My Husband Has Low Self Esteem

My Husband Has Low Self Esteem

My Husband Has Low Self Esteem

11 Ways to Give Your Husband Swashbuckling Swagger and Self-Confidence

A confident man is a sexy man.

But an insecure guy is not very appealing.

When you see his doubts and low self-esteem, his indecision or inability to handle a situation you could manage with half your brain tied behind your back, it’s a turnoff.

You start to wonder what you ever saw in the guy. You want him to believe in himself already.

You want to see some conviction and manliness.

Every wife wants her husband to be confident. So how do you cultivate that?

Isn’t it something he’s got or he doesn’t? Can you even influence his self-esteem?

Of course you can. Just not the way you think. Not by telling him to be more confident.

You’re the woman who knows him best in the world, and what you think of him has a profound impact on what he thinks of himself.

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My Husband Is Not Romantic

My Husband Is Not Romantic

How I Found My Own Don Juan and Stopped Feeling Alone in My Marriage

By Mari-Jean Phillips-Anderson
Laura Doyle Certified Relationship Coach

I told my husband I wanted to write this blog and asked what he thought had changed for us since I first read The Surrendered Wife.

“Well,” he said, “It really helped you when I was in Afghanistan.” Nope, that was way before.

“Well,” he said, “It helped you when your sister died.” Nope, that was way before too.

He went on to mention several more incidents that preceded my introduction to Laura Doyle.

Pre-Laura Doyle, I would have gotten up and walked away in disgust, pitying myself for getting hooked up with this unseeing, unfeeling, uncaring entity.

But here’s the magic: I let him speak and, boy, were my eyes opened.

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How to Get Your Man’s Support for the Cherished for Life Weekend

How to Get your Mans Support

How to Get Your Man’s Support for the Cherished for Life Weekend

He’ll Be Happy and Helpful if You Use This Approach

I’ve gotten lots of emails about this recently. So, I decided that you can call me and ask me anything or join me live on FB (details below).

Let’s say you want to spend some money, leave town for a few days and maybe get your husband’s help with the kids while you’re gone.

And let’s say you want to do all of this without telling him exactly where you’re going and what you’ll be doing there.

How do you do that?

That’s the situation you may find yourself in as you’re trying to make arrangements to come to the Cherished for Life Weekend.

You want to come to the good-time getaway, hone your Intimacy Skills™ with all the other amazing women and renew your feminine spirit.

But you don’t want to tell your man all the details.

You’d like to give yourself some privacy as you’re starting out, and have room to experiment without him knowing everything just yet.

That’s understandable.

Fortunately, he doesn’t need to know everything to get behind the idea.

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My Husband Never Apologizes

Husband Never Apologizes

My Husband Never Apologizes

3 Ways to Make Him Take Responsibility and Stop Hurting You

Having your husband let you down or say something that hurts you is bad enough. But what if he won’t admit it and say he’s sorry?

You wonder whether he’s callous or just clueless.

The pain feels more intense when you think about how easily he could offer the words you’re longing to hear—but he won’t.

It makes you wonder: did he think it was okay to blame you that the car broke down then leave you stranded?

And what about those nasty things he said during a fight? Doesn’t he want to take them back?

And what part of “Having drinks with a female coworker is not okay” doesn’t he understand?

Why can’t he just admit he was wrong and apologize?

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Best Valentine’s Day Gifts for Husband

Valentine's Gifts for Husband

Best Valentine’s Day Gifts for Husband

The Astonishing Truth about What He Really Wants

Your husband doesn’t want flowers or chocolates for Valentine’s Day.

Red socks or silk boxers or even a six-pack of his favorite beer won’t be as romantic to him as getting what he really wants from you.

And I don’t mean sex, although he likely wants that too.

But there are three things he wants even more. Giving them to him will make February 14th loving and dreamy for you both.

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How I Stopped Breaking Up and Started Making Up

He keeps breaking up with me

What I Learned about Commitment That Made Me Stop Running Away

By Stefanie Herron, Laura Doyle Certified Relationship Coach

Every week, my boyfriend would drive six hours to pick me up. Then turn around and drive six hours back.

Now that was love.

Especially since we’d argue most of the way home. Only with the utmost restraint did I manage not to hurl myself out of the car.

I did, however, hurl myself out of more than one perfectly decent relationship. If my beloved didn’t behave according to my standards, I was gone, girl!

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Healthy Boundaries in Relationships

Healthy Boundaries in Relationships

Healthy Boundaries in Relationships

5 Bogus Facts about Boundaries that Everyone Thinks Are True

You have to set boundaries in relationships.

Everyone knows that.

But what if you don’t?

Since boundaries are places at the edge of countries where soldiers with guns stand to defend their territory, you’ve gotta ask yourself: Do I really want those in my marriage?

I know I don’t.

Barbed wire and gun turrets don’t do much for intimacy.

You might be thinking, “That’s a different kind of boundary,” but in my early marriage there wasn’t much difference. I meet lots of other women who are as confused as I was.

They say, “I set a boundary. I let him know it’s not okay to stay out late drinking with his friends and leave me at home alone with the kids.”

Or, “I told him he had to end his friendship with that woman at work because that was violating my boundary.”

Or, as I used to say, “I don’t appreciate being spoken to that way and I won’t accept you violating my boundary.”

Of course, I want to honor myself. I want to say how I’m feeling and what I want. I want to feel important and desired.

I want to be treated well.

Today I have all that in my marriage. But setting boundaries never helped me get there.

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