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My Husband Doesn’t Listen to Me

4 Ways to Speak the Language Husbands Like and Understand

Having the same conversation again and again, the one that turns into an argument or a cold war every time, gets old fast.

But when your husband isn’t holding up his end of the parenting, finances or household maintenance, you end up stuck holding the bag, which is exhausting.

You’re likely to get resentful if you don’t say something, but what if he gets irritable whenever you mention a particular topic?

Or, what if every time you bring it up, it isn’t a good time? What if he just won’t listen?

If he’ll never talk about it, how will things ever get better?

It can make you feel hopeless.

Here are 4 secrets to talking so he can hear you.

1. Appreciate Something He’s Already Doing

Husbands crave appreciation.

One man told me his wife complained that he woke her up by munching on potato chips in the car while he drove the family back from a long weekend in the mountains.

“I thought I was doing a good thing, taking the family on vacation and driving everybody back while they rested. But I didn’t feel appreciated. She only noticed that I eat chips too loudly.”

Another husband told me recently that he used to clean the kitchen but has stopped because his wife never acknowledged that he did it. “She never said anything, so it was like it never happened.”

You might be thinking, “I clean the kitchen every day, and no one thanks me either!”

You’d probably like someone to notice and acknowledge your efforts. That’s human.

To have a culture of gratitude in your marriage, why not go first?

You can thank him for ordinary things like making the coffee, putting the kids to bed or putting on a new roll of paper towels. And for big things like supporting the family or his character traits–like being fun-loving and generous.

When he feels appreciated, he feels successful in being your hero, which inspires him to want to listen to you because what you’re saying makes him feel good.

As one guy on the man panel at The Cherished for Life Weekend put it, “My wife was so grateful that I fixed the cabinet that I started thinking, ‘What can I break around here so I can fix that too?’”

Of course, you don’t have to say “thank you” to him to make him listen, but when you want him to be open, that’s a great time to look around appreciatively at what you already have, thanks to him.

2. Ask to Borrow His Brain

Announcing that you want to talk is the same as saying, “You’re in trouble and I want to complain about you.”

There’s a conversation nobody wants to have.

Most husbands will climb out the window or disappear into the floor to avoid that talk.

If you’re anything like me, you’re thinking, “But he’s not in trouble! I just want to discuss the budget and how we’re not banking any money for a vacation.”

But right there, hidden in your agenda, is a complaint: You spend too much/don’t save enough/don’t make enough.

And your husband is highly sensitive that you think he’s falling short. Your disappointment in him is pretty crushing, actually.

At least it was for my husband and for every man I’ve ever spoken to about this.

Looking back, I can see why my husband retreated to the TV so he didn’t have to continuously be reminded about how he wasn’t making me happy.

From his standpoint he was already doing his best, so my complaining didn’t motivate him to improve–or to listen to me. He avoided the pain of that conversation completely.

But if you figure out what it is you want and ask if you can “borrow his brain” about something, you can engage him in solving your problem, which he loves to do.

For example, you could say, “Can I borrow your brain? I want to figure out a pretty backdrop for my next video and I’m stuck! Any ideas?”

I said that yesterday, and today we’re shooting a video with the great new set design he came up with.

3. Express a Desire, Not a Complaint

Husbands can’t even hear you when you’re complaining. I know this from my own experience of complaining for years and having my husband tune me out.

I thought I was saying what I wanted, but I was actually saying what I didn’t want, which is what complaining is.

He just didn’t know what to do for me. He didn’t know what I wanted!

For example, in the old days I would have said how boring the plain old walls look as the backdrop for my videos.

He might listen politely, but he wouldn’t know what to do for me. He might think I needed a nap.

Double-check to make sure you’re expressing a pure desire–meaning no manipulation, control or complaint–when you talk to your husband. Just think of the final outcome you want and stick to that.

It’s so easy for complaints to sneak in! That happens to me too sometimes.

I was tempted to say, “I’m sick of these plain old walls as the backdrop for my videos, but I can’t use the windows because I look dark when I’m backlit, so argh!”

There’s no indication of what I wanted in that, which is the critical information my husband needs in order to make me happy.

If your husband is anything like mine, that kind of complaint will only have him tune you out again. So i just said it to myself and figured out what I wanted before speaking to him.

It’s not fun to listen to complaining to begin with, but when he can’t figure out how to help you he isn’t likely to tilt his head and say, “Tell me more!”

More likely he’ll search for something more interesting to listen to, like the TV–unless he hears a way to be your hero and do something that will make you happy, that is.

One woman was astonished though, that when she simply said, “I would love a glass of wine!” without any expectations that within minutes her husband was on the way to the store to get her some.

That’s the power of expressing your desires in a way that inspires.

4. Keep It Short

It’s tempting to go into a long story about why you’re thinking about whatever it is you want help with and what happened before and what your sister said and lots of other details.

If you want to express your desires in a way that inspires, consider keeping it short and sweet.

Once you’ve expressed your appreciation for something he does and figured out what it is you want, construct one brief sentence so it looks like this:

“I’m so grateful you put our son to bed every night. Can I borrow your brain about something? I’d love for him to clean his room, but it is not happening. What do you think?”

Then you can stop and listen to what he has to say. I promise he won’t try to jump out the window this time.

As far as whether to go along with his suggestions, that’s up to you. You could continue to refine your desire as you go along. So if he says, “Okay, I’ll tell him I’ll take him for ice cream after he cleans it,” and you worry about your son having sugar or a reward for doing his part, you can always say, “I’d love to get into a routine that doesn’t end with sweets.”

Another example is:

“Thanks for going to work every day to support us. Can I borrow your brain about something? I’d love to figure out some way for my mom to stay with us comfortably when she comes to visit.”

You might be surprised just how attentively and thoughtfully your husband listens when you use these techniques.

What would you like to talk to your husband about using this approach?


By Laura Doyle

Hi! I'm Laura.

New York Times Bestselling Author

I was the perfect wife--until I actually got married. When I tried to tell my husband how to be more romantic, more ambitious, and tidier, he avoided me. I dragged him to marriage counseling and nearly divorced him. I then started talking to women who had what I wanted in their marriages and that’s when I got my miracle. The man who wooed me returned.

I wrote a few books about what I learned and accidentally started a worldwide movement of women who practice The Six Intimacy Skills™ that lead to having amazing, vibrant relationships. The thing I’m most proud of is my playful, passionate relationship with my hilarious husband John–who has been dressing himself since before I was born.

55 replies on “My Husband Doesn’t Listen to Me”

wow thank you Laura your advise makes sense and helps a lot, I will try to follow these steps and give feedback, thank you once again

First, the reason why woman “complain” is because they are searching for support in their struggles and empathy for their feelings. Unfortunately, men do not read this language and often only want to change the way their partners feel. We just want to feel safe enough to feel down, listened to, and understood.

Stephanie, I hear you! Yes, I felt the same way and wanted the same thing. Unfortunately, as you point out, my husband did not respond in kind. Learning to communicate with the 6 Intimacy Skills gave me the safe space to feel heard and understood. If you’re seeking more ways to get that support and empathy you crave, I invite you to my upcoming webinar: How to Get Respect, Reconnect and Rev Up Your Love Life. You can register for free at

A so DOES NOT work. Tried all. I must be a fairy. I know I feel like one. Seriously.

So why do we the women half have to learn and adapt to their ways? Over and over I get the message that women are the problem and men are precious babies that we need to bend over backwards to please. I hate it.

I feel THE exact same way. Its tough when there isn’t the balance of the things we BOTH need to change. Husbands are called to be Christ in the relationship as Christ was/is to the church. The calling of a husband is a huge one and sadly I don’t see that taught much. The main focus is always on the woman and what she needs to do. Honestly I’m sick and tired of it. Coming from a wife who was a doormat for years and just can’t take it anymore.

Exactly! Also how does keeping it short and sweet work when going out on a date? You’re supposed to just sit there smiling , saying you like how he did this or that??

I couldn’t agree more! I hate the whole idea of asking for his help as if I don’t know what I’m doing. I know exactly what I’m doing: picking up his slack because of his inability to lead and make decisions. Going ga-ga over him changing the paper towel roll after I have to tell him to change the paper towel roll is the approach I would take with a toddler. I don’t want to be a mother to my husband!

10000% this. I have a toddler and a teenager who’s on games or his phone all day and rolls his eyes if asked for help. It didn’t start out this way. Things changed after we got married and moved in together. My mother loves the old “that’s just how men are, honey” to really rub the salt in the wound. Our toddler is paying the price. No relationship with her father, delayed language skills from me being the only one speaking to her or teaching anything, etc. We have talked about it. He literally couldn’t care less.

Totally agree. I listen to the boring stuff my husband talks to me about he simply doesn’t think what I say is important. I try to mimic his behavior and he gets really mad at me, that’s when I explain that, that is how he treats me. He now tries a bit harder to pretend like he listens to me but to be honest it’s not very satisfying because I can tell he still doesn’t care.

Same story here. My husband ignores everything I say. But I need to learn to keep it short and praise him for wiping his own butt. No, he needs to actually listen to his wife like an equal human being.

Your ” whatever you think” works so well. But this is one tip I forgot about. Think I’ll try it on new furniture. By asking him if he would like his choices in a furniture upgrade or style. Also I’d like to borrow his brain on creating his favorite meal everyday.

Thank you sooo much for breaking down the steps and the great examples of how to say things better!
Ive read the books and blog…and struggle with tweaking/approaching different topics.
Real examples of are AWESOME!

Great reminders thank you. Just want to clarify, you don’t advise that we do this about issues to do with our relationship though, is that right? We are supposed to do this about other things, and let the things we want in our relationship flow naturally from having more emotional safety, respect etc? Your advice is working really well for me and has made things way better, cut out pretty much all the fighting, etc, which I am sooo grateful for. However I still don’t feel adored or cherished much, I feel closer in some ways but a lot of the time still don’t feel that sense of closeness. I’m wondering if I need to adjust my expectations, focus on meeting needs through time with girlfriends etc OR keep focussing on improving my application of the intimacy skills? I guess I just need to keep applying the principles and learn to be content with whatever happens from there? (Btw I have attended webinar and don’t have finances for coaching unfortunately). Thanks so much for your life-changing help.

Jane, kudos on your commitment to practicing the 6 Intimacy Skills. I’m delighted to hear you’ve created such a peaceful, respectful relationship! I hear that there’s room for a lot more closeness. I remember the loneliness and longing I felt when I wasn’t feeling cherished or adored. Continuing my self-care, including turning to supportive girlfriends, and deepening my practice of the Intimacy Skills (including letting go of expectations) gave me the passionate, playful marriage I’d always wanted. I hear your commitment and know that you can have that too! I invite you to try the 5-Day Get Cherished Challenge at

I still really struggle with how to make my desire not feel like a complaint. For example, my husband collects “stuff” that he sells in yard sales “when he has time”. The garage is currently full, as is the side yard. He has not had a sale in months, but he still gets more “stuff”. Finally got everything out of the driveway and front entry after the last sale, but now, I am right back to having to navigate through all that “junk” to just walk in the house. Saying that I want to borrow his brain to figure out a way to keep my entry empty still “feels” like a complaint.

Great question, Lisa! I admire your commitment to expressing pure desires, complaint free! A few things that have helped me do that are identifying the end result I want (is it really an empty entrance or something else?), letting go of expectations, and expressing that desire when I’m feeling like a goddess of fun and light. For tips on how to pull that off without sounding like you’re complaining, check out my upcoming webinar: How to Get Respect, Reconnect and Rev Up Your Love Life. You can register for free at

Hi Laura!
thank you ,thank you
that resonates so well, I was struggling in finding that perfect way to bring up a sensitive discussion in a surrendered way. I cant wait to put it to use right away!
As always thank you for coming to the marriage rescue!

Great blog Laura, but I have a question. When you say “as far as going along with his suggestion, that’s up to you. You can refine as you go”……my husband gets offended if I come back with another refined “desire”. He says “You asked for my advice, but then you won’t take it, so why did you ask me then?” He then feels like his suggestion was worth nothing, and he gets hurt and then angry. Even if I don’t refine my desire, but I don’t follow his suggestion, and do my own idea, I get the same result. Any ideas?

Kelly, I’m sorry to hear that your husband gets hurt and angry when you’re making an effort to relinquish control. I admire you for being so committed to finding new ways to restore intimacy. I hear it’s challenging to borrow his brain when he gets offended if you refine your desire or don’t follow his suggestion. My husband used to get offended easily with me too. Practicing other Intimacy Skills in unison with expressing my desires helped them come across in a way that made me feel cherished, desired and adored. I’ll show you how to approach that situation as a goddess of fun and light, full of respect and gratitude, in my upcoming free webinar: How to Get Respect, Reconnect and Rev Up Your Love Life. In my experience, that’s a pretty irresistible combination!

hi boyfriend doesn’t care about my wants anymore.. what should I do even I completely expressing my desire it really seems he has no care for my happiness he just want to be with his friends. I just also want to tell him to limit going out with his female co worker but he get mad and tell me to shut up because he said I don’t have the right to tell him what to do.

Jenny, I’m sorry to hear that your boyfriend doesn’t seem to care about your happiness and keeps going out with another woman. That sounds painful. I admire your commitment to restoring the intimacy in your relationship. My husband did not respond well when I told him what I wanted him to do either. The 6 Intimacy Skills gave me ways to express desires in a way that inspires so now he is eager to please me. I know you can feel cherished, desired and adored too! For me, it took some practice for me to relinquish control of him and show respect for his choices. I’ll teach you all of those tools in my book The Empowered Wife. Here’s a free chapter:

Hi Laura
After 20 years of marriage to a man who is culturally and fundamentally different from me has been a challenge! We struggle mainly to communicate our wants and needs not because of language or love for each other but because we just can’t seem to get our message across without him being condescending and me nagging. These 4 tips seen to be a light at the end of a dark tunnel and I’ll begin using them (can’t wait!)

Anita, I admire you for being so committed to your marriage and having the courage to try something new! I can’t wait to hear how these tools improve the communication with your husband. If you like those tools, you’ll love my upcoming webinar: How to Get Respect, Reconnect and Rev Up Your Love Life. I offer other tools that have empowered me to create a playful, passionate marriage. You can register for free at

> You might be surprised just how attentively and thoughtfully your husband listens when you use these techniques.

Of course men listen to a woman stroking their ego, praising them. But do they also listen if there is no praise? Do they listen to what the woman thinks or do they just lap up ego kibbles?

Ida, I hear your concern about soothing men’s egos. I do feel heard when I say things other than praise to my husband and others. Gratitude is but one of the 6 Intimacy Skills. If you’re curious about how I supplement that Skill with others, here’s a free chapter of my book The Empowered Wife:

So a woman may only voice praise, appreciation and suggestions? Well, men should grow a true spine and learn to also listen to advise, critics and suggestions. They should strive to give appreciation to all the women in their lives do for them. I raise my sons to appreciate what the women do, I teach them humility and thankfulness. I teach them to truly listen. Something that does not come naturally to men. But it is something that demonstrated we are truly a higher form of being. It is a culture indicator and I demand utmost attention when they are asked to listen – no matter who.

Freya, you sound like a wonderful mother! To answer your question, I do voice things other than praise and appreciation to my husband. I share my feelings, which he is eager to hear. I express my desires, which he is eager to fulfill. It’s true that I don’t feel the need to give him advice or criticize him, which does not feel respectful to me. This is what works for me. I feel heard and adored.

> But when your husband isn’t holding up his end of the parenting, finances or household maintenance, you end up stuck holding the bag, which is exhausting

You are not addressing how to address this specific issue. To me it is highly disrespectful of a man to not listen. If he demands respect – he needs to give it as well. I think we need to raise our sons to become truly wonderful men who know how to truly listen to the thoughts and worries of their WOMEN. To take advise and get are into gear. Before demanding ego stroking.

Freya, I hear you! I agree that the man needs to show respect as well. Unfortunately, my husband did not seem on board, so it was empowering for me to find that I could do something about it. I love your idea of raising more respectful men! Many of the thousands of women I’ve worked with report that the 6 Intimacy Skills are helping them do just that.

When I try to talk about certain things he clams up and it has made it harder for me to broach things. I have just had news about my health – I had kidney cancer and nephrectomy 15 years ago, and another operation 5 years ago – and am now worried I may have to have another. I know he is worried about this news but hasn’t said much, even after I said I don’t really want another operation. It would be great to talk about it, but getting him to step forward isn’t easy, when he keeps things to himself and clams up.

Beth, I’m so sorry to hear about your health challenges and that it’s so difficult just to be able to talk to your husband about them. That is lonely. I acknowledge you for having the vulnerability to reach out for the support to change this dynamic.

I used to have a hard time being able to talk to my husband too. With the 6 Intimacy Skills, I got the tools to get him to open up. Now I can count on him being there to support me.

You too can have the support you deserve from your husband. I’ll show you how in my upcoming free Introductory Course on the 6 Intimacy Skills at

Hi, excuse my english please! I’m wright in a middle of a marriage crisis. I have fribromialgya and my husband is tired to hear me taking about how bad I feel how frustrated, eventhought i take care of most business at home, including cooking almost every day healthy meals and package hot meal lunch every night for his work, coffe, fruts and snaks. I am the want who fight for my gifted (dotated) child rights in school, i buy groceries most of the time. The cleaning agenda at home is almost mine. I need to recognize that he help me with the dishes a few days in a week, take off the garbage and take care of the doggies. I Know that our sexual relation and intimacy is not the same as it was before. He is complaining for it a LOT, and I know is fair. Its Mostly because my lack of energy, pains, the difference in our best energy hours, economical problems, his own problems at work, etc. He wake up at 3:3) am and works 10 hours a day and when he arrive home he is just exhausted. He don want not to here my experience during the day, frustrations or problems. Its a no ending circle, because almost every day is the same. In his defense I have to say hes a very charming father, he play with our girl even whe his back is in real pain. He don’t like doctors, so he don’t get attention and he auto-medicate himself with very potent pain killers. The point is, this is turning awful and we have already talk about divorce, I Know we love each others but so many situations are affecting us. We are not emotional connected any more. He have bad concepts about massage – therapeutic- and I’m afraid to make and appointment to have on to help with my pains. He dont trust people and use to criticize everybody, I think he suffers from PTSD but he does not accept it and don’t ask for help. God! is so much what is going on… I think is not fair to go out and try to find friends to talk with about my problems, just to avoid him the problem of hearing me and them come back nice chilling and sexy to fulfill his husband desires. We womens are different. We need to feel really love and feel our couples compromise. I’m am very confused. I want my 7 year old to life with his father, this is very important for me… I’m am in my 47 and he is in his 45. I think his having his midlife crisis and i’m and very close to menopause. This is just crazy! Please any advice?

Your article is great. Not only is it helpful for some, but it helped me feel like I am not crazy and have already been doing your list of suggestions to try to get a husband to listen. But after ten years… he still won’t listen and it’s never a good time to talk about anything. I’ve just gotten to a point where I ask if I am speaking a language that he understands because it doesn’t feel like it. He doesn’t understand that his lack of listening is disgusting and nothing I’ve tried has even got him close to concisering making a budget with me and actually following it. He just won’t do it. Everything I talk; he changes the topic, shows horrendous signs of “gaslighting”, says “it’s not the time” (it’s never the “time”. Ever. Ten years of trying to make a budget.), and he just yells and picks a fight if I ever bring up anything we need to deal with and he doesn’t want to.

None of this is healthy. So basically, the wife is never suppose to complain because of the husband’s fragile ego? Women should just start shutting down and watching TV so people feel obligated to baby us for bad behavior too.

Well, what if he never listens? Even when I am appreciating and asking kindly for his time? What if I have waited enough for him to come and sit with me for just half an hour? He always falls asleep when I start to talk, I even cry and he can sleep when I am crying and feeling helpless. I am just too tired of his behavior. I wish I could end everything.

hey laura i want to ask u…what if my husband never listen my opinion and never give attention in to it…but he always listened his mother opinion. ?

What would you recommend with a man who is just trying to hide the truth — sex addiction?

After reading the article and the comments I am moved at the plight of women today. I suspect men are stuck in their past evolution and genetic programming while women, who have rarely been respected or heard since ancient times, are evolving out of this need to please their husband in exchange for his respect. Would a man go to work and expect other men around him to give him kudos for the smallest tasks in order for him to be willing to listen to them when they hold a meeting to brainstorm how to do something better in the workplace? We can all agree the answer is a resounding “no”. Yet in the home and with a wife the man becomes a wet noodle when it comes to managing their lives together. It’s insulting that a woman must charm a man to be in a healthy relationship. Does it work? Probably. I mean, who doesn’t want to be praised at every turn and then uses that praise as payment for sitting down to have a conversation. The opposite, not being willing to have meaningful conversation without constant praise is simply disrespectful. The happiest women I know are the unmarried women leading meaningful lives with careers and freedom to manage their household without a man holding them back. I love my husband and as a result have not been heard in thirty years. It’s really taken a toll on who I am as a woman. I’ve been kind, supportive, given my body to him freely, loving, and worked while taking on all the burdens of a family. I’m done. And I hope for the sake of my future female descendants that men step up and see them as equals, worthy of being heard and truly partnering with. Also, another poster used the word ‘gaslighting’ when trying to communicate with her husband. This is classic mental abuse and something men have gotten away with for thousands of years, my own included. Time for change for the betterment of humanity. We should all be kind and respectful and listen to one another when in any relationship. Period.

My husband promised to fix my parents’ gate for 5 years and is still there (unfix) . How should I show my desire on this issue? Should I text him and say “I would like the gate to be fixed before a certain date”? Would he sees this as a control message? Please advice

This is sexist nonsense! If my husband is a big baby and won’t communicate like a grown-up, I am supposed to stroke his ego and lavish him with praise just for doing the simplest tasks? And then pretend to be a helpless airhead? Forget it. I’d rather not be married to a child.

This is asking women, who are already carrying the mental burden of maintaining the relationship and household, to also do the emotional work to navigate their husband’s insecurities. Women shouldn’t always have to be the sole ones in a relationship working to fix things – that is emotional labor.

I don’t agree with this article. It has to be a two way street. Women can’t be the ones always having to be considerate of a mans feelings and learn ways to approach him to get a proper response. When you have tried it all and it temporarily works- I resort to bitch mode or call it nagging!!!!! That’s the truth. This was his moms job to teach it to him. Majority women have enough on their own plate mentally, emotionally and physically on a daily basis. I know I sure do. I love my husband, but this is bad advice. This is a band aid fix and not realistic at all!!!!

I have been married to the same man 48 yrs. We have struggled with issues mostly his unhappiness with me because I do not live up to his expectations. He needs constant attention in the bedroom and life in general. He puts me way down on his list most days and does not help much around the house. I basically raised our three children while he worked at running his company and racing cars. He missed most of our children’s school activities and sports events, etc. I can never do or say anything right. I get yelled at for very stupid things. He always needs to be right! We have been in marriage counseling several times and I have gone to counseling myself. I have been told he has issues with his self esteem and his mother who he did not respect. He has a bad opinion of most women but craves their attention. I am tired and empty of trying to fill up this man’s ego and constant need for attention. I have very little life of my own. These things in the article did not work for me. I think women are getting tired of being blamed for men’s bad behaviors!!!

I am glad that there are other women here who don’t believe this is good advice. I read something else written here by Laura Doyle and was appalled by its advice. Respect is a two way street. Why on earth should women have to go out of their way to stroke the ego of their partner for changing the toilet roll or hanging a towel up when we never get anything like that back from them?? If we don’t kick back and speak up for what we need now and again we will continue to be doormats and be treated like they probably treated their mothers. We all need recognition and praise, for alot of us that is the reason we have female friends because they give us what we need to hear and receive. Men are not cave men anymore, it is time for them to realise that they have a part to play in their relationship and that a woman isn’t just a glass to be drunk from. I am happy to read here that there are women who are teaching their sons that women should be treated with respect and be admired. May they go on to have fulfilling engaging relationships. As for the suggestion that we have to literally pat our husbands on the head every single time they do something to get something back from them…. well – if we were living in the 1940’s then that might still be true, but it’s certainly not anymore!

So, as women do we want our ego stroked as well, and do we work harder if appreciated? Of course! If we cooked a nice meal, and our husband said nothing, or complained we weren’t a good enough cook, how would that feel? Then, when someone tells him to say nice things, and show appreciation to his wife, and his answer is, “Why do I have to stroke her ego? She’s not a toddler, and she’s supposed to pull her own weight anyway and learn how to work and help me more by listening to my criticisms of her.” How would us women feel? That’s what 1/2 the women are saying in the comments. No wonder couples hate each other. Even something as simple as being nice, positive, and curbing the incessant complaints is considered prostrating oneself? If you would like it, so would your husband. And, also we should be kind to others, because it’s a moral character trait to cultivate, that’s not dependent on what others, or our husband does.

My husband brother and pregnant wife have been living with us for 6 months hardly ever help pay their part of the rent or help with the grocery Bill. He has some court dates coming up to where he might be going to prison. I had done 17 months in a county jail without going to prison back in 2009 without any help from my family members. I’ve been married for almost 7 years April 7. I’ve expressed I’m not happy anymore taking care of them. My husband keeps throwing his court stuff up in my face. I told him I’m not happy anymore. I’m terminally ill. I have a Brain tumor and I have Trigeminal Neuralgia for 7 years now. The stress causes the my Trigeminal Neuralgia to act up but I thought my husband understood it. Then my license expired this passed August and my tags went out in September. I’ve gotten two no tags tickets. My husband has to work and I’m the only one that can drive. I’ve been on my husband about getting it all updated. And that’s another stressor. I’m so tired of dealing with it all. I felt like if I left my husband it would be better. But he doesn’t have a license so he wouldn’t be able to work. I would feel bad in those regards. Please help me with some advice.

Cristie, you are going through so much, I can just imagine how hard and heartbreaking. I can see why you’re not happy and on the fence, a painful place to be. I still remember being on the fence about my marriage and it was lousy. Turns out I needed support and a community to turn things around, and I’m so glad I tried a different approach so I could get different results.

I am standing for your vision for your relationship. You are the expert on your life, so only you know what that truly is. I admire your commitment in reaching out here for support with your marriage.

If you do want to give it a chance, here’s a free Roadmap of 6 simple steps that have helped thousands of women turn things around, so you can do it too!

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