How You Can Help End World Divorce
Ending world divorce may sound like one very tall order.
It might seem like something so big and overwhelming that you can’t imagine how it could happen, never mind how YOU could contribute to such a lofty goal. After all, relationships are falling apart everywhere you look, and it seems so normal, so business-as-usual to hear about people you know or celebrities tragically calling it quits.
But what if it were the other way around? What if divorce were exceptional and staying married your whole life were actually the norm?
What if that’s what all the cool kids around you were doing?
What if everyone were staying married and talking about how to make their marriage playful and passionate instead of whether to separate or call a divorce attorney?
What if every time you complained about your marriage to your friends or your siblings they listened and empathized then asked what it was about you that was stopping you from having what you wanted?
What if they acknowledged you for looking for how you could clean up your side of the street and celebrated when you were making yourself happy so you could have a happy marriage? What if the women in your circle shared their experience about how to successfully create a playful, passionate relationship?
That sounds like a wonderful world, right?
There is a small corner of the world like that: the Laura Doyle Connect Campus. That’s the kind of community our coaches, coach trainees and students enjoy. And that’s why you read this blog, I bet. Because you too think that marriage is important and you want to end world divorce, starting with making your own marriage last, which is the very best place to start.
We are celebrating 20 years of empowering women to be Ridiculously Happy Wives this year. It took me a long time to figure out how to have this kind of community, which it turns out is essential for my marriage to thrive.
Every time I hear myself sharing what I’ve learned, it reminds and reinvigorates me to be my best self so I can have the best marriage. That’s how I started doing this work to begin with: I wanted to have some structure and accountability to fix my own marriage, so I made my friends start doing it with me.
Having a community is a great way to be able to pay forward to another woman what you’ve learned about how to have a lasting marriage. Because what I learned is that the advanced self-help department is also known as the “help others” department.
So now you know my secret: that I’m here paying forward what I’ve learned to help myself. To keep my marriage shiny.
Now I have tens of thousands of friends doing this with me, which means we are so much closer to ending world divorce!
But how can you get the advanced self-help of paying forward what you’ve learned on this blog or from The Empowered Wife book or from listening to my podcast and experimenting in your own marriage?
And what might be possible for your marriage if you started sharing what you know with women who are hurting in their marriages? What kinds of breakthroughs could you have if you were paying forward what you’ve learned?
That’s how I got my breakthrough. And that’s how so many women on our campus get their breakthroughs.
So let’s talk about three ways you can help end world divorce and at the same time get advanced self-help for your own marriage.
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1) Share Resources
Option 1 for how you can personally end world divorce is something you might already be doing. I hear about many of you doing it all the time, and I want to thank you!
One of the easiest ways to pay forward what you’ve learned and expand your own community of like-minded women is to recommend this blog to someone who seems like she’s struggling in her marriage. You can share what it’s done for you or why you like it.
If you got insight and value from the book The Empowered Wife, you can recommend that.
If you’ve listened to podcast episodes and you got value from those, just giving someone the information she needs to become empowered is a tremendous contribution to ending world divorce.
Or if that feels too scary or too delicate to share about, how about writing an anonymous review of The Empowered Wife podcast on iTunes or reviewing The Empowered Wife book on Amazon?
You may never meet the woman you help that way, but what if your review is the one that resonates with her and has her take a chance on listening to a podcast or reading a book that leads to her saving her family?
Plus, writing a review is one way of telling your own story, a powerful way to shape your own future into the one you want to experience.
2) Join the Community
Another way to pay forward what you’ve learned about how to have a lasting marriage, and thereby help it take root, is by joining one of my programs.
In every program on our campus, you can get support from the coaches who run the groups, yes. But you also have the chance to get advanced self-help by supporting other women. That’s true in the Ridiculously Happy Wife group coaching program, that’s true in our Diamond private coaching program, and it’s especially true in Relationship Coach Training and when you’re part of the coaching body.
The communities in those programs are special because the women in them are highly committed. They’ve joined the programs because marriage is a priority to them; they believe that lasting marriages are important, just like you do.
Wherever you are in your relationship journey, even if things seem very dark for you right now, you have wisdom to share, you have empathy and virtual hugs to give, and you have cheering to offer for someone else’s wins, which can become your own wins when you’re part of our special community.
3) Become a Master
Option 3 is the ultimate way to end world divorce: by becoming a certified Laura Doyle Relationship Coach.
That starts with enrolling in Relationship Coach Training, a year-long course where you’re part of a small group of women practicing the 6 Intimacy Skills™ together at the highest level with the coaches and me.
You also learn our unique coaching methodology to cultivate the emotional safety to have conversations with women who are hurting and scared about their marriages so you create the possibility for breakthroughs and outright miracles.
Being a Relationship Coach and expert on the 6 Intimacy Skills is the best job in the world for what it does for my marriage and how it helps me be my best self. It also feels incredibly purposeful and meaningful to support women in fixing their families.
To end world divorce, we need coaches in every corner of the world.
So my question for you is: Are you with me on the mission to end world divorce?
Are you in?
How will you pay forward what you’ve learned so that you can take your own marriage to the next level? Will you recommend or review a book or a podcast? Join a program or train to become a world-class relationship coach?
And if you’ve already been doing any of those things, as thousands of you have been, then I want to tell you how happy I am that we’re on this mission together. Thank you!
I couldn’t do it without you.
6 replies on “How You Can Help End World Divorce”
Hello Laura,
I am the daughter of parents who had lots of good qualifies but argued a lot and my Mum often threated divorce. It frightened and upset me especially when I saw photos of them in love at the begiining. I saw the same patterns repeating in my relationships and I don’t want it for my daughter. I have been engaged for about 15 years. I want to get married (I think) to my partner but I want a happy marriage. He is dragging his feet however and after reading your books and listening to your podcasts we are more peaceful but he can be distant and is not sleeping with me since covid. I want to move forward but it seems a slow and a bit scary. Hope you can help as I do support your quest for ending, world divorce. I went through a divorce and it was awful.
Hi Linda,
It sounds so painful and heavy to grow up with a lot of arguing and divorce threats at home. I love your beautiful desire for a happy, peaceful, connected marriage, and I hear how frustrating it is when things move slowly or feel uncertain.
I remember feeling afraid of repeating old patterns too and longing for a marriage that felt safe and loving. You’re not alone. So many women, including myself, have gone on to experience the kind of connection and peace we once weren’t sure was possible. I know there is hope for you too.
You don’t have to figure this out alone. I’d love to invite you to check out the 6 Intimacy Skills™ blog so you can discover your next best steps.
I really admire your courage and faith. I’m standing for your vision of a peaceful, loving partnership.
Warmly,
Coach Brenda
I had the guilty of many things for not being a submissive wife.
Is this the actual goal? Something here is off. Modern partnership should not have to involve submissiveness on one partner. Sounds like eggshell walking for over stepping bounds. Sure a marriage will stay together as the male figure is exalted and gets to have the majority of the control/decision making. Equality in partnership means women should not be fearful to have a say in how to get somewhere or plan something or even take charge of something if it is not getting done. Maybe not in a complaining way but in a way that shows we are not in a corner just waiting for how the other partner will direct us.
Hi Amy,
I hear this feels off, especially when you want partnership and the freedom to speak without feeling like you are tiptoeing around. It sounds painful to feel like the connection and sense of being heard that you crave is missing. I remember feeling unsure whether these ideas could help me too, and longing for the kind of closeness and partnership I was not experiencing at the time.
What I and thousands of women have found is that with the right tools and support, connection and partnership rise where pain and misunderstanding had been.
If you are curious about what’s possible, I would love to invite you to check out this blog post on The Six Intimacy Skills™.
I love your commitment to creating a strong partnership.
Standing for you,
Coach Brenda
Dear Laura,
I wrote you in another moments. Your books and counsels always help me. But, sadly my marriage ended in divorce two years ago. I had the guilty of many things for not being a submissive wife.
However, I keep the hope one day i can remarry again with him, and i Will apply all the good counsels from you. I desire a world without divorce. For so, I share all good information with women or girls Who complaint of husbands or want to leave them. One woman told me, but you are divorced, how can you help me? I told her, because i want you have a lovely and Happy marriage. I know many mistakes to avoid, and what is the best in order to have a lovely marriage. He divorced from me, I didnt want the divorce…
Maybe I cannot remarry with the love of my life, or maybe yes, but whatever thing happen, I share your good counsels and encourage all woman to read your books and follow your blog.
Thanks a lot Laura for your important and good work.
Thanks
You’re welcome, Mercedes. I’m sorry to hear that your marriage ended in divorce when that is not what you wanted. You shouldn’t have to go through that, especially with your beautiful commitment. I admire your vision of reconciliation, which is what we see around here again and again, even after a divorce goes through. And your commitment to ending world divorce. You sound like a future coach too!