15 Inspirational Quotes to Help You Fix Your Marriage
Remarkable Reminders of Why We Say “I Do”
Sometimes your marriage looks bleak.
You wish it were the way you imagined when you said your vows, but you didn’t imagine having cold wars, without speaking for days.
You didn’t imagine he would drink so much or that you would find him so unattractive when he does.
You didn’t imagine being married and feeling like a single mom.
When his latest hurtful words and neglect are still stinging, you can feel like a sucker for falling for a man who isn’t who you thought he was.
But that doesn’t mean you have to either be miserable-ever-after or get divorced.
So much of your experience is in your power, which is why I’ve gathered some inspirational quotes to help you rekindle your optimism and get filled with the energy you need to fix your marriage.
For some, marriage is our greatest accomplishment:
I am nothing special, of this I am sure. I am a common man with common thoughts and I’ve led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten, but I’ve loved another with all my heart and soul, and to me, this has always been enough.
– Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook
My most brilliant achievement was my ability to be able to persuade my wife to marry me.
– Winston Churchill
Being married develops our character and teaches us things we couldn’t have learned on our own:
Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.
– Lao Tzu
A great marriage is not when the perfect couple comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.
– Dave Meurer
Placing blame in marriage is like saying, “Your side of the boat is sinking.”
– Hank Smith
Marriage gives us relief from the aching loneliness we would feel without a special someone:
We need a witness to our lives. There’s a billion people on the planet… I mean, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you’re promising to care about everything. The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things… all of it, all of the time, every day. You’re saying, “Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go unwitnessed because I will be your witness.
– The movie Shall We Dance?
But having a husband doesn’t mean you’re never alone:
Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it be rather a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
– Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet
When it’s going well, there’s nothing better than being married:
There is no more lovely, friendly, and charming relationship, communion or company than a good marriage.
– Martin Luther
Come, let’s be a comfortable couple and take care of each other! How glad we shall be, that we have somebody we are fond of always, to talk to and sit with.
– Charles Dickens
Marriage can make us into our best selves:
I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you. I love you not only for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me.
– Roy Croft
It’s filled with grace for our shortcomings:
Love me when I least deserve it, because that’s when I really need it.
– Swedish proverb
You don’t love someone because they’re perfect; you love them in spite of the fact that they’re not.
– Jodi Picoult
Marriage is an ongoing lesson in surrender:
Something amazing happens when we surrender and just love. We melt into another world, a realm of power already within us. The world changes when we change. The world softens when we soften. The world loves us when we choose to love the world.
– Marianne Williamson
There is no remedy for love but to love more.
– Henry David Thoreau
It’s also a prize that’s well worth persevering for:
New love is the brightest, and long love is the greatest, but revived love is the tenderest thing known on earth.
All of which is to say that to love and be loved is a journey worth taking, sticking with and being grateful for.
If you’re feeling inspired, maybe now is the time to take a small step toward reviving or celebrating the love in your relationship.
Maybe you want to make a gratitude list for your man or for the life you’ve built together.
It could be that you find things you appreciate, things that make you happy, and let him know how glad you are about those things that he does or is for you.
It might be that you’re vulnerable and let him know that you miss him–with no expectations.
What action will you take to infuse your relationship with inspiration and light today, right now, while you’re feeling the love?
Hi! I’m Laura.
I was the perfect wife–until I actually got married. When I tried to tell my husband how to be more romantic, more ambitious, and tidier, he avoided me. I dragged him to marriage counseling and nearly divorced him. I then started talking to women who had what I wanted in their marriages and that’s when I got my miracle. The man who wooed me returned.
I wrote a few books about what I learned and accidentally started a worldwide movement of women who practice The Six Intimacy Skills™ that lead to having amazing, vibrant relationships. The thing I’m most proud of is my playful, passionate relationship with my hilarious husband John–who has been dressing himself since before I was born.