LISTEN TO THE SHOW: What to do if You’re Not Attracted to Your Husband When I married my husband, I thought he was the most handsome, smart, funny, talented guy I’d ever met. I couldn’t wait to spend the rest of my life with him. But a few short years into our marriage, I couldn’t remember anything I liked about him. He seemed pathetic, immature, lacking ambition and sloppy. He

LISTEN TO THE SHOW: What Does My Husband Really Wants on Valentine’s Day? Your husband doesn’t want flowers or chocolates for Valentine’s Day. Red socks or silk boxers or even a six-pack of his favorite beer won’t be as romantic to him as getting what he really wants from you. And I don’t mean sex, although he likely wants that too. But there are three things he wants even more.

LISTEN TO THE SHOW: 5 Signs of an Incredibly Happy Marriage I used to think that having a happy marriage was a direct result of marrying the right person. Now I know better. Of course, it helps to marry someone who delights you, but all brides are delighted to marry their husbands on their wedding day. So it’s likely that you did marry someone who delights you, and you have

LISTEN TO THE SHOW: How to Stop Compromising and What to Do Instead Some friends of mine couldn’t agree about the color for the kitchen cabinets. He wanted white cabinets and she wanted dark cabinets. So they compromised and got gray cabinets, and then nobody was happy. And isn’t that just the way with compromising? Sometimes it seems like nobody gets what they want. It’s lose-lose instead of win-win. Everybody

LISTEN TO THE SHOW: 3 Ways to Make Marriage Fun Again Remember when you first fell in love and you laughed together all the time? You two were so silly back then! It was so much fun to be together that you decided to become permanent partners in crime. Your relationship felt so light it filled you with hope and optimism. So how did it get to be this heavy?

LISTEN TO THE SHOW: 4 Ways to Have Deep Conversations with Your Man It’s natural to want to feel close to your man by sharing your feelings and hearing his feelings too. But what if he has no idea how to do that? What if you ask how he’s feeling and he just shrugs and clams up? What if the only feeling he’ll acknowledge is… hunger? You know he has

LISTEN TO THE SHOW: The Law of Attraction for Relationships What you focus on increases. That’s the law of attraction at its core, and it’s my experience in my relationship too, and what I witness with my clients. When I repeatedly suggested my husband ask for a raise at work, what I was really saying was, “You don’t make enough money.” Eventually, he stopped making money altogether. That’s how good

LISTEN TO THE SHOW: Recovering From an Affair: The Ultimate Guide to Healing When you discover your partner’s infidelity, a horrible sinking feeling washes over you–followed quickly by a wave of denial. “It can’t be true!” you try to reassure yourself, even as another wave of realization pummels you with the truth: This is actually happening to you even though you never thought it would. Being the victim of a

LISTEN TO THE SHOW: How to Get Your Husband to Want a Baby It’s so normal for you to want a baby. And then another, and even another. Maybe your heart yearns for enough babies to form your own basketball team–or even a baseball team. But what if your husband isn’t on board? What if he thinks you already have enough kids? What if he doesn’t even want one child?

LISTEN TO THE SHOW: The 5 Relationship Hacks All Women Should Know But Don’t What do men want most from the women they love? If you’re asking yourself that, it’s probably because your guy seems grumpy, distant or depressed. Maybe he’s all three. Early on in my marriage, when everything was a struggle, I thought I was a pretty good wife. And since my marriage was miserable, that meant that

LISTEN TO THE SHOW: How to Save Your Marriage when He Won’t Even Try One of the most painful things I often hear from a woman struggling in her marriage is hopelessness about her husband being unwilling to work on the relationship. She’ll tell me he won’t go to counseling. He won’t even read a single book. He says “we’re not together,” or “it’s over!” He’s already with the other

LISTEN TO THE SHOW: How to Recover from a Fight If you’re anything like I was, some fights come up in your relationship more often than a hit song plays on Top 40 radio. You don’t want to have the same fight over and over, but it keeps happening. You’re just talking about the leftovers from dinner and next thing you know, your mother–who isn’t present–is involved, and you’re both

LISTEN TO THE SHOW: How to Know if Your Relationship is Normal When there’s a breakdown in your relationship, it can trigger shame. You don’t want other people to know what he just called you, or how you’ve been sleeping separately, or that he punched a wall or shook one of the kids or isn’t coming home at night. When you’re scared like that, it’s normal to want to protect

LISTEN TO THE SHOW: How do I fix my broken marriage? How do you fix your marriage when it’s been so hard for so long that you just don’t feel like trying anymore? If you were one of the blog readers who asked that question last week, you reminded me of how exhausting that is. It’s awful. When you’re already drained, the idea that there’s one more thing you need

LISTEN TO THE SHOW: The Most Powerful Intimacy Skill of All Sometimes you feel like the only person at your house who is doing ANYTHING on the endless list of chores that must get done. Or maybe you’re the only one doing things the way they should be done. Either way, it’s a lonely, exhausting feeling. When that’s how it’s been for a looooong time, the last thing on your