If you miss snuggling on the couch, dreaming about your future together, and spontaneous dance moves in the hallway, it’s disappointing when that goes missing. It’s lonely and sad. Without love, there’s just work and chores and sleep. All the joy is sucked out of your marriage. But if you want to feel desired again,… Read More »
Finding out your guy doesn’t love you back feels so rejecting. It hurts like crazy and crushes your self-esteem. It feels like you’ve been let down in the worst way when you least expected it. Your head races with terrible thoughts about how this could have happened, whether it’s hopeless, and what it means for… Read More »
First, a disclaimer: A coach recently shared with me that she decided to become a coach, even though she didn’t love her husband and believed she never would, because she just wanted to be kinder. She believed Relationship Coach Training would help her become kind, which was her goal—not to fall in love with him.… Read More »
It feels terrible when the guy who used to trip over himself trying to help and serve you is now only interested in staring at his phone or computer, staying at work all the time or playing video games. What a disappointment. You set out to be partners, but he isn’t doing much to contribute,… Read More »
Did you get married expecting it to look a certain way and then get let down when it didn’t? That is so discouraging and can even put your marriage at risk. These are the top 3 expectations that I had in my marriage and that STILL come up for me sometimes and for many of… Read More »
If you’re trying to practice the 6 Intimacy Skills™ in your relationship and they’re not working or you can’t remember to do them—or aren’t sure how to do them in your situation—that’s so frustrating and discouraging! You are not the only one. On The Empowered Wife Podcast, I interview women who have had success transforming… Read More »
Men are highly motivated to make their wives happy. Notice I didn’t say “some men” or “most men,” but just “men.” That’s because in my research where I asked thousands of men how important it is that their wife is happy, they ALL said the same thing. That “It’s the most important thing,” “Everything,” “It’s… Read More »
I was the perfect wife. Right up until I actually got married. That’s when it all went kablooey. But I thought that I was a good wife because I: Did so many things to help my husband Worked so hard Was sooooo smart I handled all the money for our family Was great at economizing… Read More »
When I first interviewed women who were happy in their marriages and asked for their secrets, they said these crazy things that didn’t make any sense to me. But I was desperate enough in my painful marriage to try what they said, and when I did the things they talked about, I got my miracle.… Read More »
In my early marriage when things were terribly out of balance, I was seething with resentment about my husband not doing enough chores and not making enough money, which left me with the heavy burden of having to make up for him in both areas. I had to control the finances since we were always… Read More »