After 13 years of marriage, I was at my wit’s end. I was frustrated, lonely, exhausted, and felt like giving up. There was no happiness, intimacy, or connection between my husband and me. Each day, the weight of feeling like I had to be all and do all for everyone began to take its toll. I needed someone who understood where I was at on my journey and who could point me in the right direction.
When I came across Laura Doyle’s book, The Surrendered Wife, I decided to read it because I was just out of options. As soon as I finished the book I realized that I needed to contact Laura Doyle and ask her for her help. I realized not only that she understood women, but that I was not alone in my struggles. She agreed to coach me in the ways of becoming a Surrendered Wife, and how to regain the passion, intimacy, and connection in my relationship. I was thrilled, hopeful, inspired, and eager to learn!
My first lesson was self-care, which I really didn’t understand. Laura explained to me that in taking good care of yourself, you will gain more confidence, be happier, and have more energy and a more positive outlook. Some of the things that Laura suggested were taking a walk, enjoying a cup of coffee, or even taking a nap. The point was to focus on myself and to find things that I enjoy doing. So I began a routine of doing three things a day that made me happy. Soon I was finding myself more relaxed, confident, and happier, and it started to seep into other areas of my life, including my marriage!
What I had realized through the coaching process and training was that my life was hugely impacted by the stories of other women. I began to connect with other women and help them see how to change their unhappy marriages into fulfilling, deeply connected and intimate marriages. I knew I wanted to become a relationship coach and inspire women like Laura had done with me, but I just didn’t know how to give up the big professional job and follow my heart.
After 20+ years as a CFO, working 60 hours a week or more, I hit a wall. I told my husband “I can’t do it” and just let go. I let go of the paycheck, the title, the stress, and the anxiety. When I truly let go and admitted that I could no longer live my life the way that I had been living, my husband showed up in a very big way! He came out of retirement and got a job to support us, he gave me time and space, he was supportive and loving, but most of all, he gave me the chance to be something that I never knew I could be.
I am now a certified relationship coach and work with Laura Doyle every day helping to end world divorce and empowering women to have amazing, loving, fulfilling relationships. For more info on how to connect with or become a relationship coach, please visit https://lauradoyle.org/become-a-coach