Husband Drinks Too Much

Husband Drinks Too Much

Husband Drinks Too Much

3 Ways to Get Him to Pick You Over Alcohol

Like anyone who drinks too much, your husband gets annoying and stupid when he’s intoxicated.

It might be nice if he never did that, but the bigger question is whether your man’s drinking is over the line.

Maybe he drinks every night, or drinks to oblivion on a regular basis, or gets mean when he drinks.

Maybe he’s missed work, family events, or had run-ins with the law from drinking. Maybe when he gets started he just keeps going on a bender for weeks.

Aren’t those indications that he’s got a problem?

And if he’s got a serious problem, then doesn’t that mean you have one too, since you’re married to a problem drinker, or maybe even an alcoholic?

It’s scary to think about, because we’ve all heard about the financial, emotional, and health problems drunks cause themselves and their families.

But does it have to be that way?

In my experience, wives have tremendous influence over their husband’s drinking. Knowing how to use that influence wisely can make a huge difference.

(Actually, this works for any behavior you want to influence.)

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How I Single-Handedly Saved My Broken Marriage

How I Single-Handedly Saved My Broken Marriage

What I Wish Every Woman Knew About Relationships, But Most Don’t
By Kathy Murray, Senior Relationship Coach

When my second marriage was on the brink of divorce, I tried going to marriage counseling, but that didn’t get my marriage in any better shape.

It didn’t make my husband show interest in me, like I wanted him to.

It didn’t make him discipline the children the way I wanted him to.

It certainly didn’t improve our sex life.

In my desperation, I also read dozens of books about how to be successful in marriage.

Sometimes I couldn’t relate to the author at all. Or I would nod as I read, but still have no idea how to fix those problems I just mentioned.

The effects have lasted for over 15 years.

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How I Divorced My Imaginary Husband (and Got the Man of My Dreams)

The Man of My Dreams

How I Divorced My Imaginary Husband (and Got the Man of My Dreams)

Could this one habit be blocking a passionate, playful marriage?
By Sarah Ellis

I used to be married to a figment of my imagination.

My imaginary husband was very affectionate. He always greeted me with a huge smile, and hug and a kiss when he walked through the door.

He was very romantic. He bought me flowers and chocolate and prepared candlelit dinners and wrote me love letters to express his devotion to me.

He always knew just the way to comfort me when I was down. He would say, “Honey, I’m so sorry you are feeling this way. What can I do to make you feel better?”

He always offered to clean the kitchen after dinner and never left a mess.

He replaced light bulbs and fixed broken parts as soon as I asked him–or even before I asked him.

He was so punctual and always accompanied me to events, arriving perfectly on time.

He was a spiffy dresser, just like my brother. He never had a stain, and I was always proud of the way he looked.

He was just like my father: really frugal with his money, never buying frivolous things like sweets and sodas and, of course, never feeding that junk to our children.

He always agreed with me and complimented me on my intelligence and ingenuity.

He always knew what to do, and never made mistakes or got us lost.

My imaginary husband was absolutely perfect–just the way I wanted him to be.

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Is There Hope for My Marriage?

Is There Hope for My Marriage?

Is There Hope for My Marriage?

5 Questions to Definitively Know Right Now

If you’re asking yourself if there’s hope for your marriage, it means you’re going through a lot of heartache. After all, no one asks that about a marriage that’s full of hand-holding and sweet nothings.

That question only comes up when you’re incredibly hurt and angry, and you’ve been feeling that way for a long time.

Even though it was long ago, I still remember feeling that way, and it was lousy.

I remember thinking there was no way things were going to improve and it was completely hopeless because he was not going to change.

Of course, I was wrong. Things could improve, and they did–beyond my wildest dreams.

And wouldn’t you know it–I was the one who had the power all along, just like Dorothy.

But what about your situation?

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The 30-Day Relationship Revitalization Plan

Revive Relationship

The 30-Day Relationship Revitalization Plan

From Tense and Distant to Playful and Passionate in one Month

Can a relationship really turn around in just a month when it’s been struggling along or falling apart for years?

It definitely can, but only if the wife gets the right information and applies it. She holds the key.

It won’t help if the husband tries to apply it, and this isn’t for couples.

But any woman can use this 30-day plan to stop the bickering and get back the sizzle.

But what if the husband or boyfriend is the real problem, you might wonder?

I’m glad you brought that up because that’s the beauty of this 30-day plan: He will change too as you implement it, even if he doesn’t know you’re implementing it.

It won’t be hard work, but it will take some focus and energy, like everything in life that’s worthwhile.

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Divorce Impact on Kids

Effects of Divorce on Children

Effects of Divorce on Children

5 Ways to Protect Your Kids from the Nastiness and Heartbreak

You don’t need me to tell you how hard divorce is on your kids.

You already know, and it’s absolutely no help to your little people for you to be curled into a shame ball about how it might hurt their confidence, learning and social development.

You getting stuck in shame isn’t going to make your family happy again, or protect your kids from the effects of seeing the two most important people in their world fighting and distant.

So by the power vested in me as a woman who has spent her fair share of time curled into a shame ball over screwing up her marriage, I hereby absolve you of all that embarrassment.

You’re doing the best you can under the circumstances, and clearly you love your kids, or you wouldn’t be reading this blog.

You’re a good mom doing your best for them.

You probably left your marriage at least partly because you thought it was best for your kids.

Here’s something important to think about: there are things you can do to ease your kids’ transition, to save them additional heartbreak.

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Mom Acts Like 3-Year-Old and Gets What She Wants

Mom Acts Like 3-Year-Old and Gets What She Wants

By Stefanie Herron, Laura Doyle Certified Coach

I love eavesdropping on my three year old and his cousin. She’s four, so naturally, she assumes a position of superiority. Here’s one of their conversations:

4 year old: “You have to do whatever I say, okay?”
3 year old: “But I don’t want to!”

[Copious screaming ensues.]

I don’t blame him. That’s exactly how I feel when someone tells me what to do.

For example, my mother innocently suggested that I drive safely as I was leaving the house with my toddler. Now, I didn’t take to the streets like Evel Knievel, but I did notice a little demon prodding me to drive however I darn well pleased.

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