Marriage Advice, Relationship Advice, Tips, and Help Articles
What you focus on increases. That’s the law of attraction at its core, and it’s my experience in my relationship too, and what I witness with my clients. When I repeatedly suggested my husband ask for a raise at work, what I was really saying was, “You don’t make enough money.” Eventually, he stopped making… Read More »
Shana was upset with her husband when she got home to find the kids eating candy and playing on the iPad while he worked in the yard. “I just can never count on him when I want to go out. He says he’s taking care of the kids and then I come home to this!”… Read More »
When my marriage was miserable, I was always looking for clues about how to fix it. I desperately wanted to find some key information that I could use to stop my husband from being the biggest loser-pants on the planet. And in a way, that’s what happened. Sorta. I finally found the right information, and… Read More »
I used to think that having a happy marriage was a direct result of marrying the right person. Now I know better. Of course, it helps to marry someone who delights you, but all brides are delighted to marry their husbands on their wedding day. So it’s likely that you did marry someone who delights… Read More »
Empowered Woman – Courtney I first met my husband at the tender age of 21. We had a whirlwind romance and got engaged only four months after officially becoming boyfriend and girlfriend. Six months after our engagement, we were married. I felt like he was the most amazing man I’d ever met–he was funny, smart,… Read More »
Being married to a man who was once affectionate and thoughtful, but isn’t anymore, is painful and heartbreaking. I still remember what that was like. It hurts just thinking about it, even though that was years ago. But what if the underlying problem was something you could fix pretty quickly, once you knew how? Because… Read More »
OOn the Empowered Wife Podcast, I give out The Worst Relationship Advice of the Week Award. There’s never a shortage of bad advice to choose from, and most of it sounds like harmless conventional wisdom, some from well-known experts. But bad relationship advice is harmful. I know from applying some of these ineffective suggestions in… Read More »
Everybody knows marriage is a 50-50 partnership, but what if it isn’t? What if one of you is wrecking the marriage and the other person is just responding in kind? Sure, both people are suffering and stressed, but what if one person has the key? Surprisingly, that’s what I see in my relationship coaching practice… Read More »
When Laura and I first met, she was a 21-year old journalism student at San Jose State University. She had just gone to an event downtown and was dressed to the nines. Having just gotten back from the beach, I was gross and sandy. I had parked my pickup truck and was walking toward my… Read More »
Cheryl Three years and two dismal divorces ago, I finally met the man of my dreams! Mike and I get along great, make each other laugh, thoroughly enjoy each other’s company, and my friends and family always comment on how happy we look. Nothing was really wrong with our relationship, and we could’ve continued this way, except… Read More »
