How Not Talking About Our Relationship Saved My Marriage

I admit that if anyone had told me not to talk about my relationship to my husband when I was newly married 26 years ago, I would have dismissed that person as a nut job. I probably would have smugly said, “We talk about everything.” You might be getting ready to put me in the… Read More »

Dial Back the Relationship Drama by Doing This

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In the bad old days, when my husband John and I used to fight all the time or have cold wars, there was plenty of relationship drama. It wasn’t much fun, but over time, I got used to it. Drama on the home front was my habit. When I finally discovered and started practicing The… Read More »

How to Get Your Wife to Stop Nagging

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As a former nagging shrew, I can tell you that it’s not an enjoyable pastime. It took me a long time to even realize I was nagging. I felt soooo justified. I was convinced that if I didn’t repeat myself and make lists for my husband and manage him, nothing would ever get done. When… Read More »

How To Hold Your Tongue Without Biting it Off!

Empowered Wife Julie “Have you ever met an attorney that didn’t love to argue? Me neither! Surprisingly, this is not always the best tool to use in a marriage. Even after this realization, I found myself struggling to hold my tongue- without biting it off!” –Julie When my first marriage ended, it left me crushed.… Read More »

How To Ask For What You Want In A Relationship

Expressing your desires is a deliciously fun skill because its rewards are two-fold. First it teaches you how to respond to the subtle yearnings of your own happiness, then it doubles back and gives you the connection, passion and intimacy you crave. By knowing what your heart wants and saying yes to it, you hold… Read More »

Words That Inspire Your Man

  Words have magic powers. The right words can restore peace and maintain your dignity while honoring your feelings. They can do all of this without persecuting anyone else. It takes skill to teach your husband the finer points of treating you tenderly and lovingly. Once you learn the basics, intimacy comes naturally. Only you… Read More »

How to Get More Help and Housework from Hubby

Dear Laura, I am the only breadwinner at my house. I desperately want to respect my husband, but I have a VERY hard time not resenting that I have to work to earn all the money and that I end up doing all the housework too. He watches the children, which is a lot, but… Read More »

Truly Terrible Relationship Advice Award: 1st Place and Honorable Mention

Check out this truly terrible advice from Dr. Howard J. Markman of the University of Denver, who wrote in The Huffington Post last week with great enthusiasm (two exclamation points worth) that “while many people associate nagging with women, that view predates the women’s movement and the explosion of research on couples, and is, in… Read More »