape the financial chaos we were stuck in and dreamed of finding a man who would better match me than the Loser Pants I had married. Convinced it was my

LISTEN TO THE SHOW: How to Inspire My Husband to Seek My Company? Around here, the TV seemed to be the main problem. If I could just get rid of the TV, I would get a lot more of my husband’s attention–or so I believed. Other women report that their husbands play video games incessantly, or work 117 hours a week, or have poker games every night. Sometimes it’s surfing

LISTEN TO THE SHOW: How to Stop Raging for Good? It may not have been my first rageaholic episode, but I have a cringe-worthy memory of verbally ripping my sister up one side and down the other in anger when I was in college. Her crime? She locked my keys in the car. I could not contain the barrage of ugly words that came pouring out of me. I said

LISTEN TO THE SHOW: What to Do to Stop the Silent Treatment When your husband is giving you the silent treatment, it hurts. A lot. I still remember how lonely it was when we had cold wars in my house. Your brain goes into an endless loop of thinking about how to get him to talk to you again. It gnaws at you and colors everything else in your world.

LISTEN TO THE SHOW: How Can I Be Loved Just The Way I am? I used to think being vulnerable was a sign of weakness. I didn’t think it was particularly desirable to be weak, so the whole vulnerability thing seemed like something to avoid. I knew I was strong and could speak up when something wasn’t right, which I didn’t hesitate to do. I wasn’t afraid to fight city

LISTEN TO THE SHOW: How Can I Stop Worrying About My Relationship? When you’re not getting what you need in your relationship, you worry. Are things ever going to get better? Or is this relationship a huge mistake? Is your partner ever going to change, or is this problem, this pain you’re feeling now, going to be with you for the rest of your life? You just want to know