The Real Problem with Your Husband or Boyfriend

When your husband or boyfriend is getting on your very last nerve and you’re dying to give him a piece of your mind, check to see if there’s something else that’s bothering you. Are you angry with your sister? Frustrated at work? Overtired? Hungry? Perhaps the issue with your husband is a misleading “red herring.” Often my desire to lash out at my husband is a cover for another problem. … Read more…

Don’t Make Him Wrong If He Isn’t Mr. Right

Recently a coaching client reported that she’d gone on a date that was a dud. He took her to a place she wasn’t crazy about, asked to sit in the bar even though she had said she was hungry, and during their date he often seemed to be looking past her to the TV. “What a creep, huh?” she said. This same date also told her she was beautiful, came … Read more…

The Thrill of Talking to the Uninitiated

One of the biggest thrills of being a romance coach is talking to the uninitiated. Sometimes I get a client who doesn’t know anything about what I do—she’s never read my books or blog, seen me on TV, been to my retreat or talked to a certified coach. She has no idea what she’s getting into. You can imagine the scandal that’s coming. All the uninitiated knows is that she’s … Read more…

Truly Terrible Relationship Advice Award: 1st Place and Honorable Mention

Check out this truly terrible advice from Dr. Howard J. Markman of the University of Denver, who wrote in The Huffington Post last week with great enthusiasm (two exclamation points worth) that “while many people associate nagging with women, that view predates the women’s movement and the explosion of research on couples, and is, in my opinion, one of the myths about marriage!!” I hope you men are listening because … Read more…

The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week Award Winner: The Wall Street Journal

No Wonder There’s a 50% Divorce Rate. With relationship advice like this article in The Wall Street Journal this morning, who needs mistresses? Simply follow the recommendations in this article and you too will find your marriage in a ditch. At least, that’s what happened when I took the same approach (all by myself—without the benefit of expert advice). No wonder I was so confused about how I got in … Read more…