My Husband Never Apologizes

Husband Never Apologizes

My Husband Never Apologizes

3 Ways to Make Him Take Responsibility and Stop Hurting You

Having your husband let you down or say something that hurts you is bad enough. But what if he won’t admit it and say he’s sorry?

You wonder whether he’s callous or just clueless.

The pain feels more intense when you think about how easily he could offer the words you’re longing to hear—but he won’t.

It makes you wonder: did he think it was okay to blame you that the car broke down then leave you stranded?

And what about those nasty things he said during a fight? Doesn’t he want to take them back?

And what part of “Having drinks with a female coworker is not okay” doesn’t he understand?

Why can’t he just admit he was wrong and apologize?

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Best Valentine’s Day Gifts for Husband

Valentine's Gifts for Husband

Best Valentine’s Day Gifts for Husband

The Astonishing Truth about What He Really Wants

Your husband doesn’t want flowers or chocolates for Valentine’s Day.

Red socks or silk boxers or even a six-pack of his favorite beer won’t be as romantic to him as getting what he really wants from you.

And I don’t mean sex, although he likely wants that too.

But there are three things he wants even more. Giving them to him will make February 14th loving and dreamy for you both.

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How I Stopped Breaking Up and Started Making Up

He keeps breaking up with me

What I Learned about Commitment That Made Me Stop Running Away

By Stefanie Herron, Laura Doyle Certified Relationship Coach

Every week, my boyfriend would drive six hours to pick me up. Then turn around and drive six hours back.

Now that was love.

Especially since we’d argue most of the way home. Only with the utmost restraint did I manage not to hurl myself out of the car.

I did, however, hurl myself out of more than one perfectly decent relationship. If my beloved didn’t behave according to my standards, I was gone, girl!

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Healthy Boundaries in Relationships

Healthy Boundaries in Relationships

Healthy Boundaries in Relationships

5 Bogus Facts about Boundaries that Everyone Thinks Are True

You have to set boundaries in relationships.

Everyone knows that.

But what if you don’t?

Since boundaries are places at the edge of countries where soldiers with guns stand to defend their territory, you’ve gotta ask yourself: Do I really want those in my marriage?

I know I don’t.

Barbed wire and gun turrets don’t do much for intimacy.

You might be thinking, “That’s a different kind of boundary,” but in my early marriage there wasn’t much difference. I meet lots of other women who are as confused as I was.

They say, “I set a boundary. I let him know it’s not okay to stay out late drinking with his friends and leave me at home alone with the kids.”

Or, “I told him he had to end his friendship with that woman at work because that was violating my boundary.”

Or, as I used to say, “I don’t appreciate being spoken to that way and I won’t accept you violating my boundary.”

Of course, I want to honor myself. I want to say how I’m feeling and what I want. I want to feel important and desired.

I want to be treated well.

Today I have all that in my marriage. But setting boundaries never helped me get there.

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My Husband Forgot Our Anniversary and It Was The Best Ever

Husban Forgot Anniversary

My Husband Forgot Our Anniversary and It Was The Best Ever

By Sheila Bernstein, Laura Doyle Certified Relationship Coach

Our anniversary starts like any other day. As far as I know, we do not have anything special planned.

On this morning, I ask myself, “How do I feel? What do I want?”

I feel full of happy reserves and a yummy lightness in my heart. I have been honoring what makes me happy with lots of delicious self-care and saying no to stressors.

What do I want? I want to celebrate our thirty-two-year anniversary.

I snuggle up to my hubby like an enamored schoolgirl and say, “Happy Anniversary, Baby. I am so happy you are my husband.”

He responds, “You better be. Wow, with all that’s going on, I forgot about it.”

How do I feel now?

Hurt! Disappointed! Angry!

How could he forget our anniversary after 32 years of marriage?

But rather than say that, I decide to use a certain gesture.

No, not that gesture!

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From a Crippling Crisis to Best Friends Again

My Husband My Best Friend

What I Learned from Becoming a Surrendered Wife

By Angie Kjellberg

In the spring of 2001 my marriage was in a very bad place.

We’d just had the worst fight of our six-year marriage and my husband took our son and left, saying he could provide a better life for him. I collapsed onto the kitchen floor sobbing.

We were lucky that my parents helped us have an intervention that night, and we both committed to trying again.

I came across The Surrendered Wife online after typing “Husband and Wife Games” in the browser.

I was looking for something to help us connect better. I read the free chapter and recognized my controlling mother instantly (sorry, mom), printed the free chapter and gave it to her the first chance I could.

Meanwhile, the subtitle of the book, “A Practical Guide to Finding Intimacy, Passion, and Peace with a Man” did resonate with me. I wanted that!

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My Lazy Husband Became My Selfless Hero

The Power of Gratitude

How I Improved My Marriage All By Myself

By Courtney Elder, Laura Doyle Certified Coach

A Smile a Day Kept Divorce Away

Have you ever met someone who just radiates positivity? Someone so happy and wonderful it makes you cringe?

That wasn’t me.

If you had known me BCE (Before Coaching Era), you’d know that I always had a complaint.

From the house not being clean enough to the kids being too loud, anything that happened in my life always had a negative spin.

My husband, on the other hand, is the eternal optimist. So whenever I had a complaint, it really rubbed him the wrong way.

Sometimes my issue would be about something general, but often it was about him or something he had done. He could never measure up to the idealistic image I had for how he should act.

For instance, it seemed like common sense that because my husband stayed home with our kids and I was out working, it was his job to maintain the house. For me, that included keeping it very clean every single day, having dinner on the table when I got home, and listening to all of my complaints about work.

Honestly, it’s pretty embarrassing to admit that’s how I felt, but years ago, I really did think those things were his job!

Do you think I had an intimate marriage? I sure didn’t. I was constantly unhappy, and he felt berated because he never measured up.

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