Marriage Advice, Relationship Advice, Tips, and Help Articles
In the bad old days, when my husband John and I used to fight all the time or have cold wars, there was plenty of relationship drama. It wasn’t much fun, but over time, I got used to it. Drama on the home front was my habit. When I finally discovered and started practicing The… Read More »
As a former nagging shrew, I can tell you that it’s not an enjoyable pastime. It took me a long time to even realize I was nagging. I felt soooo justified. I was convinced that if I didn’t repeat myself and make lists for my husband and manage him, nothing would ever get done. When… Read More »
One of the awesomest things about being a relationship coach for over 16 years is that I’ve had the privilege of watching thousands of relationships transform from broken and hopeless to vibrant and connected. My clients often come to me after a stint of marriage counseling (which I don’t recommend for these reasons) or a… Read More »
Do you see other men tenderly touching their wives and feel like you’d give anything to be treated that way? What if I could show you exactly what to do so your man can’t keep his hands off of you and came home early from work to see you because to him you are the… Read More »
Your divorce might not be all your fault. Perhaps your parents’ played a role.They were probably terrible role models. Chances are high that they were either 1) divorced, 2) never married or 3) that they’re still married — but not in a way that anybody would want to emulate. There was no Relationships 101 at… Read More »
Divorce is like tooth decay: totally preventable for a woman with the right skills and habits. Unfortunately most women didn’t have good relationship role-models. We are largely the product of single parents, broken homes or marriages that we wouldn’t wish on our worst enemy — the equivalent of learning oral care from parents with false… Read More »
Valorie Ness You know what is the absolute worst? Remembering times when you were insufferable, pompous, belligerent and wrong, but too stubborn to admit it. I was often that person. A few years ago I was diagnosed with Crohn’s Disease and silently went off the deep end. To say I was unpleasant would be an… Read More »
When Laura and I first met, she was a 21-year old journalism student at San Jose State University. She had just gone to an event downtown and was dressed to the nines. Having just gotten back from the beach, I was gross and sandy. I had parked my pickup truck and was walking toward my… Read More »
Whenever a woman tells me that she’s having a lot of arguments in her relationship, one of the very first things I ask her is, “How’s your self-care?” Most of the time the response is that she hasn’t had the time to do much for her own enjoyment lately. That happens to all of us… Read More »
Cheryl Three years and two dismal divorces ago, I finally met the man of my dreams! Mike and I get along great, make each other laugh, thoroughly enjoy each other’s company, and my friends and family always comment on how happy we look. Nothing was really wrong with our relationship, and we could’ve continued this way, except… Read More »
